Oh dear Lonelygirl2322.
It's not just his relationship - it's yours as well. Sometimes a partner will try to control the relationship by telling you that they are not happy or that they may want change. If your partner has doubts about the relationship, it's usually because of their insecurity or low self-esteem/self-worth and they usually also forget that by neglecting you needs emotionally and physically, this causes you to feel anything but happy - this is a form of emotional abuse.
Best thing to do - is to focus on you and look after yourself. It's very true because you need to be the best and happiest you can be. If you're not displaying happiness, then some partners may without realising feel that they them selves are not happy - it's similar to cause and effect - they become reliant on you to fulfil their internal happiness.
I have been through what you are dealing with so many times, I am not a professional, however, I have a lot of experience. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. You are the centre of your world until your partner can step up and fill that space. Communication is the most impart aspect to the relationship and you need to set boundaries in place so that your partner understands clearly that your relationship is not a dust-bin for his issues. Remember - you are the stronger and better one here. If he is depressed, he can seek mental health support to manage his emptions - your are not his emotional punching bag for his limited happiness in the relationship - he needs to make himself happy. But at the same times, you can be glowing and shinning a radius of happiness, for you and everyone else.
Please let us know how things go. Be strong - be mindful.
