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can't seem to find a decent relationship
Getting into a decent relationship takes time and needs a bit of luck. Relationships don't work well if you hurry to get into one, so being patient is very important. It is good that you realise some good things about yourself, like being hardworking and have good sense of humour. Keep these with you and you will meet someone who finds these appealing. Engage in more social activities and know more people, so this will maximise your chances.
You are not the cup of tea for everyone, so naturally some will not keep in touch with you after knowing you further. Just like you turn away someone who is after your money. This does not necessarily mean you are a bad dater. However, it is wise to reflect on how you interacted with others. For example, it is great to be humourous, but could you unknowingly offend someone? Another thing is your eagerness to get into relationships can unknowingly pressurise others and scare them away. It is very important to take things slowly.
Hope that helps and good luck.
People may not want to start a new r/ship straight away, it takes time, gaining their trust and appreciating what they have themselves, and then slowly forming a connection. Geoff.
Oh.... as a girl who has played the dating field, (and thoroughly enjoyed it), I have learnt so much from it.
Are you doing the online dating thing Luke? Its a jungle out there. I have spoken to many men, who like you just want sincerity and honesty. Lovely men too. But not all works out. People are gutless and ghosting seems to be the way to break it off with people. That's unfair in my humble opinion. Many guys don't get given a chance, (women too). I have many dating stories of my own and from men who I have spoken to.
And I must say, most guys are not good at dating. You are all shy 16 year old boys forever when it comes to girls. So don't be too hard on yourself. (I hope I am not being offensive here either !!)
If they use you for money = boot them. Money can run out but love, respect, courtesy etc, (in my romantic girly mind), holds people together. I had a multimillionaire boyfriend who was neither respectful, caring or courteous but a self righteous so and so ! **booted** 😄
Just cruise, chat, date, chill, suss them out. Because that's exactly what they are doing to you.
**hugs** I waffle too much HAHAHA.
With age comes experience and I find I'm a much more comfortable dater than I was 10 years ago, but not quite as good looking now than I used to be, going bald for starters.
Tell you the truth, it was mental issue I had which prompted me to start this thread. I've been diagnosed with schizophrenia and have taken extra medication as a result. It has helped me, I feel much more positive and more carefree. I'm not as worried about getting rejected anymore, I treat online dating like job hunting, most of the time your resume (even if well written) will go in the garbage bin, a few maybe get a read with interest and then deciding someone else is better for the job, and I may get a date or an interview every 1 in 100 or so. This kind of thinking has allowed me to let go a lot and treat it casually and if I can hold a conversation or even catch up then that's a bonus!
My dad reckons a lot of them online are looking for men with money, a sugar daddy. Brutally honest but true. I don't have a lot of money myself. I've been asked what I do for work, I told them, and I'd never hear from them again.
Someone once said to me, you can be the juiciest, sweetest peach out there and still there's always going to be people that hate peaches, and I think that applies to dating 🙂 I think you have to stop looking at it as a type of blame game, "girls online only want men for money" etc and think of dating as a lock and key approach, everyone is just looking for that elusive fit, and that's ok. It's a big dating pool out there and you can't realistically give everyone a chance so women (and men) tend to be fairly quick with their judgements. Also, as a woman it's hard, we either get accused of not giving men a chance, or we do and get accused of leading them on and using them as a free meal ticket. Stick with it, we all find our person, and when you do, all the things that you weren't sure of or were trying to make fit, suddenly will. Good luck with it x