Depression

Would really appreciate peoples thoughts on a housing situation !

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Hi to all.lt's an unbelievable time in life to find myself stuck in this position, just don't know how to look at it, or what to do about with it, if l can anything at all. Problem is, at almost 60, yeah l've mixed up details in other threads just a ... View more

Hi to all.lt's an unbelievable time in life to find myself stuck in this position, just don't know how to look at it, or what to do about with it, if l can anything at all. Problem is, at almost 60, yeah l've mixed up details in other threads just a bit concerned some l know may also be here and haven't wanted any connection here that l might know, butttt, yep.Thing is l didn't get anything out of my last house, the people l went into the property with as it was a big place, went broke.Well , sort of lucky although maybe a curse , not sure anymore but l do still have a 1ac country property, 18yrs now, from back when l was married.l can't work anymore for mh reasons but if l took care l can survive until l can get the pension- living at the 1ac place- it only has a small over nighter atm but l could extend and it'd come up quite nice . Problem is, it's in a ting town, 30mins to the main town which is a really nice place and there's also a couple of tiny ones in between before that main buttttt, out where this place is, is tiny and out on it's own .l always planned selling it about now but problems are now that for 1, even if it did sell, it's just a cheap little country block it'd only be a good deposit on something closer in- but circumstances now that'd mean a new mortgage and l'd have to keep working too, don't think l could stomach either of those especially the stress in trying to make it happen.2nd thing highly possible it doesn't even sell anyway. l know l'm lucky to at least have it and all , with the housing crisis and so many in worser positions , l just never dreamed l'd be living on it though and honestly, just don't know but it looks like l might be forced to.l grew up in the city and have lived in some of the nicest places in the country but to have to settle on this place out there now- look the property itself is a really cute block and in a nice little back street- if l could put it on a truck to somewhere else it'd be really nice - but this town. rx

I feel like i have lost something but i do not know what it is.

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I feel like there is something missing. My life is perfect on paper, i get good grades and i have good friends and im creative and fit and cute or whatever but i just..something just feels off. My heart doesn't really resonate with anything that it u... View more

I feel like there is something missing. My life is perfect on paper, i get good grades and i have good friends and im creative and fit and cute or whatever but i just..something just feels off. My heart doesn't really resonate with anything that it used to, my hobbies dont feel fufilling and i cant be bothered to be half as disciplined as i used to. I would rather sleep in the whole day than do anything. There are things that make me happy but i feel like these things come with the cost of failure and...i dont know how to explain. It is so confusing for me and even i don't understand why i'm feeling so lost and tired and fatigued or whatever . Even when i do love something i lose interest after a couple of weeks or i elf sabotage and convince myself to stop putting in so much effort. I push myself to consider what the purpose of all the things i do even are and when this happens i just feel so overwhemed. I need help but i dont know how to get it. I went a school counsellor and they just brushed it off and didn't let me get more sessions and i basically just vented to them but got no help at all. I want to go to a psychologist because theres so much happening in my head but my parents would judge me like they always do and it hurts so much. I feel like im so alone and no one wants to help me. I turn the things i love into habits and then i forget why i do them, i guess. And my mood changes so much too, which really affects why i cant get help because i feel like once i stop feeling sad my sadness from before just doesnt even matter anymore.

Young Onset Parkinson's Disease and depression

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Hi everyone. I was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease about when I was 32 years of age. Since it became an issue, I have not been able to hold down a job for longer than 6 months. I have constant bouts of depression, for which my husband's answer is ... View more

Hi everyone. I was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease about when I was 32 years of age. Since it became an issue, I have not been able to hold down a job for longer than 6 months. I have constant bouts of depression, for which my husband's answer is "suck it up". He is a control freak, has kicked me out of the house, and is having an emotional relationship with a once close female family friend and says it's all in my head. I am about to lose it completely. I just don't know what to do.......

I'm scared

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I feel so numb. I'm just a random teen that's taking a break up too close to heart I guess. Nothing feels right anymore.

Following the breadcrumbs to improve mental health

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Hi everyone, The last few months have been somewhat confusing as I have discovered more about my mental / physical health and how it has all been connected. I had not put the pieces together, I am not sure why, it seems so obvious now. I have dealt w... View more

Hi everyone, The last few months have been somewhat confusing as I have discovered more about my mental / physical health and how it has all been connected. I had not put the pieces together, I am not sure why, it seems so obvious now. I have dealt with Dysthymia since about 12 and Major Depression since about 14 but was not diagnosed until my 40s and had no idea that had been the problem all along. I knew I wasn't like everyone else but thought I was just born that way. Back then mental health was not a subject that was openly discussed and the signs mostly went unrecognised and untreated. I had about 10 years of talk therapy with a social worker that helped immensely. I have had a sensitive digestive system for a good portion of my life, not so much that I sought treatment, just things like indigestion with certain foods, bloating and the like. I suppose I thought everyone had those types of issues. I have also had nervous system reactions over the past 15 years, like involuntary shaking in certain situations, that I had put down to getting older and being less resilient having been through a lot of difficult challenges. I have been seeing a psychotherapist who also does somatic work (turns out you were right mmmekitty, I did need some more help). The first session of somatic work, in this case EFT (tapping), brought up a deep and long standing belief that I did not deserve to be helped. The emotions were buried so deep that I was not even aware of them. After that session things went haywire physically for a few days and took some weeks to start to settle. Being the type of person who needs to have an understanding of what is happening and why, I have been reading many books on the symptoms I have had. That is when I began to join the dots about how interconnected by mental and physical health actually were. It has required a lot of processing on my part, and an acknowledgement of what I have been consciously unaware of, but it has been necessary to finding a way forward. This will be an ongoing journey as new symptoms show up that need to be looked at. I know now that there is a lot of unreleased trauma in my body that is a contributing factor in not healing mentally or physically and I know now what needs to be done to improve. There is only so much that the medical profession can do, I believe the rest of the responsibility lies with us in digging deeper to find the causes and the answers. In many ways, that in itself becomes empowering. Take care all.indigo

Life’s too hard

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(49yo) First time posting… I have been feeling very very low for a decade, and I can’t snap out of it. This morning, I decided to type ‘beyond blue’ in to my browser. The first site that came across was ‘MensLine.’ I clicked on it and saw several rea... View more

(49yo) First time posting… I have been feeling very very low for a decade, and I can’t snap out of it. This morning, I decided to type ‘beyond blue’ in to my browser. The first site that came across was ‘MensLine.’ I clicked on it and saw several reasons for mental health. They were…Men’s mental health, including anxiety and depressionRelationship problemsAnger managementCoping strategiesGrief and lossLoneliness and isolationParentingStressSuicide preventionIt’s a little concerning, when I realised that every one of these IS affecting me. Some more so than others. I feel so alone, but find myself going to bed early to be alone. I have never dealt with the loss of my grand mother, which affected me a lot. As did the loss of an uncle, and my mum won’t be too far away. I want to feel closer to my wife, although I feel that she isn’t trying…or is it me. I feel lonely and depressed nearly all of the time. I only have 1 true friend, who lives 2hrs away. The only other person I hang out with outside of my wife and girls, are my parents. Parenting…I have teenage girls, so I’ll say no more about that. I gave up alcohol 10 months ago. I feel that’s 1 positive in my life. I was brought up to be a man, so I keep all of this inside me. When I’m asked, “Hey, how are you?.” My answer is always, “Couldn’t be better!”Maybe things will get better soon…

I feel like a failure

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I feel like a failure because I should have my life figured out by now but I don’t. I feel like I’m failing uni because I’m so behind everyone in my cohort and not sure if I’ll even complete my degree because my confidence has been shaken and my life... View more

I feel like a failure because I should have my life figured out by now but I don’t. I feel like I’m failing uni because I’m so behind everyone in my cohort and not sure if I’ll even complete my degree because my confidence has been shaken and my life tipped outside down. I feel like I’ve taken a step backwards in not being able to get out of bed or do grocery shopping or get out of the house. I cancelled two appointments with my psych due to experiencing depression and not being able to leave the house on those days and now I’m back on the waitlist. I regret my decision to cancel now.In this moment I don’t feel like I will experience joy again. I feel so isolated and alone. I don’t feel like anyone truely understands what I’m going through and how difficult it is to keep on going. I find it hard to confide in others because I feel like a burden. I tend to mask how I truely feel around others because it’s easier to say “I’m ok”rather than be honest and say that “I’m not ok”. To this end I’ve been avoiding seeing people which is not the norm for me even though I know it would be good that I do… i just find it really hard to explain how I’m going and have small talk. I’d love to hear from anyone who has experienced anything similar so that I feel less alone. 🫶

Need tools to escape depression

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Hi Everyone, A bit of background first. I've been diagnosed with Agoraphobia, Depression and PTSD as well as suffering from akathesia and am neurodivergent. I have had therapy to deal with these things and have tools that I use to help. Due to the ak... View more

Hi Everyone, A bit of background first. I've been diagnosed with Agoraphobia, Depression and PTSD as well as suffering from akathesia and am neurodivergent. I have had therapy to deal with these things and have tools that I use to help. Due to the akathesia I can't take SSRIs. I also suffered chronic pain in both my knees for 15 years that caused a lot of depression and as a result I became suicidal. A few years back I had surgery to replace my knees and blessedly, no more pain. My previous bouts of depression had morphed straight to suicidal thoughts, and all the therapy has dealt with that specifically. My current dilemma. I have over the last year lost all interest in everything. I do nothing and get frustrated and cranky when I have to do anything. I don't feel things how I used to mostly I'm just "meh". Now it has got to the point where I just lay in bed, I don't sleep and am not tired. I have a very vivid imagination, and I go off into that. Something I did all the time as a kid to escape what happening around me. I rarely shower, brush my teeth, cook, clean or any of the things I normally do. I recognise I am depressed but do not know how to get out of this. I function well with routines, and they have always been very important to me to function properly, but I can't seem to get back into it. Previously, therapy for my depression we only looked and helping with my suicidal thoughts and tools around that. This is the first time in my life I have felt this way. I have no tools or for some reason can't modify the tools I have to help. My doctor of 25 years has retired, and I have got a new one now and he doesn't understand why I can't use SSRIs. My akathesia goes crazy and I can't sleep at all or function properly due to lack of sleep and I can't sit or stand or remain still in any way. I can't afford to see a therapist and the waiting list is long for a free or cheaper one. What I would like to know is how to get back into my routines and habits of self-care and care for my home environment. I know if I can do this, I will be ok but can't seem to get it started. I know this is my escape but currently do not know what it is I am escaping. My life is ok and no major stressors but this. Sometimes I think I am escaping my escape. What tools have others used with depression to help them get back their self-care?

Poppy Angel - the importance of pets

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My name is Mel-Ann Collie,though friends just call me Mel,so listen up to the talethat I’m about to tell.I’d reached rock bottom,was in deep despair,there was no warmth orcolour anywhere.Each day had become somewhat colder,the world weighed heavily o... View more

My name is Mel-Ann Collie,though friends just call me Mel,so listen up to the talethat I’m about to tell.I’d reached rock bottom,was in deep despair,there was no warmth orcolour anywhere.Each day had become somewhat colder,the world weighed heavily on my shoulder. I felt broken, lost,devoid of feeling lying in bedstaring at the ceiling,wondering howto continue onthrough the bleak,oppressive dawn.In the midst of this painful sorrow I could see no future or a tomorrow.My saving grace was Poppy Angel:a faithful pet who was more than ableto get me through the desolation and help overcome the isolation.She would nuzzle in to my neck,not caring one bitthat I was a wreck,pulling me through many a day,keeping my negative thoughts at bay,while licking my face,wagging her tail,lifting my spirits without fail.This was better than any doctor’s pill,healing my soul,healing the chillof a thousand winters held inside,letting me cross the great divide from dark tolight to live again,and all because of my furry friend.

Being a bit parentified

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I was watching a Youtube and in the video, it said that your parents should help you with your problems, but they shouldn't get you to help them with their problems. My Mum is often asking my sisters and I for support and help with her problems. I of... View more

I was watching a Youtube and in the video, it said that your parents should help you with your problems, but they shouldn't get you to help them with their problems. My Mum is often asking my sisters and I for support and help with her problems. I often use to give her as much support and advice as I could, even when it was over something little and she never took the advice. She said it was good, she said she would try it and then the next day, she would tell me what she did and what she did was the exact opposite of what I suggested. For example, she'd tell me these dumb, over the top arguments she had with people while playing table tennis, then I would explain to her ways she can be more assertive, so it doesn't get to that point, then she said that it sounded really good and that she would try it and the next day she would tell me that she told so and so to f off and all sorts of things. What makes it even more annoying is that when I tell her about my problems (which are a lot more serious than being about things like ping pong), she usually acts like she couldn't care less. Even if I'm getting bullied really badly or if I'm talking about something that happened when I was having a psychotic episode, she just doesn't care most of the time and my Dad cares even less. The Youtube video also said that your parents shouldn't be naked in front of you if you are over the age of 2 (which I knew before watching this because... ewe), but my parents do this all the time. My Dad will walk around in a long T-shirt without any pants on and just pull his T-shirt down when his not in his room and my Mum will walk around the house completely naked, she'd even look out the loungeroom window, hands on hips, completely naked and if we said something she would go "Nobody outside will be able to see me because of the plants." Whenever we would ask/tell her if she could stop/to stop walking around the house naked, she would get mad at us and sometimes scarily mad at us. The last time I nicely asked her not to she went "Oh Earth Girl, you're such a drama queen!" and then I said, "How would you feel if your Mum walked around the house naked?" and she went "Oh! I would throw a fit!" then I said, then maybe you should stop doing it!? and she said "Okay, well, I'll think about it." What do you mean you "will think about it"?! She sometimes even goes outside to take the bins out without any pants on. They also don't think they need to wash their hands after going to the toilet after going number 1 because "he doesn't get it on his hands" or "urine is sterile." They drive me crazy.

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Would really appreciate peoples thoughts on a housing situation !

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I feel like i have lost something but i do not know what it is.

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