Hi Jayne. Your hubby seems to be at 6's and 7's wanting to take things one step at a time. Taking his AD's for his bipolar is important for his well being. That's a separate issue as far as his legal situation. Has he seen his Dr since he got into trouble? Perhaps you could make an appointment with his Dr and ask his advice as far as his refusal to take regular AD's. We all get angry when people push certain buttons and we say and do things we later regret. Until he sees his Dr and gets his AD's sorted, there's not a lot you can do. As far as this girl he's met on fb, it could be she is 'there' where he feels you're not. What I mean is, to him, she is offering the proverbial 'tea and sympathy' where you don't appear to be. I think your first call should be the Dr, he may possibly call hubby in and get the AD sorted. Once hubby is thinking clearly, hopefully, he will start to realize you're not the enemy. Being diagnosed with bipolar as with any defined mental illness, can be daunting. No-one likes think they could be 'mentally ill' (sorry if that is offensive), the stigma is scary. However, hopefully his Dr can help him accept he is definitely not mentally ill, and the AD's will stabilize him, he will accept for himself that he just needs help and it's nothing to feel ashamed of or guilty of.
Lynda
