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Rosebud Birthday alone again
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So today 27th April is my 56th birthday and my second in my whole life alone. No family or friends just me and my dog. It’s so hard not having anyone to even wish me happy birthday or give me a card or anything. I think this will be my last, the pain... View more

So today 27th April is my 56th birthday and my second in my whole life alone. No family or friends just me and my dog. It’s so hard not having anyone to even wish me happy birthday or give me a card or anything. I think this will be my last, the pain of being alone and lonely on what used to be a special day is just to much.

Guest_35699812 Struggling to understand fairness
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I’m a 23 year old female wanted to start a family. From a very young age I have always dreamed of being a mum when I am older. And now at this stage in my life I feel that starting this journey would be a good idea. I have been with my current partne... View more

I’m a 23 year old female wanted to start a family. From a very young age I have always dreamed of being a mum when I am older. And now at this stage in my life I feel that starting this journey would be a good idea. I have been with my current partner for 5 years, he is 24 years old. I’m not entirely sure that I wanna keep going. I have been on my TTC ( trying to convince) journey for 2 years now and it just not getting anywhere nor am I seeing any light at the end of the tunnel. I have gone through all the tests I can and I have suggested all the things for my partner to do. But we just haven’t gotten anywhere. Every negative test or failed cycle just gets more and more difficult and I have no one to turn to that will understand how I feel. Because when I try to talk about my feelings I get shut down or told “it will happen if you stop stressing” and I’m honestly sick of it. I honestly don’t understand how or why this journey to becoming a mum is this hard

anotherPeter First visit here in 9 years
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I've forgotten how to find my way around here. Haven't been here for nine years. A lot of changed in nine years. Separation, divorce, forced resignation. Haven't worked for two and a half years and I don't want to. I live in a caravan in the cheapest... View more

I've forgotten how to find my way around here. Haven't been here for nine years. A lot of changed in nine years. Separation, divorce, forced resignation. Haven't worked for two and a half years and I don't want to. I live in a caravan in the cheapest showgrounds that I can find. Haven't seen my sons for more than three years. Family dynamics are such that I am no longer in communication with any of my 6 siblings. I don't know anyone at all in the town where I have been for over a year. I stay in my caravan and get drunk. I am lonely and except for staff at the local bottle shop and supermarket I never talk to anyone.

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randomxx How do we have store and pay our music these days ?
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Hi people.The whole music thing has me as confused as these days.l bought a beautiful stereo about 13yrs ago, it does cd's, also had an iphone plug and l can play my Samsung or computer music through it using a cord plus it also has a media switch fo... View more

Hi people.The whole music thing has me as confused as these days.l bought a beautiful stereo about 13yrs ago, it does cd's, also had an iphone plug and l can play my Samsung or computer music through it using a cord plus it also has a media switch for usb but l've never been able to get that to play anything from a usb.There's well, pretty well everything l don't get though these days, it all seems to have totally changed.1st of all, what are we suppose to store our music on ?God almighty l have some on my ph some on my computer some on cd's , some on usb, ldk wth to do.Can't l have it all just on one thing so that l can play that on the lounge stereo or car or on whatever. Next is what is a sound system now?l can't even find any in stores l use to browse them from , Jb, Havey Norman and a few others and speciality sound system stores. None of them have sound systems any more all they have is a few sets of speakers, you use to need a sound system and speakers. not sure what the go is now.Do the speakers have it all inbuilt to them or something and is that it, is that the sound system?And if it is how does it work and what to you have your music on to play it or just wth basically ?ldk , l don't get any of it, l miss the old days of cd's and beautiful sound systems , real ones. Thanks in advance.rx

DollyButtons Lifetime of depression
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Hi everyone,First time posting. I have struggled with depression all my life. Traumatic childhood and loss of a child. I find I can manage myself sometimes but struggle and fall in a hole other times. I feel like my brain doesn't work as I can't seem... View more

Hi everyone,First time posting. I have struggled with depression all my life. Traumatic childhood and loss of a child. I find I can manage myself sometimes but struggle and fall in a hole other times. I feel like my brain doesn't work as I can't seem to remember lots of things. People say to me " you??? You don't seem depressed you are always smiling. They don't understand what it takes to keep smiling. I'm overly critical and don't like myself for that.

BindiChops I think life’s won.
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My whole life was a typical undiagnosed bipolar life…. Ups, downs, alcohol, sleeping pills, smoking, previous attempts etc etc. at 38 I was finally diagnosed, medicated and I changed. Left a toxic relationship, quit drinking, smoking and pills. Got a... View more

My whole life was a typical undiagnosed bipolar life…. Ups, downs, alcohol, sleeping pills, smoking, previous attempts etc etc. at 38 I was finally diagnosed, medicated and I changed. Left a toxic relationship, quit drinking, smoking and pills. Got a good job, became a single mum and bought a house. I was finally doing life ‘right’. Well, I just got made redundant and everything is crashing down around me. I’m alone and I don’t think I have the fight left in me for this, I thought this darkness was over. I’m failing, again. But I’m so tired. I don’t think I can this time.

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Guest_44379234 Truely alone in life
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Does anyone else truely care about anyone other than themselves for longer than a minute or two? When all the questions end up having no answers, what can anyone do for someone other than themselves? I know everyone will just say, you have to be acco... View more

Does anyone else truely care about anyone other than themselves for longer than a minute or two? When all the questions end up having no answers, what can anyone do for someone other than themselves? I know everyone will just say, you have to be accountable, take responsibility, only you can change your life. But there is nothing that can be changed, yes, it can be altered but to the detriment of something else either in life or in one’s self, or mind. Everyone expects someone can do or change something they have no real understanding of, in the form of likeness or experience, so it seems the right thing to say or expect. But here I am, reaching out for the hand that isn’t there. Some might extend their arm out, for a moment, but in the end, they will always fall short and move in another direction. Existence, is being alone. Others drift in and out of others existence, but it’s not their existence, they have their own. No one shares exsistance, mine feels very dark, cold, and unfashionable to my own mind. A dense weight crushing forcefully, I don’t want to exist like this is this is what existing is.

WilsonNolan Supporting My Wife With Hyperemesis
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This will be my third child. This was an unplanned pregnancy. My wife has severe Hyperemesis. She has suffered significantly with each pregnancy. She was suicidal during her first pregnancy and only after proper diagnosis and treatment did she cope. ... View more

This will be my third child. This was an unplanned pregnancy. My wife has severe Hyperemesis. She has suffered significantly with each pregnancy. She was suicidal during her first pregnancy and only after proper diagnosis and treatment did she cope. She now suffers extreme depression and anxiety related to it however we are trying to to be especially on top of things this time around. She's being treated psychologically and she is on regular fluids and medication. I am supporting her through it by driving her to appointments, doing all the cooking, housework and kid related stuff like school while still trying to balance my full time work to cover the growing medical expenses. My issue is that I also feel severely depressed and lost. Both previous pregnancies were really hard on me too. But noone seems to understand (or care) how I might be struggling. I have no support network, no close friends, a family that never checks in and no remaining funds to get any sort of mental health care for me. I've gotten by in previous pregnancies by drinking (which I've quit as of 2 years ago), or burying myself in work. Now I'm trying to go for walks and get more sunshine. I take more multivitamins and try to stay organised. I fear it's barely helping though. With my growing anxiety and the stress of watching her suffer, managing the other kids and watching all of our finances disappear, I am really feeling lost. Has any other person out there felt this way and if so, how did you cope?

ProjectTeam What do you think of the current character limit for posts?
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Hello everyone, Some of you may know that when making posts on the forums you are limited to 2,500 characters. We'd love your feedback on this, so we have two questions for you. How do you feel about the current character limit? How would you feel if... View more

Hello everyone, Some of you may know that when making posts on the forums you are limited to 2,500 characters. We'd love your feedback on this, so we have two questions for you. How do you feel about the current character limit? How would you feel if there was no limit at all? We would love to hear your thoughts. Project TeamBeyond Blue