over the years, my husband has pointed out traits in my family he didnt
like, i am the person who just accepts and moves on. as time went on,
any issue i had my husband pointed out to his fmaily, which i didnt like
because i felt many times they didn...
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over the years, my husband has pointed out traits in my family he didnt
like, i am the person who just accepts and moves on. as time went on,
any issue i had my husband pointed out to his fmaily, which i didnt like
because i felt many times they didnt need to know which only makes
things uncomfortable. my husband is direct, and would rather air it out
than consider feelings/people/personalities etc.now over time recently,
he has reached out to my dad who has been the root to many issues on my
side, this year 4 times in which my dad did not recipicate the hand out
to him, my dad was/is a naracaccist, would complain about everyone
(includling his family) to everyone, my husband included.after my dad
did what he did over the years to my husband, my husband had enough..
the last event he stormed out at xmas and stated he wouldnt return to
anything again. the 4 times my husband reached out, was for me.. and
then after that he said no more.now that its reality my husband has cut
them off, they have sadly learnt their lesson too late.. and i see that
and my parents have admitted their faults and want to apologies to move
on, my husband has again stated no. he never stops me from visiting, he
never says a bad word, but he has said no to their contact, to them
coming to our home, to our son sleeping over there, to anything that
involves them 1 on 1 time with our son etc. its hard, my son loves
spending time with them, but he too know whats happened and loves his
dad also. now comes an event on my husbands side, who have invited my
parents, my husband said there is no reason they shouldnt attend.. .my
parents dont want to attend is my husband doesnt feel comfortable even
speaking to them. they dont understand how he will be OK with them there
if he choose to cut them off. he doesnt understand why they wont go for
his families sake. all i pray for is for my husband to sit down with
them, let out his feelings for them to hear what they have done and move
on. im not asking for best friends, nothing could ever be the same
again. but my parents are getting older, and i dont want to regret
anything as days and people slowly go on in life. my husband states
thats his lesson to learn in life, but i feel i recent him for being so
stubborn now, but i also understand how he feels too. i have told my
parents, its not fair that my husband look like the bad one now when in
fact he gave many chances, and now that hes done everyone forgets the
person he was before they hurt him. i dont understand how my husband can
cut them out like that, esp when they are my family. in the past, my
husbands family have bothered me, even though my husband dealtwith them
in his own way, i moved on. ;like him i didnt forget, as i have the
mentality they are family at the end of the day and its not like i
married them and have to live with them. the more i try explain the
empathy to let go to my husband the more he cracks back down to no, he
tried and will not allow them back. and now sadly, i loose family day at
my parents for christmas, all special events, seeing my nephews and
nieces grow up and play with my son, many things as those are more
important to me then being able to let go.im struggling to move forward
and not think about this daily and have begun resenting my husband and
his choice. he cant understand how i feel this way and i feel lost not
being able to talk to anyone about it as noone understands and everyone
just insists i tell my husband to stop.
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