Hi UO, welcome
Ok, totally understand. Briefly, my mother did similar and ruined my first wedding, manipulated our beautiful father against us kids and damaged us psychologically beyond repair.
For decades she succeeded in leaving a train wreck wherever she went. Then one day a friend suggested I read a book called "walking on egg shells by Dr Christine Lawson. ..and I read about my mother word for word.
Buy the book or google
Waif witch hermit queen
They are the four characters the Dr describes that make up the mental illness chonic Borderline Personality Disorder (apologies to bpd suffeters getting treatment I commend you)
One doesnt need all four characters to be destructive.
My sister and I both (after begging mother to get help) disowned our mother in hope we could find a stable happy life. We did, we formed some basic family rules eg support each other, no using mothers techniques like manipulation, yelling, ringing while at work, emotional blackmail or bribing.
It came at a cost. We lost several relatives. She contacted our friends. She even reporyed my sister to DHS for child abuse when it was fabricated-revenge.
The power of suvh people is immense but once contact is cut completely they lose that power fully. If you return they win again. A year or two and the train wreck returns.
I recommend that google above and feel free to repost as any such developments will be traumatic and we are here to help.
You can always repost here on this thread and when you do it goes back to the top ready for another reply.
TonyWK
