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Another Lonely, Lonely Day !
Hi Larli, welcome
It is very sad, but more common than we realise.
Of course there must have been issues between you and your daughter than made it come to this. My 27yo daughter and I are estranged and in the end I severed our relationship due to emotional abuse- that her mother was a master at. My eldest daughter 30yo split from her mother at 18yo and has never had the desire to reconnect.
So there are some people that, once they split there is no turning back although my youngest and I had numerous meetings over a 14 years period before I called it a day- the hardest thing I've had to do to preserve my mental health.
What is the answer? I have to say- it is distraction and variety. It wont heal the scars but it will lessen the impact on your life. Fully filling your life with activities distracts you from thinking about what you dont have. Variety adds different focus on things around you. Eg we go caravaning in a van I built. Even if we go 2 hours away to the Murray river, we are doing something that distracts us.
As for your family not relaying information, from your angle it is cruel, from theirs it is being loyal to what your daughter has asked. They choose not to be the meat in the sandwich which is fair to not expect them to be.
The only question I have is- have you tried to make amends? written letters etc. Are you willing to explain the circumstances of your split? And can you accept if others here have views that might not always be sympathetic to your position?
I wish you well
I acknowledge this can be very distressing for you as you are having issues with your own daughter. However I personally, isnt affected by people much now. I am just 26yo man, but I had a lot of strained relationships too. After all this experience, people are the last things which can bother me.
DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THE THINGS WHICH ARE BEYOND YOUR CONTROL. WHAT YOUR DAUGHTER THINKS IS BEYOND YOUR CONTROL.
MOREOVER YOU NEED NOT FEEL GUILTY ABOUT THE PAST. I am sure you must have tried hard to make some amends. However if you have done that several times, and still not getting a positive response, I believe continuing that is FUTILE, and will bring you more anxiety and depression.
I would advise you to talk with your friends, or join some interest clubs etc. to release the feelings of loneliness.
So How are you doing!?? How is life going on!?
Thats nice to know!!!
Life gets better soon... Unfortunately life has become boring for all due to this pandemic. Hope normalcy will restore soon. Australia is doing pretty well in controlling the spread of the pandemic. I think we should be able to lead normal lives soon!