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Hi Pepper. Welcome. Your symptoms so reflect my own. I dont have a partner or kids though.
See your GP and tell them the truth. My world has not improved yet from this but I do have medication which is one step. The shame and humiliation is not going to go away. It's something I'm trying to simply accept. Loss of dignity, strength, empowerment, independence and a big of joy. Go see a Dr and like me get to step one at least.
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Hi Pepper, welcome here.
Miss anne Throwpy had some good advice there. Please consider it.
I'm hoping you'll show your husband my reply.
There is the medical side to assess your anxiety and other possible issues like depression etc. There is also the follow up like therapy, relationship counselling etc. And there is the self help area.
I found with y mental health issues all my life (am 59yo) that you can do a lot to enhance your life that can steer you away from potentially worsening mental health conditions. For example-
If you have your own home can you move to a smaller home, change suburbs or move to the country to eliminate or drastically reduce your mortgage? This allowing less stress and lead you to part time work instead of full time.? Financial stress = adds to mental stress
Some "us" time, hubby and you spending quality time together. Tell him you want to get closer and that you are not as close as you'd like and keep the truth from him due to fear of failure/rejection. Ask him to join you in researching mental illness. This could be as simple as reading a few threads here on Beyond Blue each night. Few people understand mental illness.
If there are any people that add stress to your life eliminate them from your life.
Make it a priority to take care of yourself better. Gym work, diet and hobbies/sport all help you towards a clear happy mind.
You already know that telling fibs is wrong. But its your guilt about doing this that will bring you undone. Dont allow guilt to effect your life. You can only do your best in life and your best is living the truth. But I understand totally why you did. Thats ok, move on.
In the meantime ask hubby to help you in a couple of ways with chores or shopping trips. You need looking after, you are fragile, you need others around you that can steer you in the right direction.
hope that helps. Tony WK
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Thank you White Knight and miss Anne Throwpy...I have today seen my GP made an appointment in a couple of days time for a psychcologist. This is well overdue and time I stopped believing nothing was wrong and I can deal with it. I have a little medication for anxiety that has been given. My husband and I have talked and he is so understanding and was so shocked but now that I have mentioned it to him he see's everything and understands now why some things have been happening. But I couldn't ask for more of a supporting husband....I think I have fallen in love all over again. Thank you for beyond blue and all that have contributed, I know I have a ways to go but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, as all it really took was for me to admit I have a problem to myself and my loved ones and address it.
Thank you once again.