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I would not listen to your ex.. you are a Devine being and it's hard when people pick on you. But relationships can become confronting but it's unfair totally of him to judge you.
you are beautiful and need to tell yourself that. Your body and mind will listen to your heart. It takes time but you will get there. Go easy on yourself and keep reaching out to your friends and family. People love you. Please take care xx
If the breakup was amenable then you wouldn't be having these feelings, but as it was in a traumatic way then everything he said has hit a nerve and making you feel that you won't meet somebody else, but don't forget you meet him, or more important he met you, irrespective of why you broke up.
Have you thought about some other chap/s who were upset because you were in a r/ship, because they only wanted to ask you out, well, now they have the chance, and any way don't forget what could happen around the corner, take pride in yourself, continue to dress up the way you love to, your ex is now your ex, and remember this new chap maybe asking his mates on how he can approach you, because he's frightened he may upset you.
Go for it, but don't stay back. Geoff.
Thankyou for the thoughtful advice. It is true you never know what's around the corner, thinking back I never knew I'd meet him and could never predict how it ended. I think sometimes I feel like I can so accurately predict the future (in a negative way) and have to realise I can't know what's going to happen,hopefully it's better then what's in my mind version. When I think about him I know it's terrible but I don't want him to be happy ever because of what pain he's caused me and I know I need to forgive him because the hate is only causing me more pain in the long run. I wish you could completely erase someone from your mind like eternal sunshine of the spotless mind .
Ahhh you poor thing, I remember going through this after a rough breakup as well. I remember wondering why it was taking me SO long to get over it, feeling ugly, worthless, alone, not wanting to be around....but the good news is that none of this is true!
Yes, its just your mind trying to deal with grief, heartache and a nasty situation in which this happened. It's a hard place to get out of but go easy on yourself.
You are not worthless at all. You came here to talk, which is a great step forward. Also, its hard to do this, but try not to take what your Ex said to you to heart. They said this on purpose to be cruel and inflict pain on you. It's important to try and not take it on board and talk to friends or family who DO love you and ask them if you're 'below average looking' because I can tell you now, you aren't. Everyone has something beautiful about them, they just often can't see it themselves.
Don't worry about thinking nasty thoughts about him, that's all part of breaking up! Just don't dwell on them for too long and don't act on them : )
Come back and chat and let us know how you're doing, even if it doesn't seem like it right now, you WILL get through this and be better for it in the end.
Lady Lazarus x
Thankyou for your reply. It is in a way good to hear other people go through similiar feelings and end up coming out the other side improved. I try to think even though I am below average (I can't ask my friends because they will lie) and it's harder to attract a partner I have somehow managed to have a mutual attraction with 3 boyfriends so there must be one thing not totally bad about me (Im not rich) It's just hard thinking the one guy I loved I wasn't good enough for, it really hurts...