Hi WW, welcome
Quite often I found in life that doing the opposite of the way you want to do things is a better alternative.
In this case you have your own issues to balance. On the other side of things your brother needs everyone for the next several months at least.
So I'm going to suggest, reaching out to him, with a proviso.
Set up a calm place, a room without distractions. Allow him to talk, to grieve, to communicate his inner hurt.
After an amount of time (you will know your limit) you say to him that you've done your best today to help him...now its time for me to repair yourself so you can cope with life.
If he has a limited knowledge of your condition then explain it to him. Don't be afraid of telling him that you have difficulty comforting others with your restrictions. Then leave. This will give him an opportunity to reach out to you, to help you deal with your issues. Its likely to be one sided but you would have given him opportunity.
Another sibling returning home makes for good competition. Can you move out? Thats the alternative.
Remember, he is grieving which is far more complex than dealing with lifes daily struggles. At this time you wouldn't want to be seen as being demanding or cruel. Grief is a single focus. He needs you.
Tony WK
