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3Beemee stop/reduce alcohol
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Hiya, I'd be happy for any help on stopping/reducing alcohol. I have used it all my life to cope with anxiety I think and what I'm learning is possibly unrealized childhood trauma. I've been married twice, the first with children, and had a few relat... View more

Hiya, I'd be happy for any help on stopping/reducing alcohol. I have used it all my life to cope with anxiety I think and what I'm learning is possibly unrealized childhood trauma. I've been married twice, the first with children, and had a few relationships since, the most recent ending a few months ago. I think the end affected me more than I thought it would. I've been taking Mirtazapine of a night to help with depression and anxiety, but mixed with alcohol I think is causing foggy brain. I'm scared I have caused alcohol related brain impairment or is it the mixture of both. I'm bored with booze and sic of taking pills.

Guest_34916665 New year new me??
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I’ve been feeling really down this entire past year. I’ve been with my partner for 12 years. We bought a house, it’s a house he hates apparently. He blames me for making him buy the house. We have 3 kids. He keeps changing jobs, placing all the finan... View more

I’ve been feeling really down this entire past year. I’ve been with my partner for 12 years. We bought a house, it’s a house he hates apparently. He blames me for making him buy the house. We have 3 kids. He keeps changing jobs, placing all the financial burdens onto me. When we fight he says he changes jobs all the time to punish me. I say he is irresponsible and unreliable to which he becomes immediately defensive that I called him a Bum (to him this is the worst insult). I have no friends. No family around. It’s just me and the kids. I’m so isolated. He’s moving out in 5 days, to another state, that’s how much he hates this house. I’m glad he’s leaving. But I’m riddled with anxiety. How can I do this alone? Will my kids be alright? I’m not good enough to raise 3 healthy and happy kids alone. I need him gone for my mental health though. I’m torn. Am I selfish for being happy he’s going?

Guest_10025 Taxi owner/driver
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(57M 167cm 107kg) taxi driver, headbanger, into team sports. I have been struggling with my gender association all my life. I've tried the straight way, and the gay way but each way I felt I forced myself and felt uncomfortable. From a young age thro... View more

(57M 167cm 107kg) taxi driver, headbanger, into team sports. I have been struggling with my gender association all my life. I've tried the straight way, and the gay way but each way I felt I forced myself and felt uncomfortable. From a young age through adulthood, I tried both, it felt like something was off. I feel groused out with kissing and feeling romantic, I think I may have a past trauma or something unbalanced in my head. Deep down I felt torn between male and female thoughts, someone suggested I may be trans, not long ago. I have no attraction to either sex, but admiration towards women, not in a stalker way but fantasizing I was them, as for guys I think differently, either as friends with sexual desires or them having their way with me.I'm a mixture of madness. Some days that dreaded black dog makes me think crazy things, but that's when my mind imagines ideas and I write stories about them. There are other things about me I choose not to print, it might be creepy to some. Now I have found a new sexuality and it fits most boxes of my make-up but not all. Autosexuality. I have lived more for a sexual imagination and fantasy rather than human contact, throughout my life. I've even written sexual stories in some forums in the past, and I imagine I am what I'm writing about. One thing Autosexual people do that I don't is, I'm not in love with myself.I'm not suicidal anymore but still confused.Where the hell do I fit in this world, and will I find out before my time comes to an end?

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Guest_77676878 Clinical depression assistance
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Hi I'm Greg and I'm a senior I'm suffering from clinical depression and would like to socially engage with other people that can assist me. I would love to connect with any relevant social group

Hi I'm Greg and I'm a senior I'm suffering from clinical depression and would like to socially engage with other people that can assist me. I would love to connect with any relevant social group

squishyfish How is everyone doing :)
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Hello, i am new here, not really sure how to start and get involved so im making this little post. Christmas is almost here which feels really weird, hope everyone has a nice time!

Hello, i am new here, not really sure how to start and get involved so im making this little post. Christmas is almost here which feels really weird, hope everyone has a nice time!

Eagle Ray A Place for People Alone Over the Festive Season
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Hi, I just thought I’d start a thread for those of us who will be alone on Christmas Day or during the festive season generally and would like somewhere to chat and connect. I will most likely have a quiet Christmas Day at home, cooking some simple m... View more

Hi, I just thought I’d start a thread for those of us who will be alone on Christmas Day or during the festive season generally and would like somewhere to chat and connect. I will most likely have a quiet Christmas Day at home, cooking some simple meals as I usually do and enjoy my hobbies such as photography and photo editing. I might go for a swim in the ocean. Feel free to connect here on Christmas Day or over the festive period if you are alone and would like somewhere to chat. You might like to share how you are making it an enjoyable time or reflective time or whatever it is for you. Feel free to share anything festive you are doing and also feel free to share if you are not doing festive activities. Also, feel free to share if you are with others on Christmas Day but feeling a bit lonely as I know that can happen sometimes too.Wishing everyone a peaceful time over the holiday season 🤗Eagle Ray

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Olliepop Text message pressure!
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So the Christmas period for me, brings alot of pressure during the day, and leading up to Christmas even more so. Yesterday, my husband and my son went for a drive to visit his family etc, and i was at work very very busy. In my brain, my husband and... View more

So the Christmas period for me, brings alot of pressure during the day, and leading up to Christmas even more so. Yesterday, my husband and my son went for a drive to visit his family etc, and i was at work very very busy. In my brain, my husband and son are okay, my husband loves to text, alot. and i fell behind in the many messages and pictures of things he was sending me. By the time i finished work, and handled all the staff who required my attention i replied, and he was very short. I tried calling as i was wrapping up the office, he didnt answer, then i called again no answer, then i sent a message im calling to see if you want anything for dinner on my way home? he replies, not yet. so in my mind, i was hoping for some fun at home, walk into the door and they are planning something for my day which was huge, i walk in to silence from my husband and my son his usual self. I look at my husband and hes livid, im like are you okay? then long story short, he was upset i didnt reply to his messages, i looked at them but didnt reply.. and it was not good enough that i didnt reply no matter how busy i was.I was in shock. So i apologised, as thats how he felt, and he continued to ignore me for the rest of the night, we made dinner separately, i was very tired so went to bed on my own, and this morning i get another text from him good morning, i reply and he said oh i wasnt sure if you would reply.starting on the jokes.. and again, i said i was busy if you realised how my day was you would realise how silly this looks, and he stated again... to open and not reply to many messages,is no excuse no matter how busy you are. Im really confused.. firstly, he knows where i am and what im doing.. when he was in my position with staff and working, i never got upset he didnt reply, and also may i add what we text about isnt life threatening. But my husband, he likes to text, ALOT!.. and we have had a few fights in the past where i ask him to refrain from so many messages and text fights as id rather deal in person, because most of the time he doesnt hear me in his messages. As i work with family, his indirect stab was him assuming i wasnt on my phone thinking i was around my family as he thinks they put me on edge, when they dont, but he just keeps assuming. Is this a little uncalled for from him?Im so tired, and this must reply attitude for texts is crazy.But does my husband have a valid point? i would assume he would call me if it was so important.

SleepyRain APP??
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Hello everyone, I don't know if it has been posted here before, but does beyond blue have an app? I tried looking, but I could not find anything. Just wanted to know because a lot of forums these days have their own apps.

Hello everyone, I don't know if it has been posted here before, but does beyond blue have an app? I tried looking, but I could not find anything. Just wanted to know because a lot of forums these days have their own apps.