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Am I overreacting?
Also, I've finally introduced him to my parents. I've moved in with him - but he still lies and its bothering me so much.
Just to give instances of how his lies have affected me:
In those 4 months when I asked him why he didnt want kids and marriage anymore - he gaslighted me and then went on about he needs to find an older companion. Gut feeling told me it was someone else - so I asked him - he then continued to say no. When I went to his place to pick some of my stuff up - I see a new stud100 bottle and asked him what is it for - he then tells me its for his hair and proceeds to say "why am I torturing myself when theres no one".
We had booked aus open tickets before break up - so we were going to meet up in January. He then tells me he is going to brisbane that australia day weekend, and wont make it. I tell him I cant refund it and to book an early flight back. He then changes his mind and says he got a charter plane back and can make it. So he kept reminding me that he did all that to make the aus open with me. I then find out through the girls insta that they went to wilsons prom that weekend. But even until now - he still denies and says he went to brisbane and girl is posting lies. But then he cant provide any proof he went to brisbane for a business trip during australia day. But now I know for a fact he never went because of what other people have said - but guess what, he still denies it and calls it bullshit - when the facts are there.
Last xmas and ny, I didnt go overseas to spend time with family because the plan was to spend it with him. Only for him to spend it with "someone else". I quote "someone else" because he denies he spent it with her and her family - but can't even keep the story straight when he talks about spending Xmas with a guy named "dennis". And he still hasn't come out honest.
Theres a pic on the girls insta about a restaurant me and him used to go to - he vehemently denies he took her there and that she was probably with sisters. But there's no chance - because that place is not really a go to area.
He denies the girl meant anything. He told her that he didnt want anything serious - but then I find out he got her earrings for Xmas and a valentines gift (bec apparently she never received a valentines before - so he felt sorry). He says he never held her hand, and that when they went to on weekends away - her friends were there and they all slept in the lounge room even though the places they booked had individual rooms.