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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Scoota Feeling lost
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Hi first time posting in this forum. I have suffered from major depression for over 20 years. At times feel like I'm a complete waste of being alive. I am on my 3rd marriage. Was abused by my first husband and second husband cheated on me. I feel the... View more

Hi first time posting in this forum. I have suffered from major depression for over 20 years. At times feel like I'm a complete waste of being alive. I am on my 3rd marriage. Was abused by my first husband and second husband cheated on me. I feel the need to have to have a man in my life so I married for the 3rd time. While I have had lots of down days and spent a whole year not leaving my bedroom I have considered suicide. I have managed to battle with my depression as I'm almost 60 I'm rethinking life. I don't want to work anymore I actually hate working as I have worked since I was 16 years old. Feel my mental health would benefit from daily work life stresses. I'm wanting to enjoy the rest of my life by not having the pressure of work. Just wondering if anyone else feels the same? I'm exhausted everyday and battle just to get ready for work.

TahliaKeung I just know I can't tell my parents
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hi. i'm 13, and this is the first time i've done this before. it feels weird, reaching out, because my whole life i've been forced to hide my thoughts. it's been hard. like, really hard. i'm in year 8, and being a major procrastinator, i've even mana... View more

hi. i'm 13, and this is the first time i've done this before. it feels weird, reaching out, because my whole life i've been forced to hide my thoughts. it's been hard. like, really hard. i'm in year 8, and being a major procrastinator, i've even managed to procrastinate getting help for myself. crazy right? i do get thoughts of 'maybe they don't need me' or 'what if when my friends say they'll be here for me, they're lying?'. 'im not sure if i have depression, but i'll be honest, if i did, i wouldn't be surprised. i was told my life by my parents, you can cry, we'll be there. but every single time i cry in front of them, they tell me it's my fault and i shouldn't be crying about it. This was like the time i lost all record of an assignment due in 5 days. i cried, really heavily, and my mother then proceeded to say, "thank god it's gone, i thought the look was horrible."im sorry what? That was 6 hours of nonstop work and thought and she says that? really kind mum, you're such a saint.My amazing dad then said, "Why are you crying about this when it's your fault? Honestly you're 13 grow up." He then said i wasn't allowed to cry, said it was pointless.i also did try to talk about my suicidal thoughts. I did, i really tried. But my Chinese parents just said, you're just lazy. find some initiative, get some discipline for god's sake, why are you like this.my parents are 'perfect' people. always top of their class, discplined, 'never needed help doing homework, my parents were divorced and my grandma didnt know how to do it' blah blah blah. sometimes i think if it's worth waiting the 5 years for a chance to study abroad and be free for once. my parents are ok with me hanging out with my friends, they i could go to the easter show with them next year, but they can be so annoying and overprotective and i just dont know how to deal with this anymore.and i just know my parents won't help me in any way. i cant get a therapist on my own, and i dont think i can book my own medical appointment, and my GP is also chinese. please help me.

Nothing Left I’m lonely and lost and close to giving up completely
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I had an episode of major depression and anxiety almost 4 years ago. Fought on for 18 months before the family had enough and the marriage ended. Divorce going through now. I’m 51. I’ve lost a lucrative career and my home, my grown up sons hate me an... View more

I had an episode of major depression and anxiety almost 4 years ago. Fought on for 18 months before the family had enough and the marriage ended. Divorce going through now. I’m 51. I’ve lost a lucrative career and my home, my grown up sons hate me and won’t speak to me. I have no friends at all and no family in Australia. I literally go to my new crap paid job or sit at home with my cat. I never go out or do anything. My meds keep stuff in check to a point but I’m constantly sad and lonely. I wish I was still with my wife but that’s gone, I can’t imagine I’ll ever get someone else and see no point in life now. My self esteem and confidence is zero. I hate myself. What can I do? Right now I’m just existing and I hate life.

Moving forward happy Struggling with life
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I’ve always tried to be a positive person but recently I can’t shake the overwhelming depression I am feeling which leaves me sitting here feeling almost paralysed and not able to do anything at all. Each month my rent is behind (it’s been raised 4 t... View more

I’ve always tried to be a positive person but recently I can’t shake the overwhelming depression I am feeling which leaves me sitting here feeling almost paralysed and not able to do anything at all. Each month my rent is behind (it’s been raised 4 times in the last two years) to which I recieve email after email threatening eviction, that alone causes me so much stress and anxiety, having the roof over my head and my sons threatened each month. Keeping up with bills and even food shopping these days is rediculous, I’ve had issues with my car being impounded and can’t get it back cause of the price it costs, I’m almost finished my studies in community service but I have 200 hours of placement left which means I can’t get a job right now, I’ve come too far with my diploma just to give up now. I’m over having to fight for everything. I miss the world and how it used to be, everything these days is just so cold and everyone seems to just look after themselves, life never used to be so hard, is it just me or does anyone feel this way? I just need a break, I just want to be able to live my life instead of fighting so hard just to keep my head above water. Everything revolves around money, or lack of, even taking the kids anywhere costs so much now, adding to my guilt and depression when I can’t afford to do what every one else seems to be doing.

dubrovnik Fed up, angry & unsupported
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Hello i have written previously to this forum & had a lot of supportive and caring messages from people who really seemed to understand my situation.Thank you all for responding. My mother is suffering from vascular dementia, a nurse comes to care fo... View more

Hello i have written previously to this forum & had a lot of supportive and caring messages from people who really seemed to understand my situation.Thank you all for responding. My mother is suffering from vascular dementia, a nurse comes to care for her3 days a week, I work part time now & care for my mother on my days off.I took my mother to her doctor for her regular checkup mum has had problems standing up & getting up, she uses a walker & walking stick. I spoke to her doctor and told him that’s what has been happening, he referred her to get some tests done at a local clinic, ji have also organised a physiotherapist to come to my parents home twice a week to help them with their mobility.i told my sister that I took mum to visit her doctor, she had the audacity to call the doctor & ask him did I tell him about her problems with standing, mums doctor spoke to her and told her that that I told him everything.I asked her why she did that, she said that she didn’t believe that I told himabout mums current situation. she doubted me which made me very upset and angry, we got into an argument which left me really distraught.I am a very articulate & courteous woman who is very good at communicating but this makes me doubt myself I am feeling very down & don’t know what to do.

Guest_29787113 Crippling insecurity
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I have been trying to explain my feeling to my few family and friends but it seems they have grown annoyed and uninterested with my concerns but I am desperate. I need to know if what I am feeling is normal or unfair to my partner. My partner in my e... View more

I have been trying to explain my feeling to my few family and friends but it seems they have grown annoyed and uninterested with my concerns but I am desperate. I need to know if what I am feeling is normal or unfair to my partner. My partner in my eyes is amazing in every way possible, I adore the man but because I have put him on such a high pedestal I now feel inadequate and unworthy of him. I feel cripplingly insecure. Lately he has been distant with me, less affectionate and less attentive. I fear he is losing interest and so now I am tearing myself apart trying to figure out what is wrong with me. Did I push him away? Annoy him? Turn him off? Am I unattractive in his eye? Was he ever into me in the first place or was it all just convenient? God knows. His exes were all skinny girls and shorter than I am. He even said I am the first bigger girl he has dated. He has gone through a break up with his long term girlfriend months prior to me and was seeing others whilst talking to me. I fear I may even be a rebound. I do not know, this speculation is hurting my heart and head and I want someone to tell me the truth. He has been telling me a-lot of stories of him and his exes as well as the women he was “seeing” whilst talking to me. The stories have been making me feel sick to my core, I genuinely felt like I could vomit just from hearing him talk about it. It had made me feel disgusted by him. I may just be immature and insecure but if that is the case I just want to be told. Hearing it will definitely give me some closure and assure that I can find away to work around it.

TheKingOfHearts What should I do?
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Hey guys. I'm back again. and I’m now trialing more antidepressants not sure if I’ve mentioned it but I’ve tried a few medications that ended up giving me really bad anxiety and the other one extreme tiredness. so now I’m waiting to see the doctor to... View more

Hey guys. I'm back again. and I’m now trialing more antidepressants not sure if I’ve mentioned it but I’ve tried a few medications that ended up giving me really bad anxiety and the other one extreme tiredness. so now I’m waiting to see the doctor to change antidepressants. i also suffer from autism and schizophrenia because one mental disorder isn’t enough for one person apparently. and I’m really struggling with the problem of things never going to be okay or perfect. I find the idea of having a life less than what I want it to be extremely hard to deal with and it causes me a great deal of suffering. i see my cousin having this beautiful lavish life filled with three houses, cars for the entire family, three two week long vacations and expensive purses along with the trifecta of health, good looks and love and I am very jealous and envious of her. I want that, I want to experience the good life, a life of wealth and health. happiness in a word is wealthy to me. sure wealth doesn’t buy you happiness but it makes life a thousand times better. and the thing about me is I’m poor, I’m in poverty along with my mother, I hate having this broken down stuff, the fridge, the slow and weak, thin water etc i wish for a better life and it’s not just the wealth, it’s the health, her and all her kids have great health. buy I don’t, I’ve got mental and physical conditions. I’m sad all the time especially because of my lack of energy, the fact I cannot even get out of bed, shower, cook, clean, work etc I’m on the pension. i have no friends and no family besides my mother and those on Facebook. i have no lover and no past relationships, I’ve never had a boyfriend. And I’m over it all, I also especially hate my side effects the dry mouth, the hunger, the weight gain, the inability to enjoy a night out because I can’t drink. its terrible so I’ve come back seeking more advice. what should I do? I have asked for various advice before but all about bits and pieces now here is the whole story. what would you do in my situation? when things will never be perfect, when I will always be unhealthy and poor and chained to my meds like a slave to the medical community?

Ranga-1 At a crossroads
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Hi, I'm in my fifties and for the past few years my husband has been chronically ill. For the past few years, it's been one thing after the other, insofar as his health is concerned. I work and study (hopefully complete my online degree this year or ... View more

Hi, I'm in my fifties and for the past few years my husband has been chronically ill. For the past few years, it's been one thing after the other, insofar as his health is concerned. I work and study (hopefully complete my online degree this year or early next year). I see a psychologist and am encouraging my husband to do the same. He cannot work and this depresses him, along with the health issues. I feel like we are heading in different directions (maybe because I"m busy and on a new career path). I find myself constantly resentful and irritated with him. I'm wondering if this is normal when dealing with spouse who is not firing on all cylinders. I have checked in with our two young adult sons and they tell me they're coping okay with their dad's issues, which makes me feel a bit better. I wonder about moving away from this area when I finish my degree because I think I would prefer a different working environment than what's on offer here. I could possibly get a rental and have our son move in - it would do him good to get away from this area because there's nothing here for him that he's interested in. He's studying at the moment two days a week, so it's good he's occupied. Any thoughts or support from this wonderful community would be appreciated.

Atomic_Wolf_Boy Completely f*cked!!!
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It's a complicated scenario but I've been wrongly diagnosed with schizophrenia and I've been stuck under psychiatry for the last twelve years. I have to have consultations every six months that I don't want to have. I have to constantly get scripts a... View more

It's a complicated scenario but I've been wrongly diagnosed with schizophrenia and I've been stuck under psychiatry for the last twelve years. I have to have consultations every six months that I don't want to have. I have to constantly get scripts and go every month to the chemist and buy un wanted medication. I have to have medical certificates and possibly occupational assessments just to legally drive a vehicle too because of it, when I'm sane anyway. After over coming weight gain, I then have had lasting un wanted belly stretch marks. To make it worse I then was diagnosed with pre diabetes and three years after that I was made to have a cholecystectomy. I'm constantly fighting with any therapist and doctor because their telling me that I'm indenyl and that I lack insight and that their experts and I know their wrong. It's abusive when I know I am the injustice and the victim. I also have so many experiences where I know it's a combination of North American's or doctors/ therapist's and their laughing about my malpractice scenario and misdiagnosis that they are trying to make me feel different, less intelligent or wither I'm more on the autistic spectrum. It's furthermore abuse. I even had one GP write caution on my patient paper when given to another GP. All my life before and even still now I've disliked my father. But I've always obviously been financially dependent on him. He tells me wither I'm disabled, soft, inept, weak, pale, wither I should be driving, wither I want to work or wither I can cook anything without burning the house down. I not only had been socially, verbally and physically bullied and degraded all during high school and hated everyone in my school. I made the mistake of knowing two of them until I was 23, when I was more wanting friends because I was in a younger personality back then. Since high school it's been 11 years and I've only had 9 month's of volunteer because I've had no direction for which jobs I would want to do. There's no certificates I want to do and I can't achieve anything from University. I won't work a apprenticeship or a traineeship or anything with construction. I was told by one of their mothers at 19 that I was a loser. I don't want to work entry sales, hospitality, factory or even retail most likely. There's no route to direct my life in now.

JJJ I don't know what to do
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Hi, I'm a second year university student, and recently I've been experiencing a lots of negative emotions that I'm struggling to cope with. The constant anxiety I'm having with my studies is really impacting me day to days. I'm cyring all nights, nea... View more

Hi, I'm a second year university student, and recently I've been experiencing a lots of negative emotions that I'm struggling to cope with. The constant anxiety I'm having with my studies is really impacting me day to days. I'm cyring all nights, nearly everyday. I would be eating and suddenly think of the assignments dueing soon, and immediately lose appetite, with that weird, disguting feeling emerging from my stomach, urging me to continue on study. But when I get to my desk I'd start procrastinating, franctically scrolling through social medias and kpop vids while torturing with the stress of assignments. Every morning I'd wake up and know that I'd need to study but am struggling to even get up off bed. I know I should stop procrastinating and take action immediately but I just can't Things had gotten worse yesterday when I was taking my break from study. Standing on top of the stairs, I had such a strong urge off throwing my self down the stairs so I can get a broken limb as an exemption or a medical condition to apply for an extension. My self destructive thoughts had becoming more and more frequent. But what really confuses(?) Me is that these depressed and anxious moods usually occur during time at school. Like I'd be fine during the holidays, having regular appetite and no trouble falling asleep. But as soon as I get caught up with too much works I'll experience a super strong sense of eagerness of self harming. A few weeks ago I had an instructive thought about crushing myself into the traffic when I was waiting for my bus just to end and take a break I don't want to share this to anyone since I'm sounding psychotic. My sister had a severe case of depression and I don't want to add any more burden to my family. I also fear the efforts to reach out to a psychologist