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Kirst_18 Parenting, study, depression, anxiety and feeling low - not sure actually...
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Hello,This is my first time on a forum of any kind. I have only seen a psychologist and therapist once in my life when I was involved in an accedent when I was 19. I am now a 47 year old mom. I have suffered depression twice before, once when I was 1... View more

Hello,This is my first time on a forum of any kind. I have only seen a psychologist and therapist once in my life when I was involved in an accedent when I was 19. I am now a 47 year old mom. I have suffered depression twice before, once when I was 19 (the accident was the tip of the iceburg). Back then no one talked about it and I didn't even tell my parents how I was thinking or feeling. I got depression again in my late 20's/early 30's but it was spoken about more then and I prescribed anti-depressants and exercised more which helped. Now I don't know what I am going through and I am questioning myself. I have twin daughters who are in Y6 and I love them to bits, I honestly think if it wasn't for them I would not be here. A few years ago I had career change and work as a special needs education assistant which I love, but I always felt I wanted to do more and decided to go to uni for the first time to study teaching. My husband was nearing the end of his degree and has always been very supportive of me, as I am of him. I also wanted to be a good role model to my children and show them not to make the same 'mistakes' I did, in not going to uni after school. My husband travels a lot for work, and I have no family suppport here, I also feel that since moving here (its been 9 years) I have not made any close friends I can talk too. I feel that I am 25 years behind now in my career. I struggle with one particular subject, Maths, and have just failed my 2nd year unit of it, for the second time. I am now questioning whether I am good enough and should I carry on. I also feel a wave of emotions as my body begins to change. I feel I am not only letting myself down, but my family. Friends and colleagues know I am studying however I am incrediby embarrassed and disappointed with myself. I have lots of questions, I am I just not good enough as what I want to do, should I just give up now before wasting any more money, what will others think of me? I will contact the uni today and see what my options are. But I feel I am at a crossroads in my career. I need to be there for my children as they are going to be going a difficult time in their lives as they finish primary school and start high school, with their frienship group changes amongst other things. I know what I want to achieve but am I aiming too high at this time in my life? I keep thinking others have it FAR worse than me and they get through it. Why can't I? Am I just feeling sorry for myself or is it more

Guest_19171461 Hello
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Hi, my name is Rob, I'm 59. I have always been a happy guy that likes a bit of fun and humour to go with life. In the last few years I have been progressively feeling that things are not quite right for me. I am a horticulturalist by trade and have a... View more

Hi, my name is Rob, I'm 59. I have always been a happy guy that likes a bit of fun and humour to go with life. In the last few years I have been progressively feeling that things are not quite right for me. I am a horticulturalist by trade and have always loved my work ( a bit too much i think) I used to jump out of bed and could not wait to get to work for the day, but I do not remotely feel that way anymore. I was promoted to the manager of where i worked and loved the responsibility until we had a new headmaster come on board and then the harassment started for no reason other than he wanted his people there, I stuck with it and did my job but found no-one was by my side through this. I eventually left because i had no choice and i had had enough and that is when it all started for me, i could not look at emails, answer the phone and everything was a struggle, i tried talking to my wife about it but she did not understand which did not help me at all, I carried on with life and could not get a job that gave me a sense of worth. We nearly lost our house and everything we worked for, I even felt isolated from my family and at the time my dad was dying of cancer which made things a whole lot worse, we packed up and moved state to where the wifes family lived and we started again. I got a job back in Horticulture and was hoping i was on the rebound but that didn't quite go as i planned I was only looking forward, i was finding myself being overlooked at work for promotions that i should have been given, i was overlooked many times and the promotions went to friends of management so i found another job in local government to which i am still employed. I have retrained into administration and safety and am now a safety officer in local government but I am now starting to find the haters again (they surface every time you better yourself) and I am now struggling again, i always now have a sense or worthlessness and and feel i have no purpose on a daily basis and lack confidence in everything i do, i find it hard to get motivated at all and i just can't see any point in doing anything. It is a constant struggle to stay afloat with this and it is making me tired, in the beginning of this post i said i use humour a lot in my life I just wonder if this is a defence mechanism for coping. I do drink a little alcohol and smoke a bit, i like it, it relaxes me but find i can not control it like i used to. I an of to the dr's next month and will chat to him. Rob

radish58 Living with someone who has anxiety and depression
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Hello,I am a 67 year old retired man. I sold my business 18 months ag9.My partner of almost 45 years broke her knee while evacuating a friend's home...ceiling collapsed.My partner has had anxiety for a number of years after I would say a workplace in... View more

Hello,I am a 67 year old retired man. I sold my business 18 months ag9.My partner of almost 45 years broke her knee while evacuating a friend's home...ceiling collapsed.My partner has had anxiety for a number of years after I would say a workplace incident. She is now in recovery. 1 week after her accident her eldest daughter gave birth to our 3rd grandchild. We were to look after her son during her hospital stay. My wife's injury made that not possible. While family stepped up, she was nonetheless upset. Her anxiety from what she went through peaked and to her credit sort medical help.Our other daughter just gave birth to her 2nd child and our 4th grandchild. We were meant to look after her son during the hospital stay, her injury didn't allow for this, so our other daughter stepped up, that was until the day before the birth, she and her family came down with the flu. So we stepped in along with the help of family. What has become apparent to myself and other family members was her depression. Her sisters have individually spoken to her as has one of our daughters and myself. She refuses to accept it, even her doctor asked her was she depressed, she said no. The stress, the good and the bad has and is on a daily basisWhat can we do.....please

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smallwolf What small thing brought you a little joy this week?
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Hi everyone, Life can be hard sometimes, so I thought I might try something different here. And I figured it might be nice to share a little light. Has something (big or small, it does not matter!) that brought you a moment of joy this week? It could... View more

Hi everyone, Life can be hard sometimes, so I thought I might try something different here. And I figured it might be nice to share a little light. Has something (big or small, it does not matter!) that brought you a moment of joy this week? It could be as simple as a smile from a stranger? Good cup of coffee? a walk? Or something funny your pet did. I’ll start: After a day when I thought I did not accomplish much, my higher up sent me a text message in the evening, thanking for the help I had given during the day. And this put a smile on my face. Looking forward to hearing the little things that made your day a bit brighter

Ash_music It's my turn-song lyrics
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They told me I was nothing, just a shadow in the dark Tried to steal my voice, tried to break my heart But I am not a puppet, I won’t play their game I’m done being silent, I’m done with the shame I’ve been knocked down, I’ve been cast aside But I wo... View more

They told me I was nothing, just a shadow in the dark Tried to steal my voice, tried to break my heart But I am not a puppet, I won’t play their game I’m done being silent, I’m done with the shame I’ve been knocked down, I’ve been cast aside But I won’t stay buried, I was born to riseI’m a storm, I’m a fire, I’m a hurricane I won’t break, I won’t bend, I won’t fade away Let the chains fall, let the walls burn This is my fight, now it’s my turn They fed me lies and called it love Tried to clip my wings, said I wasn’t enough But I’ve seen the truth, and I’ve found my voice Now the battle is mine, and I’ve made my choiceEvery scar, every wound, just proof I survived They tried to bury me—guess what? I’m alive I’m a storm, I’m a fire, I’m a hurricane I won’t break, I won’t bend, I won’t fade away Let the chains fall, let the walls burn This is my fight, now it’s my turn I’m a storm, I’m a fire, I’m a hurricane I won’t break, I won’t bend, I won’t fade away Let the chains fall, let the walls burn This is my fight, now it’s my turn

Ronnie Where BB zone these days
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Hi,I am near inner west, is there any BB zone nearby.Or meet up 

Hi,I am near inner west, is there any BB zone nearby.Or meet up 

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Hello everyone, I don't know if it has been posted here before, but does beyond blue have an app? I tried looking, but I could not find anything. Just wanted to know because a lot of forums these days have their own apps.

Hello everyone, I don't know if it has been posted here before, but does beyond blue have an app? I tried looking, but I could not find anything. Just wanted to know because a lot of forums these days have their own apps.

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Hello everyone, Some of you may know that when making posts on the forums you are limited to 2,500 characters. We'd love your feedback on this, so we have two questions for you. How do you feel about the current character limit? How would you feel if... View more

Hello everyone, Some of you may know that when making posts on the forums you are limited to 2,500 characters. We'd love your feedback on this, so we have two questions for you. How do you feel about the current character limit? How would you feel if there was no limit at all? We would love to hear your thoughts. Project TeamBeyond Blue