Hi, welcome
I'm sure she know the situation. A simple text often is sufficient. "Thinking of you" or "I love you" is enough.
Also feel happy that she has many people surrounding her, it is about her now and if she is happy that is soooo important. Your feelings of inadequacy is understandable but not realistic, the alcohol does twist ones thinking.
My wife has an aunty, she is 30 years sober and was bannished 20 years ago by the family. A few years ago my wifes mother died and before that in the hospital her mother asked if she could notify her sister so she could visit. She did and there was my wife, her aunty and mum all around the hospital bed joking and full of love before she passed. Since then my wife and her aunty have been close and we dont care that the rest of the family still are not talking to her aunty. So I fully understand the hurt of being excluded but rest assured your heart is there and that is very important for your mum.
INNER CARE
Your body might well not be around
But your spirit is the loudest sound
Absence from the party and that crowd
Maybe true but it screams so loud
They not have faith as the drink has scars
And there is left over meat that was yours now charred
But your mum knows your love is there
And her greatest gift is your inner care...
TonyWK
