Hello Ashley, thanks for posting your comment.
I realise how upset, and deservedly so, you must have felt after discovering what was going on behind your back and know that your lack of confidence and trust in your husband makes you feel unsafe in this marriage, this could be the cause of anxiety.
Now you have got back together doesn't mean anything just yet because firstly you need help from your doctor on ways on how to heal from this insecurity and distrust which are essential for your marriage.
They may refer you onto a psychologist, using a 'mental health plan', where you will be entitled to Medicare rebates for up to 10 sessions.
No matter how much love you have for your husband, he may come up short from time to time, so if you have done the work on yourself
so that you know what you want out of life, it will hurt less and you
will find peace from the mess much sooner, that's how a psychologist can help you.
You aren't able to do this yourself, because there will be many questions that go through your mind, such as 'what if' or where has he been for so long, or do I need to check his phone.
You will move forward once you have gained his trust again, once this happens then your anxiety will drop off and whether you want to know why this happened is entirely up to you, but remember you need to look after yourself.
Hope to hear back from you.
Geoff.
