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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Novaley Really need advice - studying abroad....
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I've had depression and anxiety since I was a kid, and I'm currently a 24 year old female university student. I made plans with my best friend to study abroad this semester, at the time I was very anxious about it but thought it would be good for me ... View more

I've had depression and anxiety since I was a kid, and I'm currently a 24 year old female university student. I made plans with my best friend to study abroad this semester, at the time I was very anxious about it but thought it would be good for me to step outside of my comfort zone. However, it's been so much harder than anticipated. My best friend always needs me to handle everything for her and this has been no exception, I've had to organise and plan everything for us with little help from her. Instead of providing us accommodation like I expected, the school abandoned us to deal with it on our own and I had to book 4 different airbnbs for us, all no where near our school, and all in incredibly tiny studio apartments where I'd have to share a sofabed with her. Then, I booked all our accommodation around a mid semester break where I planned to visit and stay with a different friend in another part of England, and the school suddenly and without warning got rid of this break and I cannot extend our accommodation to stay during those 2 weeks because we can't afford it. On top of all this I still don't even have my class timetable. I don't know what to do, having to handle all these problems by myself has left me at a depression low I haven't seen since I was in high school. I've had multiple breakdowns and cried more in the last few weeks than I have the whole rest of this year. I really just want to cancel this whole thing and stay home, I feel like it would be a relief and I owe it to my mental health. But on the other hand, because my friend has left me to do everything myself, all of her travel plans have been organized by me so I can't cancel this without completely abandoning her and throwing her under the bus. AKA she'd have to find all new accommodation on her own. On top of that, my Father organized to come with us for the first 2 weeks so he's gonna be really upset too. I don't know what to do, we leave for Europe in a month and this week is really the last week I can cancel these plans without losing lots of money/leaving myself time to enrol in classes in my home university. If I cancel now I think we could get full refunds for everything, but I don't want to ruin my relationship with my best friend and my Father....

LostPigeon407 I don't like the world since 2012
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I don't like my generation, not only with modern music, but because I am religious and too rare to relate with their modern secular differences. I also don't like the economy today and the expense of living or with education. I prefer 2000's and 1990... View more

I don't like my generation, not only with modern music, but because I am religious and too rare to relate with their modern secular differences. I also don't like the economy today and the expense of living or with education. I prefer 2000's and 1990's clothing and that is not what they make today. Despite knowing Australia's alright, I prefer the cultural attitude of a collectivist society and I hate the individualist approach for numerous reasons. I definitely don't like how modern people don't have any humility and can't take accountability for when their in the wrong, people are too shallow and socially superficial and the look others down with stigma. I also wish people were more light hearted and that actions were still seen as louder than words, rather than controversial because you said something that should be forgotten about by tomorrow.

Maddie-7 Dealing with heavy depression
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I have a mental illness called Schizo affective disorder and at the moment I am trying to help myself cope with bad depression. I don't have much support but I write down the things I need and want to do for the next day. I have a doctor but my medic... View more

I have a mental illness called Schizo affective disorder and at the moment I am trying to help myself cope with bad depression. I don't have much support but I write down the things I need and want to do for the next day. I have a doctor but my medications don’t seem to be working. Does anyone have any more advice for me?

Wreckitralph How long can i take this?
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Ive had depression since about 2004. I'm just tired. I have a daughter and shes amazing, but im just done. I don't feel of any value. I feel utterly worthless and any wrong doings that come my way i think i just deserve them. I stopped my medication.... View more

Ive had depression since about 2004. I'm just tired. I have a daughter and shes amazing, but im just done. I don't feel of any value. I feel utterly worthless and any wrong doings that come my way i think i just deserve them. I stopped my medication. it doesnt matter.

string_cheese big feelings feeling big!
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Hi BBers, Tonight I am feeling lots of big feelings. I have changed medication recently, so that is probably why. But also, stuff happening in my relationships, family, work life and friendships. I am not great at actually feeling my feelings, or exp... View more

Hi BBers, Tonight I am feeling lots of big feelings. I have changed medication recently, so that is probably why. But also, stuff happening in my relationships, family, work life and friendships. I am not great at actually feeling my feelings, or expressing them. It scares me. My brain starts telling me I am stupid. It is like I don't trust myself. Looking for advice and reassurance?

randomxx Life, depression , depressing life !
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Hi to all who may pass bye.l have another similar thread but it wound up full of break up details mainly and l just need to escape that a bit of late and talk about the new now.But yeah, earlier a divorce after 22yrs, 5yrs later somebody new that sad... View more

Hi to all who may pass bye.l have another similar thread but it wound up full of break up details mainly and l just need to escape that a bit of late and talk about the new now.But yeah, earlier a divorce after 22yrs, 5yrs later somebody new that sadly 5yrs later again now and it hasn't worked out.but unfortunately isn't only part of things but has changed everything and l just feel all over the shop and very down, v down with life down, plans and with that not working out to.The relationship was looking touch and go quiet awhile earlier and so l've kind of been living with two plans in life last couple of yrs for the future. One with us and one without.So here l am , to the one without bc l need to leave this property later this yr, it's just something l've known l've needed to do a long time now and if l don't do it soon l might never will. l need to start somewhere else fresh.If that relationship worked out we might have even stayed, as couple it's quite nice here. But as a single, without getting into it, there's just not much future and l've always thought once my d was grown up which she is now, l'd move on. l don't want another place or to bother with more property anytime soon atm though , so one idea is to grab a caravan and go for a wander and just live in that for awhile. l so much need to just minimise right right down for a bit, for a rest , for a to hell with it all for awhile.l'm later 50s now and l'd be able to survive without work for while living cheaply. Thing is well the break up first up all, so disappointed it hasn't worked out especially at this stage and we'd both put soooo much into it and hoped it'd be our last and our future. Not to mention all the other emotions.So there's that but then my new plans now, and just life.l just don't know how or what to think or feel about anything future right now.No friends here, not one in 8yrs here, one of the big reasons it's just best now to move on , but so no one to talk anything over with. Brother was 20mins over but he's moved down to his gf's place. My d comes and goes and that's beautiful of cause but l can't lay all this on her although she does know everything been goin on.She'll be moving to herself v soon to. l'm still working a bit atm and also getting out and about plus getting plenty of kayaking in my go to for all but nonehteless, things just feel all messed up and confusing , daunting. So many moves through life, one reason l don't want more property right now. Came here to be close to my d till she grew up and if l liked it l'd stay later if not move on. ln many ways l'm tired of all though and in ways just wish l could just stop life right here and do no more, just live.Funny though, talked a little about my plan to my brothers , just the once, l won't see either of those 2 again yrs now likely but they're full of envy both would love to be that free again so l suppose l should be grateful. But ldk, l feel confused and v v low plus another on top of all, loll is due and hitting right now. Mine comes every 4 or 5mths unfortunately and it's arrived once again. l don't take anything l just try to keep moving so to speak just gentler than usual. Feel like l don't know anything any more.rx

daydreambeliever1967 Moved from Melbourne to Fraser Coast & “really struggling……”
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It’s been almost a month & I want to go back. My partner & I planned this move in 2017 - but I wasn’t ready to come now.He was. He’s ecstatic & I am slowly falling apart internally. I left a job I loved of 14 years.We are both at retirement age - but... View more

It’s been almost a month & I want to go back. My partner & I planned this move in 2017 - but I wasn’t ready to come now.He was. He’s ecstatic & I am slowly falling apart internally. I left a job I loved of 14 years.We are both at retirement age - but I wasn’t ready. I miss the seasons. I hate the heat & yes I have lived in QLD before, but years ago - the humidity is BEYOND & we are on the coast.I am constantly on the verge of tears & not being honest with friends & family when they ask “how are you settling in?”My partner is golf mad which has always suited me, but now I feel so very isolated.I want to flee. My anxiety is thru the roof.I am shaky & teary all the time.He is caring & concerned but has no idea just how bad I am.Is there anyone out there that has been through this? Will it pass? I’m not feeling up to joining “clubs” of any sort atm.I don’t want to break down in front of strangers etcAll ideas, thoughts & advice welcome x

Alice11 I am stuck in my small business
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I felt much better previously when I had nothing than now. Now I have my own house, some savings and a small business started a year ago. I feel very stressed and feel too much to do and in a lot of time I feel very depressed although I manage to fin... View more

I felt much better previously when I had nothing than now. Now I have my own house, some savings and a small business started a year ago. I feel very stressed and feel too much to do and in a lot of time I feel very depressed although I manage to finish my tasks. I don't understand myself now, I tell myself my current situation is much better than previous, but I am so unhappy. When I fail to turn a potential customer into a new customer, I feel very sick and hopeless. I feel very bad about myself, although I know I am one of the best in the field. I had HDs in my professional exams. I just cannot take the rejections from the potential customers anymore. I figure maybe I am not good at talking to people or I don't look confident enough when meeting people, but I can't make myself look confident or outgoing because I am not an outgoing person. I am an introvert. How can I change myself to become confident and talkative. It is not my personal quality. I don't enjoy looking confident. It is not me I am not used to being confident and talkative. Moreover, I have to do marketing besides my current work. When I don't do marking, not even potential customers. I feel very bad and sick. Maybe I am still not getting used to the new routines of doing small business. I had been working for others previously. Any suggestions to me. Thank you.

randomxx Do you feel good about our country ?
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Do you love your country and feel the way you should ?l'm having more and more trouble with all that this last decade or so . And our Governments, it doesn't matter which ones are in, none of them do a damn thing about anything much or if they do try... View more

Do you love your country and feel the way you should ?l'm having more and more trouble with all that this last decade or so . And our Governments, it doesn't matter which ones are in, none of them do a damn thing about anything much or if they do try like with the voice, our own people are too visionless and selfish to embrace it .The housing crises, what do they do, allow another 700k in migration and this crisis has been built and allowed to be over 20yrs to what it is now, you could see this coming for yrs and yrs now, so even with that it's still not just one GOV or the other. lt's been encouraged and allowed to just grow and get worse and worse and worse until here we are today and our own people, our young, can't even have the very first and most basic of needs fore filled and a place to call home let alone be able to afford to live.Then there's the cost of it if they even do get that lucky.There's homeless, there's violence just getting worse and worse, l can't even watch the news any more.Our insane cost of living and prices for just about anything , including housing but then there's business and greed gauging all over the place on top of it. Yeah there's been cost of living all over the world since the war but here is just madness going on and building over decades not just since the war, just like housing. None of this is new here.The over governed over nannied over regulated over lawed over costed, people come from os and can not believe some of our rules and laws or prices and costs or housing or any of just what is Oz these days. l just find it all so depressing, l no longer feel any pride in our country.Our people have a reputation for being friendly but only on surface level , being new in the country and actually making real friends even after 10 yrs gets a terrible wrap here. Our lack of any culture or depth, the money money money and materialism , the way most seem to view our first nations people - and only exasperated in the voice rejection , and the way they live and that we allow. We've even developed a racism reputation and not only toward immigrants but to our very own first nations people to. All this sort of stuff is not only what l see and live but l'm also coming across more and more of it all over the internet and YT , forums , travel reviews from people OS, all kinds of stuff it's all over the place. l wish could feel some pride about my country but tbh, beneath the glossy surface of it, l feel shame. rx

Sophie000 Mild Depression
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Hi, I think I am mentally sick. I think I have anxiety or mild depression. I can’t enjoy my life recently, I couldn’t sleep well in the last 3-4weeks like very difficult falling asleep at the beginning and then woke up at midnight due to needing to g... View more

Hi, I think I am mentally sick. I think I have anxiety or mild depression. I can’t enjoy my life recently, I couldn’t sleep well in the last 3-4weeks like very difficult falling asleep at the beginning and then woke up at midnight due to needing to go to toilet then unable to fall asleep and my mind were full of reoccurring and worrying thoughts. I tried some natural stress relief pastilles and sleep formula but it only worked for the first few days. I went to work with strong headache; I felt a bit relieved with 2 days off. It is hard for me to concentrate at work and remember how to pronounce some words. My memory is not good recently too. But even at home, I have no interest in doing anything and always fired tired and lethargy. When I stay with my two little kids, I rarely feel enjoyment. It is more about my responsibility as a mum, and of course with love. I used to be active in chatting with other mothers to arrange play dates for my kids. But I don’t enjoy doing it now and avoid doing that. I am avoiding making new friends. Maybe because I am also studying part time too. I have hope for future but I am really not well. When I am writing this message and seeking help, I have headache too. I need some help please!