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completely isolated and lonely in the city
Welcome to the bb Forum. I guess it's a pretty good first step. There are people here with all sorts of experiences, some no doubt rather like yours.
I'd imaging you have thought of various things to do, some more viable than others. I do know getting started is a hard thing.
I was invalided out of my career very young, and was devastated, lost my identity and became quite unwell. Due to family pressure I took up study, which gave me interests, occupation, social contact and identity. There are all sorts of study courses. Perhaps doing one could be an alternative. A random example would be genealogy, put out by a university as a on-line course, HECs fees waived. There are heaps, and one does not have to be a great scholar.
Another thing to do is on the National library's TROVE, editing old newspapers. Some people find this fascinating - anyone can do it who has the internet.
Assisting at charities is always good - even if moment is restricted, office-work, meals, sales.
Your dog could be an introduction to another sort of group.
Training and becoming a member of Lifelink or Lifeline can use many of an older person's experiences to the good.
The common thing with all of these suggestions is that they would -for me - have put me outside my comfort zone and maybe taken some setting up, particularly if movement or finances are limited. Study certainly was a change for me.
Can I suggest you have a browse around this Forum and see if you can find what others have done when faced with similar situations?
Please feel free to post as often as you'd like, you will be welcomed
Isol your story resonates with me. Because of various medical issues I have difficulties with mobility. My kids have moved out of home. Always had very few if at all friends, family scattered all over hardly ever seeing them. Never having much of a social life. I haven't been in the work force now in 18-19 years. I was a volunteer for ages I know if I wanted to I could return to that job. Because part of the work involved answering the phone, and another part was two way radio. Along with going to peoples homes doing all different types of disaster work> I was in The SES. There is always places to go, or things you can do. One activity I have found is trying to help people in BB forums. I might not always get it fantastically right, but I give it the old school try. There is always something we can do out where ever. For ourselves and for others. Croix has been a great support since I've been here. So a big welcome hope what I have said was a help.
Would you mind if I made a suggestion? I'm in the IT area and was a Uni educator in Computing for over 15 years.
Coding is essential, but the number of jobs in that area is not that great vs number of graduates. Firms also often look for experience. There are many other computer-related fields from Web Design, Graphics through to POS. I'm not sure of you reasons for selecting coding or of your physical capabilities. Similarly if you are planning on Uni or another type of institution to do your study.
I'd suggest shop around to find a course that has on-line content, student interaction and also a local presence if possible.
Time spent in researching this (ringing up Schools of Computing and explaining etc) may result in a useful course that occupies you, does not stretch your physical limitations too far, but still allows both on and off line interaction with others.
The academic year has already well started, but if you were looking at tertiary them semester II may be a go.
All Unis have a student welfare system that helps those with physical and mental disabilities.
My apologies if you have already though of all this.
I'm afraid I'll have to throw that one back at you, I'm out of touch - and was from a different area. What I do think is that a degree of detective work now, even if the phone bill goes up a bit, can pay dividends. If it was me I'd start on the web with the unis and see their course outlines from different schools, then make contact over the likely ones. Might take you a while.
Then there's the TAFEs. I guess from your point of view the main thing is that is has some human interaction as well as employment prospects (don't forget in many IT areas you would be competing with overseas)
The downside of any formal course is the time taken and associated living expenses. I do know firstly that a high proportion of graduates do not end up in jobs directly related to their degrees, and secondly there is maybe a little more social life the Arts-Humanities (Hard to say). You mentioned psychology, which seems to be even more maths than computing is.
Having one's career disappear is horrible, I was a policeman before I was invalided out. So I can understand how you feel.
Please keep on posting as often as you'd like