Hi. This is my first post but I need to get this off my chest. I am a university student. I am set to graduate mid next year. I can not afford to move out until then. (I do have a job but it is only part-time). Lets get started.
- 3 years ago my step father made several sexual advances and comments towards me. He also purchased various sexual items and inappropriately asked me to use them and tell him how I used them, etc. I only told my mother about this three days ago. It elicited a mixed response, with her mostly being upset I didn't tell her earlier. I felt helpless, I could not tell anyone because I knew he would hurt me. Today, he told me to 'stop being the victim' and get over it.
- My step father has (mostly) emotionally and (on a few occasions) physically abused my mother for as long as I can remember. (He moved in with us when I was 4). He yells at her in public, at home, and uses obscenities every time, absolutely deteriorating her self-worth and mental health beyond what little there was left from her troubled childhood. He controls her finances and she has no friends.
- My mother growing up was extremely protective of me as I was born 22 weeks premature and to a schizophrenic father, so naturally she was very cautious about what I was doing/what was happening to me. This resulted in me feeling extremely alone and helpless because of her constant problem-picking, often telling me I was the reason for the issues in their relationship (my step father has said this as well). I have been staying at my boyfriends place for the past week to just get away from it all. I have since spoken to both of them, whom of which they have apologized, yet told me that I am the reason for a lot of this happening. Confronting me alone, my step father told me to get over it all and told me to think about what I've done in ruining their relationship.
I have the option of moving in with my boyfriend and his family. They are aware of what has happened and do not want me living in such a toxic environment that certainly affects my own lack of self-worth, depression and severe anxiety. Frankly, I can't take it anymore.
What should I do?
