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Confused and unsure
It sounds to me that she's looking for reasons to start an argument. Maybe she believes the best part of arguing is 'making up' after. Sorry to say this, but , not true. If you're constantly at each other's throats, your health will suffer. You start walking on egg shells to avoid another 'blow up'. That's not a relationship, that's competition to see how long before the next explosion happens. What do you both want from a relationship. You want one thing, she wants another. Can you live with knowing you never seem to quite measure up to whatever it is she wants. I would ask her what she wants from the relationship, if it is vastly different to your wants, step back, take 5. You both need to be happy and compatible.
They say 'love conquers all', but, only if you both want the same thing. Jess's right. Life's too short for dramas that are unnecessary.