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I feel so tired

anonymousmouse
Community Member

Hi everyone, I am still pretty young and have just started my journey into adulthood but it’s so hard. I feel so exhausted and want to give up. 

 

Every day feels like a challenge. I feel like I’m in a nightmare and I can’t wake up. Nothing is going to plan. I want someone to wake me up and tell me that I’m going well in my degree and that my friends can like me again. But instead I just keep crying to my mum, it feels like she is my only support. 


I reach out to coworkers and even after venting, I do not feel any better. I just want to fall asleep forever. If this is what adulthood is going to be like, I feel like I should just leave now 

 

 

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sallySurvivor
Community Member

Hello love,

Have you seen a General Practitioner to talk about this? I struggled alot when i was young and didnt realise how much a GP can help.

 

i thought i was just tired and overwhelmed so it wasnt really a medical problem but that is exactly what GPs are there for. They can check bloods like iron levels and other things. Make sure there is no underlying reason for your symptoms. (For me they found low iron and b12 levels and was able to improve my energy levels at the time).

 

If everything checks out alright they can suggest counselling or a care plan if they think it will help.

i would definitely recommend checking in with a GP. Forums like this are also great to talk with others in similar situations. 

 

therising
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi anonymousmouse

 

sallySurvivor offers great advice, especially when it comes to making a GP a definite port of call. Getting some blood tests becomes a good start, making sure there are no underlying issues that are behind such a challenging lack of energy. Personally, I had no idea how challenging and debilitating a depressing level of B12 deficiency was until I came to feel it. Chemical deficiencies can really mess with us mentally, energetically and even on some soulful level.

 

Being a 53yo gal, it's only been in the last few years that I've finally worked out there are times in life where a guide is an absolute must. Better late than never, hey. I've been doing adulthood for a while now and I still find there are times where I don't know how to do it without some form of guidance. I'm sure there'll be times in the future too. I think it's because there's no guidebook to it, therefor you gotta kind of write one for yourself as you go along. Also, so much in life involves first time challenges, so it's a matter of how to manage a challenge for the first time with the need to gain self understanding, skills, tools, abilities etc to be able to manage. A whole other level involves how to manage all that as a feeler or sensitive (someone who's sensitive to everything they feel). So much, in the way of life challenges, doesn't get talked about or taught to us which can lead to that sometimes soul destroying statement we can so often ask our self, 'What's wrong with me?'.

 

We are seriously complex creatures. From chemistry through to the imagination, so much requires management and skill development when it comes to how we tick. A sense of wonder and the willingness to research and find guides is something that can make a difference. Take the imagination for example. If you are somewhat of a seer, who can often see the way forward through your imagination, how to manage when you can't see the way forward becomes the challenge. Finding someone who can see for you through that period of blindness or darkness is often the best way to manage. Find someone who can lead you to see the best way forward, while also leading you to understand what it is you're actually struggling with. Sometimes we're not entirely conscious of what it's all about.

 

While venting is definitely good for the nervous system and other systems in our body, venting with guidance in tow is even better.

MKE
Community Member

Hi, I’m sorry you’re feeling like this. I hope you can reach out to a GP or counsellor to get some extra help with how you’re feeling. Please don’t give up. Give yourself plenty of time and self care while you’re adjusting into adulthood. With time things become easier. 

Hi Sally

 

Thank you for your response. I know that I have an iron deficiency- although I haven't had a blood test done in awhile. I'm also on a mental healthcare plan. Thank you, hopefully this feeling won't last forever. 

Thank you therising, I definitely agree. I wish I could have some sort of guidance through this time as it feels like a lot of different parts of my life are not going to plan. 

Thank you, I appreciate it

T-sauras-rex
Community Member

Hi anonymousmouse 

 

Oh boi can I relate to this! I am constantly tired and literally have no idea what I am doing. I have no idea how everyone does it, and makes the adult world, studying, working, socialising, self-care time, all of it look so easy. I don't know if I am missing integral pieces to be able to do all of this and function like a proper human in society or I am just an abnormally slow "teen to adult-er", but either way you are definitely not alone in these feelings. 

I wish I had the answers for you and was able to help, but I hope that knowing that you are definitely not the only early/young-adult feeling like this is somewhat comforting; as I found your post reassuring for me. 

 

Thank you so much for sharing! No matter what, YOU'VE GOT THIS! 💪🥇