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A space for people aged 12-25 to discuss life. If you’re over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect.

Guest_07716142 How do you cope with the worry of never being able to buy your own home or live without a housemate?
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My lease ends in the new year and I've been trying so save as much as I can to get a house deposit with my partner, but no matter how much I save the price keeps going up and now I may need to find a new rental as well because they could be selling. ... View more

My lease ends in the new year and I've been trying so save as much as I can to get a house deposit with my partner, but no matter how much I save the price keeps going up and now I may need to find a new rental as well because they could be selling. I'm just feeling very overwhelmed and stressed that I'll never get to that next chapter in my life and that i could possibly be bringing my partner down too due to my income.

kittyclaws23 wanting to cut off a friendship
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Hi,I am turning 17 this year, and I have a best friend who we can call M. M is the same age as me and we have been friends for 6 years at this point. But recently the start of the year, I feel as though I don't want to be as close friends with her. T... View more

Hi,I am turning 17 this year, and I have a best friend who we can call M. M is the same age as me and we have been friends for 6 years at this point. But recently the start of the year, I feel as though I don't want to be as close friends with her. This is due to three main reasons. 1. She had a habit since we were in year 7 to copy off me. This escalated into her straight up asking me to make her cheatsheets in math instead of helping and submitting my english homework as her own. 2. I understand she is going through a hard time currently and struggling with her mental health. I don't know if she means to be hurtful to me but sometimes it feels as though she is trying to embarrass me. She vents a lot and I vented to, and we have never told anyone what we told each other which I appreciate and respect. She genuinely just doesn't listen to advice I give her sometimes, I would tell her that she should try a different approach or maybe be wary of this person.3. She invites herself to plans I make with others. It genuinely has reached a point where I don't want to tell her I hung out with other friends because she'll jokingly asked why she wasn't invited and whatnot and make a deal out of it, or if she does invite herself, she changes the plans to match what she has in mind.BUT I am no better. While some situations I have communicated that she should stop doing this, it takes another three times for her to actually listen. I think I brought up stepping back slightly in our friendship in the past, but that never really changed anything. I'm tired of communicating, and I will acknowledge that makes me a bad friend because if I really cared about this friendship I would communicate. I also am friends with somebody who I told M I was mad at because this friend ignored me but apologised and now we are friends again, which is fake of me. I also vented to a friend about this (I will call them E), I was crying over the phone. The whole reason I started venting is because E off-handedly said that M was talking to her and said "Oh trust me you don't want (me) in your english class." Then followed up with a joke reason. I don't know why I started crying but I told E that I helped M so much in english it hurt to hear that. But I still shouldn't have vented because Iooking back I feel like I have no right to vent because I am just as bad as M.I really need advice on what to do because I have a year of highschool with M left and am wondering if its worth worrying over.

six I didn’t get in to my dream high school and now I feel lost
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About three weeks ago I tried out for a school volleyball team at this school you do four periods a day and two of said periods are your sport of choice practice being a slightly alternative way of learning it is also the only one of its kind in my c... View more

About three weeks ago I tried out for a school volleyball team at this school you do four periods a day and two of said periods are your sport of choice practice being a slightly alternative way of learning it is also the only one of its kind in my country/state literally . I’ve been doing volleyball for about a year now and it’s safe to say I don’t know who I would be without it the school I’m at currently is somewhere I feel I don’t belong, I have dealt with countless other issues surrounding friendships and mental health I’ve spent two years at this school and I knew I wanted out my parents found the school I tried out for and suddenly it felt like all the work I did to keep my grades above the expectations and my absences as low as possible through the last two terms would finally amount to something it felt like there was a light at the end of the tunnel after two years of barely being able to be at school because of anxiety I had finally worked hard enough that I could make into my dream school. Then came the trial I worked so hard the weeks before that with how anxious I felt my whole body tensed up the same feeling you would get after pushing your body too far in the gym it hurt to sit up in bed. Finally after a week of pain my body had calmed down just in time for the trial still sore but 100 times better no matter what angle I look at it and over think it again and again I can’t find anything that could have given the school a reason to reject me there was only four other people trying out and I couldn’t think of anything I did terribly wrong I’m saying this as someone who is very hard on themselves and pushes to go above and beyond I don’t think I made it that far at the trial but I know I was not far enough off the only thing me and my family could think of was that it was my absences from the year before and semester one, and I’m angry and upset as we tried to give them recommendation letters for this very reason so it hopefully would be a problem but the school didn’t want them. it’s been three weeks since the Friday I found out the news and to be honest I fell into what feels like a depressive episode and the only thing I’ve been able to do is push down the though I didn’t get in to my dream school every time it comes up I know this is no way to help myself but it’s all I’ve been able to do recently It felt like I had lost all direction I’m not one to let go of something once I’ve grasped it once so I’ve stood my ground with my parents and I’m going to email the school and ask why I didn’t make the cut I don’t plan on begging I just need it for me this is what my councillor recommended to do if I felt I needed it I don’t know if ill be able to let go and if I will be happy at whatever school and end up o still feel a loss of direction. (please forgive the lack of punctuation and spelling mistakes aswell as the poorly explained rant? lol ) thank you six

Sexuality and gender identity

Peer support and conversations about anxiety, depression and other issues in the mental health space affecting LGBTQI+ people.

Isme1234 Am I gay
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I am so confused! for the past few years my labido has reduced. partially from prostate cancer treated with radiation. and partly from lost trust due to ex wife’s infidelities. before that i was a very sexual person. i did have my curiosity for same ... View more

I am so confused! for the past few years my labido has reduced. partially from prostate cancer treated with radiation. and partly from lost trust due to ex wife’s infidelities. before that i was a very sexual person. i did have my curiosity for same sex and after a few years of being single I gave in and tried sex with another man. the physical side was beyond amazing however I could not get that emotional connection. i am now remarried years later to opposite gender and love the intimacy however I don’t seem to be able to be aroused with her. I have seen specialist and have been told it’s all in my head so that leaves me to question myself AM I GAY???

waffle_puppy I feel like I'd like to be a boy?
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Hi again! So recently I've been questioning my gender for a few weeks, and I've asked myself various questions such as "Would it be better for me?" or "Would I be happier in my body?" and I honestly feel as if I could be free if I was a boy. Every ti... View more

Hi again! So recently I've been questioning my gender for a few weeks, and I've asked myself various questions such as "Would it be better for me?" or "Would I be happier in my body?" and I honestly feel as if I could be free if I was a boy. Every time I glance in the mirror, I don't see a girl as I used to anymore; and I feel like a boy is staring back at me, or at least I'd like to see that one day. I've begun to feel uncomfortable with my body and every single time I wear something feminine, or even get called "she" I feel absolutely horrendous and awful on the inside, or even being called by the name I was given makes me feel disgusted and sad. I'm afraid of the fact that my parents might hate me for wanting to be a boy, so I never told them; but I have last year as I felt the same way. The results? My dad said "Just wait for a while, maybe you'll change your mind." compared to my mom who said the same, but with nicer wording; so I kept it a secret for a while. Along with that, I'd really like to be called Colin as I feel like it'd suit me the best. However I just don't think I look like a boy enough, or that I might be deemed "strange" for a boy. I'm not sure though, however I just wanna be a boy who's there to support his friends through everything. Maybe I'll tell my parents when I'm 18, but despite that they told me I'm too young to think that I'd like to be a boy. What could I do? 😣

kingKarter FTM body dysphoria
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hi so i been on T for a year im only 31 just recently turned it, i come out late as trans because of the way i was raised and the way my family was, but my biggest issue atm is my body dysphoria! Im one of those unlucky trans man who have a large che... View more

hi so i been on T for a year im only 31 just recently turned it, i come out late as trans because of the way i was raised and the way my family was, but my biggest issue atm is my body dysphoria! Im one of those unlucky trans man who have a large chest which makes binding or taping hard. I have tried a few binders and they either don’t fit or they leave that like extra boob or they make it look like you have one massive boob! And I can’t tape because it doesn’t do anything because of how big i am! Does anyone else have this issue and what do you do? What has worked for you? Idk what else todo and it’s messing with my mental health! Please any information will help.

Multicultural experiences

Designed for members who were born overseas, have parents who were, speak a primary language that isn’t English or have mixed cultural heritage.

Vik888 Racism on the media
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Hey all, I thought to express some thought here. I am of immigrant background Indian to be specific. I think the mental stress is just unbearable at this stage. Any tips how to get by and keep going when you are constantly abused for just trying to b... View more

Hey all, I thought to express some thought here. I am of immigrant background Indian to be specific. I think the mental stress is just unbearable at this stage. Any tips how to get by and keep going when you are constantly abused for just trying to be a "human" and get through life

Swaggerd98 Job Search Blues
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Hey everyone, Glad to meet everyone on this forum (hope it's the right forum). I quit my full time job 2.5 months ago without a job in hand, and have been looking for a job in the same field. While I have time until next December to stay in Australia... View more

Hey everyone, Glad to meet everyone on this forum (hope it's the right forum). I quit my full time job 2.5 months ago without a job in hand, and have been looking for a job in the same field. While I have time until next December to stay in Australia and look for a job and have had some interviews, I have been living in constant stress and anxiety, wondering when my next opportunity will appear. I have been regretting the time I quit my job since it acted as golden handcuffs, even though the months leading up to the exit were rough, and I was experiencing stagnant growth from a salary standpoint. Every application rejection is playing with my patience, and is making me look desperate. I am afraid people will call me out for not getting a job. Is there anybody else that is or has experienced the same issue as me? I am keen to hear people's thoughts.

A-ly Lonely a lost purpose
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Hi,I was a very passionate driven person when I was younger and achieved a lot in my passions as a teen/young adult and have been lucky enough to have experienced a lot of travel and success in my passion during those years. Since retiring that passi... View more

Hi,I was a very passionate driven person when I was younger and achieved a lot in my passions as a teen/young adult and have been lucky enough to have experienced a lot of travel and success in my passion during those years. Since retiring that passion 2 years ago (it was too physically and financially demanding so can't return) I have felt as though I have really lost myself. I don't really know who I am anymore, I feel as though I don't have any connections with anyone really anymore. Like all my group of friends have slowly drifted over the years as we all went in different directions with careers and they slowly started leaving me out to the point they don't include me anymore and I never understood why. I have one best friend who I love, but our connection just isn't the same at the moment, we are in completely different seasons of life to each other. I feel like I know a lot of people but can't make connections. I don't know where I belong anymore. I am 30, have no partner, not real sense of connections to anyone and struggle to make new ones. I just feel incredibly lonely, I don't know what my purpose in life is anymore and I just feel like I'm going through the motions every day eat work sleep repeat with no sense of direction or purpose anymore.

Grief and loss

Support and advice following the loss of a family member, partner, spouse or someone close to you.

Guest_78631374 My fiancé just broke up with me
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Hi everyone, I’m going through something really painful and I’m struggling to cope. I was in a very serious relationship where everything seemed fine. We were planning a future together, talking about marriage and commitments, and he was consistently... View more

Hi everyone, I’m going through something really painful and I’m struggling to cope. I was in a very serious relationship where everything seemed fine. We were planning a future together, talking about marriage and commitments, and he was consistently affectionate and involved. There were no signs anything was wrong. Very suddenly, he told me that he “loves me but is not in love with me,” and that he has been having doubts he never communicated. It felt like it came out of nowhere and completely shocked me. Now the relationship is over. Since then, I’ve been feeling overwhelmed. I’m dealing with a heavy chest, nausea, shaky legs and waves of panic. I haven’t been sleeping well and I feel like my whole body is in shock. I know heartbreak can cause these things, but it’s been really intense and hard to manage. I’m just struggling emotionally and physically with the sudden loss and the shock of it all. I would really appreciate advice on how to cope, how to get through the physical symptoms, and how to deal with the feeling of losing someone so suddenly. Thank you to anyone who reads or replies. I just really need some support from people who understand.

Guest_23613495 Grief loss of my elderly father, brother and mother
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Seeking support and councelling on how to deal with the loss of my elderly father recently leading up to Christmas (empty chair).

Seeking support and councelling on how to deal with the loss of my elderly father recently leading up to Christmas (empty chair).

Eenah Grieving over death and betrayal
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I recently lost someone I loved because of health complications. On the day he died, I found out he’d cheated on me with so many women. They say we only live once but die many times in our lifetime. Losing him, and learning he wasn’t faithful all the... View more

I recently lost someone I loved because of health complications. On the day he died, I found out he’d cheated on me with so many women. They say we only live once but die many times in our lifetime. Losing him, and learning he wasn’t faithful all the 13 months we were together, shattered me. I died twice.I don’t know how to process this. Which one do I grieve first? Sometimes I’m okay. Sometimes I can forgive the betrayal. But sometimes I wake up hating him so much. If I had the choice, I’d rather see him with another woman than dead. I don’t know. I don’t know how to regulate my emotions. I’m devastated. I miss him so much. I miss everything about him even the lies, I guess. My heart is so heavy.