Hello Bonsaipetal, your husband doesn't like to told to end this relationship with this work mate, so he is not going to go to anymore counselling, believing he is doing nothing wrong, well he has put an enormous wedge between the two of you, and from history she is most likely telling him to do one thing which he says is in the process, but he won't do, then problems will develop between them.
At the moment he says he has no friends, that's obvious because all he wants is his own way and has no respect for you or your 2 kids, and for him to go away interstate with her is not acceptable.
I can't tell you what to do, but as someone wanting to help you, I can only suggest that you tell him to move out of the house and separate with the intention of ending this marriage.
I say this because if by any chance this relationship ends he will be looking out to form another one.
I know how you must be feeling and I'm so sorry, but you may be much happier away from him and realise that he has to fulfill his obligation in financial support for the teen kids.
I would also think about selling the house, but this can be discussed later on.
Geoff.
Life Member.
