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Alone again- not feeling good
Welcome to Beyond Blue.
My first thought was why not advertise that room to be filled by someone else. You can then interview candidates and find the right fit, hopefully someone you will get on with as much as the other person.
You might also benefit from putting yourself out there and getting involved in the community somehow. Anything to feel less lonely right?
I hope others jump on board to offer you some suggestions also.
I know what it's like to feel lonely, I myself was never fortunate to marry & have kids & everyone else my age seemed to have settled down.
For a time there I joined a gym which helped me for a while there. I'd made some new friends and would do the occasional dinner out or fun run.
Is there an activity that you like to do or perhaps a hobby?
Probably leasing out the room again would be a good idea. Especially when you can speculate the type of person you'd like to see apply.
Hope this helps.
Hi op .
l hear what your saying l've been through a lot of it myself too the last 7yrs after marriage. l know by the sounds of it you probably weren't married but sometimes l think it's worst to have had it and lost anyway yaknow. And now l feel as if l don't make a decision about someone soon l waste more years then it's too late .
Not sure if your interested in meeting someone if it was to happen but ever used a date site. ? Seems to be the way these days and with the computer world people seem to be getting more and more isolated so it might be a way of getting out or opportunity for you without even getting out .
If you liked the sharing thing too maybe you could look for someone that wants something long term next. Lotta people out there getting older but don't own a place probably looking to just settle in somewhere if you get along they might stay forever.
Another thing crossed my mind a few years back was taking in a foster care child because they were advertising a lot and really needed the carers and l love kids and hate knowing they're in that situation . Didn't in the end because my daughter comes and goes a bit, not enough , but she was only 16 then went through the divorce l thought maybe having some strange kid here might upset her so l didn't do it. Being male to l'd probably be grilled so much by the agency beforehand it's probly not worth bothering with so all thing considered l passed in the end.
Anyway , just a few thoughts, hang in there.
I was thinking perhaps you could organise a hobby club. There is a website called, "meetup" where people start up meet up groups for all sorts of activities. A number of them just hold meetings at alternating members homes. You would be surrounded by lots of people with a common interest to you and when someone moves away next, it will come as less of a blow because you will still have lots of familiar faces still around to keep you company. It doesn't even have to be a hobby. It could be a "sip tea and chat club" if you prefered.