(Trigger warning) PTSD after being stabbed
Jase, sorry been off line for a week. Just wondering how the surfing is going? Surfing is a genuine therapy for PTSD. I am involved with the RSL here in Victoria and one of the branches has started surfing for the returning veterans and is having some great results.
Hi Mark surfing be great if there was surf here in perth really frustrating at times but have to say going for a swim does for a short period give me some piece off mind medical system definitely does not im still waiting for some help i just wonder how long i can except the poor performance i am receiving in starting to think of other options and that will only be possible if the government gives me a break and i can receive DSP so as i can go for there month to another part off the world were i can afford to do it privately i must say i do have a incredibly supportive friend and i do believe at this point of were im at if it was not for him i would rather be in jail to meet with my friend who very nearly took my life and received a 3 year sentance when i feel im the one who is doing the time he will want to prey to god that when he is released im not still sleeping and reliving the stabbing every time i still cant get my head around the fact that he was given a plea bargain after he had already plead guilty and made full admission to the higher charge which included premeditation its no how the system works the judge read out my medical report which included me having 1 lt off blood drained from my left lung nevermind the blood that was squrting out between my fingers whist i waited 25 minutes for the ambulance to arrive he was out on bail before i was out of icu
Jase, first off, I hope the surf picks up for ya!!
The judicial system is flawed that is for sure. I don't know how it works in WA but i know for sure that once matters get to the higher courts (County and Supreme in Victoria as opposed to the Magistrates), Government solicitors take over the case and prosecute it. Essentially the coppers get very little say in how things are presented from there on in. I would imagine it is the same way around the country where courts will take early pleas and when someone does that, they are given a discount on their sentence because they are apparently showing remorse by acknowledging what they did. In some cases i can accept a lesser sentence but when it comes to offences against the person, as in your case, there is no discount...IMHO. It is quite often the case that certain charges will be dropped when offenders plead guilty to other charges, that is the system and then there is cumulative and concurrent sentencing. Cumulative = when someone pleads guilty or is found guilty of burglary and theft, get 6 mths imprisonment on each charge, they serve 12 mths however with concurrent, you can plead guilty to a swag of charges and get 6 months on each charge but because you can serve them concurrently, all you serve is 6 mths which IMHO is wrong. I like the US style sentencing. I remember the last time i was over there one bloke got 1100 years imprisonment!
You have every reason to be disillusioned with the judicial system as the bloke who almost killed you will be out of prison and you have to live with the incident for the rest of your life. I will not patronise you and say things to help you get over this hurdle as I have never walked in your shoes, I am just hoping that somehow, something we say in here will allow you to smile and get on with your life. I will just continue to give suggestions, things that helped me and that have helped others. If i was religious id be praying that something works.
Is it helping by engaging with us in here? Does it help to tell your story to us? Is it validating at all?
As you have pointed out above how i have got my life back, I fully realise how lucky i am to be where i am at. I owe it to the people that didn't or haven't got my luck to do whatever i can to help them out. Hoping i can do that for you.
Hope you are well sorry havenot been in touch lately i have had a lot going on and to be honest i have given up on getting help here in this country in making plans to go over seas to get help and find piece and start a new life i have no plans off return either i have found myself a new friend and she makes me happy and laugh i just cant keep going on like this so i suppose it is ment to be and it feels right
Take care best wishes
Jacezz, IMHO = in my humble opinion.
Excellent that you are getting something out of engaging with us in here. A super protective and supportive environment that is for sure.
I have been well thanks but took some time out as a mate of mine had a significant mental health event so was very tiring assisting there so something had to give to make sure that I don't go back downhill. It's a fine line!
Have you got mates that you think are not being dragged down by you? I say "think" because a lot of the time, they are not being dragged down, that is just our perception when our brains are going haywire. It would be healthy for you to continue to engage with other people than us.Not in the very slightest am i saying don't engage with us though. We are here to help any way we can.
How have the waves been?
FYI - I am off overseas next week so will be posting less but will be keeping an eye on things so when the chance arises i will get a few posts in.
Hi Jacezz, I have read your thread and up until now, I have considered posting but held back. I can relate to a lot of what you are going through; trust, injury etc. However, your travel announcement had the most impact.
I fleed a DV relationship and moved to the UK. I would like to offer a few word to you to keep in the back of you mind. I believe travel is the best way to grow emotionally. Every trip I have made has expanded my view of the world. It brings insight, understanding and compassion. With this said, I know that if things don't work out, I could always come home. I hope you are able to adopt a similar philosophy.
Secondly, as Crowded House said 'everywhere you go, always take the weather with you'. Acknowledging this may help you. In my experience the location changes, the people change and you change, but our experiences don't. That said, I am certain that with all of the changes that are in front of you, you may start to live in harmony with you experiences, learn and grow as a result of them.
Honestly, I send you all the best wishes for your travels. I am envious as I would love to be planning an expedition ATM. Safe travel and if you ever feel lost, check in here. Franka.