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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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random__ I'm terrified of my ex best friend part 2
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Hello to whoever is reading this.. WARNING SENSITIVE TOPICSI have already had a discussion about this topic which is still up on my profile and it includes some sensitive topics but I am making a part 2 on this cause after years it's still going..BAC... View more

Hello to whoever is reading this.. WARNING SENSITIVE TOPICSI have already had a discussion about this topic which is still up on my profile and it includes some sensitive topics but I am making a part 2 on this cause after years it's still going..BACKSTORY: I had a best friend who had made some horrid accusations about me "SA-ing" her in 2021 which is false as I have many screenshots and convos of her admitting to me is was a false accusation. she took any guy that I wanted to get to know, she made fat comments to me on a daily, she made posted photos online that looked identical to mine, she use to stalk my house before school and when she accused me of SA-ing her I moved state which she followed me her.This has been going on for years and as of recent she has been doing some things that are quite uncomfortable e.x.changing her name on her socials to the same as mine just with 1 letter difference.dying her hair the same color as mine every time I change it.stalking all my socials with other accounts.trying to destroy my friends by telling people about the (SA).. and when she tells people about it she smiles and laughs about it almost like she's proud of it.. and as someone who has been R-word before.. it makes me sick to my stomach watching her tell every Tom, Dick and Harry about it with a smile.. even posting tiktoks of her posing 'sexually' whilst spreading what happened..It's taken a few years but I've gotten better with physical touch now but I'm still a bit scared of touching girls e.x. (hugging, touching arm, sitting next to someone and our legs touch)I've been told to go to the police but because it was so long ago.. "nothing can be done"and I can't go to the police about this.. they'd turn me away as it was considered "just girl drama"it still keeps me up at night and sometimes feel like I shouldn't be existing because that's the label I'll always have attached to me, no matter how much proof I have against me showing I'm innocent..I want to see it a different way and not see it as I'm stuck in one place scared all the time, I've been trying different methods to help ignore, help the situation and how I feel but it's always sitting there in the back of my mind.. Sometimes I feel like I hate this world and humanity and there is no point cause people are so mean and they don't care how it effects others.

Rosaki Lack of motivation and no interest
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Hi. I got diagnosed with depression a few years ago and quit university after year one in the UK due to eating disorders and depression. Because of this, most of my friends have graduated. I started university again in Australia last year. As some of... View more

Hi. I got diagnosed with depression a few years ago and quit university after year one in the UK due to eating disorders and depression. Because of this, most of my friends have graduated. I started university again in Australia last year. As some of you may have noticed universities recently started semester one, and I had no motivation to study or do the required readings. I just want to lay on my bed and do nothing. I have no passion for doing anything, not only studying but also doing other hobbies. I don't know what should I do now. No matter what I do, I can't feel any pleasure. I did seek help, but I do not think it helps. My mum just blamed me and sarcastically told me not to waste her money on studying. Other than that, my case has transferred to a psychiatrist and psychologist who are totally different from my original one. They do not know my background well. I felt a little bit pushy when they kept on asking me to figure out how to tackle my own issues. Does anyone have a similar experience and can share what I should do? I saw some of you are really brave and handled mental health issues well. Please give me some advice and I wish all students here have a good start of uni and good health to everyone.

Earth Girl People talking about me at work
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I've been working as a cleaner in an office for a bit over a year now and I really like my job, but some of the people who work there (in one of the computer rooms) talk about me. I know this sort of thing happens at work or anywhere really, but they... View more

I've been working as a cleaner in an office for a bit over a year now and I really like my job, but some of the people who work there (in one of the computer rooms) talk about me. I know this sort of thing happens at work or anywhere really, but they talk about me A LOT. They even talk about me while I'm in the very next room, thinking I can't hear them. They say things like "She's so awkward! Like, she's nice enough, but..." (I'm really shy and don't know how to socialize properly), "Why can't she work at a grocery store?" (I tried really hard to get a job in a grocery store, but wasn't successful. Also, if they know how much I struggle socially in this job, shouldn't they realize how much of a mess I would be in a job like that?), "N, use to do her job." "Haha, I love N." "Like, if that is your only job..."My Mum told me that they are ignorant and still need to learn that for people with disabilities, it takes longer for them to learn how to do things. A lot of people at work also make fun of how I talk. (I have something wrong with my voice - long story). I get paid a little under $6 an hour, but my Dad told me I would get paid a lot more if I didn't have a support worker with me. I'm going to be with a new support worker this coming week, but the support worker I had said I was very independent and that I could do the job by myself. I'd be kind of scared to work by myself though because a lot of people there don't seem to really like me. I'm not really sure what to do though. I would like to work longer hours at this job, but then I'll have to listen to them talk about me more and in the last hour of work, my support worker and I struggle to find more things to do. We ask the people working there if there is anything else they would like us to do and they usually say there isn't anything else. I want to get another job as well, but I don't know where I could work. Maybe in a cafe washing dishes and wiping tables?

geelt Feeling overwhelmed and lost with life
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Lots of things are happening at once and I just need an outlet to vent my emotions. My head is full of useless unnecessary thoughts and worries that I keep making up for myself. I can start a new activity or hobby only for me to hyper-fixate and get ... View more

Lots of things are happening at once and I just need an outlet to vent my emotions. My head is full of useless unnecessary thoughts and worries that I keep making up for myself. I can start a new activity or hobby only for me to hyper-fixate and get myself burnt out and wasting a lot of time and money that I really shouldn't be spending. I overthink things and that affects my enjoyment of the activities I do. Thinking and worrying about buying things to do or thinking about doing things but when I get to doing things I start loathing it. I have no impulse control and stress over money when its just a dollar wasting so much brain power over nothing. No discipline. Currently on Job Seeker applying for work with low qualification/ no education needed. I decided that I'm not going to try going back to University because it doesn't feel worthwhile, but also realized how limiting employment opportunities are. Having to rely on public transport with transit taking 1-2 hours at worst to the closest available work. I've recently begun volunteering at a 2nd hand shop as well just to get out the house and interact with people. I worry about having no time to do things I enjoy if I start doing paid work which is contrasted by not enjoying the things I do for enjoyment or overthinking and stressing over small details. I haven't driven in a year and only have my Ls. Stressing and loathing about it wont help and it feels exhausting trying to ask help from my parents. Paranoid about crashing the car and I've been overthinking when going for walks near/crossing the road when the cars are nowhere near me but the hesitation makes worry and is affecting my alertness. I've even begun worrying when going up escalators even though the fear is unreasonable. A lot of hesitation and a lack of confidence with everything I do. The support groups I've been going to so I can take my mind off things have had their funding cut so they've been changed to fortnightly and the counselor I've been going to won't be able to see me for a couple months. I don't know what I want to do long term so I'm trying to change my mindset. Its fine to not make a lot of money, its fine to keep living at home with my parents, its fine not to accomplish anything grand and have a simple life. I have lots of ideas and thoughts of things to do but never follow through and just wallow in self pity and feeling restricted and limited in what I can do having to compromise I dont know

LostPigeon407 I don't like the world since 2012
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I don't like my generation, not only with modern music, but because I am religious and too rare to relate with their modern secular differences. I also don't like the economy today and the expense of living or with education. I prefer 2000's and 1990... View more

I don't like my generation, not only with modern music, but because I am religious and too rare to relate with their modern secular differences. I also don't like the economy today and the expense of living or with education. I prefer 2000's and 1990's clothing and that is not what they make today. Despite knowing Australia's alright, I prefer the cultural attitude of a collectivist society and I hate the individualist approach for numerous reasons. I definitely don't like how modern people don't have any humility and can't take accountability for when their in the wrong, people are too shallow and socially superficial and the look others down with stigma. I also wish people were more light hearted and that actions were still seen as louder than words, rather than controversial because you said something that should be forgotten about by tomorrow.

Mal50 Lifelong depression
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Hello all,this is extremely difficult for me. I've lived with depression, and a sense of worthlessness, my entire life.I did the online Depression test, and was rated 'Very High Risk'.I'm not suicidal, per say. I simply don't want to live any longer.... View more

Hello all,this is extremely difficult for me. I've lived with depression, and a sense of worthlessness, my entire life.I did the online Depression test, and was rated 'Very High Risk'.I'm not suicidal, per say. I simply don't want to live any longer. Death has become far more attractive to me, than life. Life offers me nothing, whereas death offers me freedom. I was diagnosed with stage 4 prostate cancer, about a year ago, and regret undergoing radium treatment. Recently, I refuse to take the prescribed medications that the doctors have given me.Thank you for reading my post.

tirina Myself
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Today I woke up feeling not well just having flashbacks it’s all got to do with my partner I feel lost nobody knows it

Today I woke up feeling not well just having flashbacks it’s all got to do with my partner I feel lost nobody knows it

TheKingOfHearts This is how I feel
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Rather than continue to make multiple posts I will just say how I feel with everything not just one area in this post. Because I need to talk to someone. I suffer from extreme low self esteem and self hated. I hate how I look in fact I despite myself... View more

Rather than continue to make multiple posts I will just say how I feel with everything not just one area in this post. Because I need to talk to someone. I suffer from extreme low self esteem and self hated. I hate how I look in fact I despite myself I feel I am disgusting. My body to me is too large, too hairy and too disjointed. I suffer from skin conditions from not showering due to being extremely depressed. I wish I could be masculine and muscular and hairless. Instead I’m the opposite. And because of my medications I am unable to lose weight. I also suffer from hunger which causes me to eat lots and dry mouth which causes me to drink lots of Coca Cola both from the meds. So that’s my body image if I could make a deal with someone to be healthy and handsome I would. Next thing I want to talk about is my fear of ending up homeless. I have trouble saving money and I spend lots without thinking and I spend it on things I don’t want. I struggle to pay my bills because of this. It might be me trying to make myself feel better. So I have very little money I’m actually on the pension I do live with my mother but I do pay rent and buy my own food and clothes etc and I get a lot of monetary help from her but when she’s gone I will probably due to having no family or friends end up on the streets. I see myself ending up unable to pay for my meds and wandering the streets hungry and in a daze. The next thing I want to talk about is the fact that I feel I have some kind of personality disorder. I have blunted emotions and I don’t have much of an identity. I don’t have any idea of who I am other than the fact that I’m gay. And I don’t know what I want other than the fact that I want to be a nurse and what I want my body to look like. Besides that I have no opnions. Maybe it’s due to being 23 but I think it’s due to having had no real experiences for my whole life. The next thing I want to talk about is my sexuality. I suffer from pretty much every sexual health issue you can imagine and I suffer a ton from this. Because of this I haven’t been able to form a relationship but if I could actually have anything it would be to have love even more than wanting to have my dream body and to be healthy. I actually got involved with witches once to try to get a relationship. Of course that didn’t work out. I used to cry my eyes out like full on sobbing because of the loneliness I feel and I am still lonely. But I’ve realised I’m not meant to experience love so I let it go. And that’s me in a nutshell.

Cloudydays1 My parents staying in a toxic domestic violence relationship
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I’m 35. I live away from my family. My parents have a very unhealthy, physically and emotionally abusive relationship. My mother is a hoarder with 2 households full of collected items. My father is an alcoholic. My siblings and I grew up in this toxi... View more

I’m 35. I live away from my family. My parents have a very unhealthy, physically and emotionally abusive relationship. My mother is a hoarder with 2 households full of collected items. My father is an alcoholic. My siblings and I grew up in this toxic environment witnessing physical and verbs abuse, and are still being subjected to it. My parents fight and it escalates to physical violence. My mother calls us feeling unsafe but will not seek help or leave him. We have begged her but she ends the conversation with us and moves on like her situation isn’t that bad. They sweep it all under the rug and pretend like everything is fine. They are both miserable. I can’t accept them putting on an act anymore. They want to come and visit me to visit my kids but I do not want them in my home pretending like everything is okay. I feel so guilty because I want them to see their grandkids - they are their only happiness. I am also scared that me not allowing them to come will cause more fighting. I am feeling so depressed. How do you help someone who refuses to be helped and potentially cause more fights by demanding that they sort out there issues before visiting again. I feel physically sick about it - everyone around them who knows about this situation does too. Please help

SadUnicorn Burnout? Brain fog? Just crazy?
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Hi everyone, I've been struggling with life for the last 12 months. There has been a lot happening in my life, but I feel like I should be getting "better", but instead I feel worse. For context I am diagnosed with ADHD (medicated) and take anti depr... View more

Hi everyone, I've been struggling with life for the last 12 months. There has been a lot happening in my life, but I feel like I should be getting "better", but instead I feel worse. For context I am diagnosed with ADHD (medicated) and take anti depressants. I have developed a bad attitude and I feel terrible about it. For example I have lost interest in my job to the point I'll do my hobbies during my working hours and not seem to care about the consequences. I love my family and friends, but I don't want to do any social activities or respond to their messages. It's not because I don't care it's because I feel so tired and have zero interest in leaving my space. I used to respond with enthusiasm, but now it's usually one word answers so they know I haven't been abducted by aliens. I have a wonderful partner who I adore and I feel awful because I barely see them. It's because I feel so exhausted and overwhelmed. I seem to be struggling with focus and attention. I used to be able to comprehend complex tasks, but now I find it difficult and overwhelming. My short term memory is terrible and I feel like I can't understand basic things anymore. I have to really really focus before my brain will go "okay, we can do this". Do I have early on set dementia? What is wrong with me? Will I ever feel like myself again? I feel incredibly sad and vulnerable sharing this post. I have spoken to my psychiatrist about this and she says it sounds like burn out from stress, but I don't know if I agree. I am aware that I should be eating better, following a sleep schedule, doing exercise, social things, seeing a psych, doctor etc etc. The thing is I have done these and I still feel the same. My mind knows what I should be doing, but I just don't care enough to do them or I don't have the energy.