raLpHy boy, welcome to the forum. This is a kind place full of supportive people.
i am sorry it has taken a while to reply to you and this is something that can happen. It has nothing to do with your post which is valued by us,.
Well done for making your first post and reaching.
I can feel the pain in your words and the frustration you are feeling as you try to help your daughter and improve your relationship with your wife.
I have learnt through bitter experience that is important for husband and wife to be consistent with their children.
This is difficult when you and your wife seem to have conf,citing ideas of how to bring up your daughter.
I wonder have you sat down and explained how you want to try to make things work and how what you both feel you both can do to make things better.
Ahave you considered seeing a counsellor with your wife?
You love your family and want to make it work as you care about them.
I know it feel confusing and lonely but you have made a start.
By replying to you, your post will go to the front of the list and more people will see it.
Feel free to discuss this further if you want to, by posting here.
Quirky
