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Chris_B Forums etiquette: give support to receive support
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Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newb... View more

Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newbies are welcomed when they first post, and we understand that it’s a big step to post for the first time on a forum like this, especially if you aren’t feeling great. It’s important to remember, though, that these forums are a community of real people, just like you, not a one-on-one support environment like going to see your psychologist. To get the best out of being here, one of the best tips we can offer is give support to receive support. Being a good community member means: participating in different threads (not just your own), replying to people who have taken the time to reply to you (even if it’s just to say thank you), and... posting words of emotional support and encouragement when you see others who are hurting and reaching out. You don’t have to feel obliged to solve the problems of others: that’s not what we’re here for. But you can offer empathy and what you’ve learned from your own life experiences, even if it’s just a line or two, eg. “I don't know what to say, but I want to give you my support and tell you I care about what is happening to you and hope life will get better soon.” Try to develop an interest in the journeys of others here on the forums. You may be surprised at how good being an active, caring member here can make you feel. For those of you who have had good experiences giving support here on the forums, please post in this thread here and let us know how it has helped you on your journey.

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BlxrryFace Is it really worth it?
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Hello, I’m new here, I’m BlxrryFace, age 17 and I’m male. I hope everyone is alright. I’ve hopped on today to talk about myself and my issues. Mental health conditions:I don’t even know what mental health conditions are, but I’ll list what I think. I... View more

Hello, I’m new here, I’m BlxrryFace, age 17 and I’m male. I hope everyone is alright. I’ve hopped on today to talk about myself and my issues. Mental health conditions:I don’t even know what mental health conditions are, but I’ll list what I think. I have bad anxiety issues, doubt myself everyday, trust issues, lack of sleep, zero confidence, always angry, always tired. I’ve given up on myself and I know I will never be good enough. I’m tired of trying to live up to the expectations as I’m not even smart. I think I have trauma as a kid Idk. Right now, I’m so tired of living. I’ve always felt like this for years (lost count) and I’m so lost. I’m tired of helping friends with their issues as no one helps me. I hate myself, I really do. I never talk to anyone about my feelings and problems knowing I will get hurt and judged. I put up the tough act even as a kid, I push away my needs and help those who need it even though I am suffering. The memories I remember as a child never went away and I get lovely reminders of those memories nearly everyday. My parents divorced, still got my mother and got a stepdad. Things didn’t turn out pretty. They always argued and fought. I was always scared for my mother. Justa scare 5 year old. My mum used to be so happy before he came. I say the past never forgets. I am in the past stuck. What he did to my mother I will never forgive nor forget. And to witness that as a kid will always traumatise me. I’ve been feeling sad for years now, I don’t deserve anything, I don’t deserve help. I’m just tired. I don’t know what to do, I’m so lost and I know the future for me won’t be anything better than this. I don’t know why I’m writing this. I don’t know if I even need help but everything painful. I wake up sad, go to sleep sad its so tiring. I wonder if its really worth living? I guess the only reason why I’m here is to protect my mother. I don’t believe in friends as they only use you or they are fake. I feel so alone my mother has changed and I can’t blame her. Do I even need help? I guess I just needed to let my feelings out. Wondered If anyone would listen to me just for once. Maybe because I’m suicidal, maybe thats why I’m here. I don’t know. I guess this is it, thank you.

TheBigBlue Trichotillamania (hair pulling)
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Anyone else suffer with this? i didn’t even know it was a thing until I mentioned it to my psychologist. Then I found it had a name & I was able to read up about it. I'm trying really hard to divert myself away from doing it. But I’ve been feeling so... View more

Anyone else suffer with this? i didn’t even know it was a thing until I mentioned it to my psychologist. Then I found it had a name & I was able to read up about it. I'm trying really hard to divert myself away from doing it. But I’ve been feeling so stressed recently that I find myself pulling my eyelashes out again. I know, it sounds like the weirdest thing ever. But i can’t stop & I feel “better” when I do it. I'm not sure if this is a rare or common issue, so just wondering if anyone else out there has it?

Madale My Social Phobia, I've decided to take steps, baby steps and fight it! At least start fighting it!
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Finally I have decided to get out of that entrance door! I'm shivering thinking about it, but I'll just push myself! I've had enough! I'm planning to go out for a walk or maybe even just stand at the portico (after few hours). I want to do it, I hope... View more

Finally I have decided to get out of that entrance door! I'm shivering thinking about it, but I'll just push myself! I've had enough! I'm planning to go out for a walk or maybe even just stand at the portico (after few hours). I want to do it, I hope I do it. 🥺

kelly222 Help
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hi. i have recently made an account with beyond blue as i have been struggling with negative thoughts, low mood and disinterested in life. im 25 years old, and usually loving life. but of recent (last 3 months) these intrusive, negative thoughts seem... View more

hi. i have recently made an account with beyond blue as i have been struggling with negative thoughts, low mood and disinterested in life. im 25 years old, and usually loving life. but of recent (last 3 months) these intrusive, negative thoughts seem to consume me every day from when i wake up to falling asleep. I find that i dont want to fall asleep because i dont want another day to start again. I have a partner, live away from home and have a full time job. I find i have no interest in catching up with friends, going to the gym and socialising. These feelings are new to me, i think these thoughts have started since finishing uni and going into the real world. My work is very stressful and im not sure if i enjoy it anymore but i cant move jobs because i have bills to pay, im stuck in this negative feedback loop what are some tips that any of you find helpful managing these thoughts and low mood? thank you so much

Eoeon I constantly feel like everyone hates me
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Hi! You can call me C, I am an 18 year old from Sydney I live a pretty busy life, and come into contact with lots of people on the daily. I’m a student at University, I’m in the Kendo club, and I work 5 days a week for an airport company assisting pe... View more

Hi! You can call me C, I am an 18 year old from Sydney I live a pretty busy life, and come into contact with lots of people on the daily. I’m a student at University, I’m in the Kendo club, and I work 5 days a week for an airport company assisting people with special needs. Im actually pretty new to all of these things, and everyone I know is new.. but I have an issue. Everywhere I go, be it work, uni, or sport, I feel like everyone, no matter how friendly they are, if they invite me to things, call me, or treat me well, I feel like absolutely everyone thinks that I’m super annoying and hate me with a passion. I feel like even though there’s no actual signs of it, everyone is talking behind my back. i know a few reasons why this might be happening - the aviation industry is incredibly toxic, and I am the youngest person at my company - I am generally unskilled at sports and am likely dragging others down (also while being one of the youngest) - I was bullied in primary school for having adhd im really just looking for some advice on how to handle these thoughts. I’m generally fine while I’m out and about, but at the end of the day when I’m on my own, My head is filled with these horrible intrusive thoughts. please help

powerchord007 Catastrophic thoughts that take root in our thinking
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Hi All My anxiety seems to have taken the form of brooding, catastrophic thoughts. Things I find abhorrent and opposite to my character, I worry that I'll spontaneously act on them, even though I know I never would. One 'go-to' example for my mind in... View more

Hi All My anxiety seems to have taken the form of brooding, catastrophic thoughts. Things I find abhorrent and opposite to my character, I worry that I'll spontaneously act on them, even though I know I never would. One 'go-to' example for my mind involves swerving to nudge a cyclist, or into an oncoming vehicle on a narrow highway. Not only that, but I project into a hypothetical catastrophic future/fallout from such an event. eg run into a cyclist > the cyclist doesn't survive > their family is understandably devastated > my 'life' will be over > I'll be arrested, tried and receive a jail sentence etc. As if all of that isn't ludicrous enough, I then start to predict what will happen during incarceration, and it goes on and on. This occasionally impacts on my life activities, as I feel anxious the moment I know I have to drive somewhere on a certain route/s. If it's in 2 weeks' time, I'll feel anxious for the whole 2 weeks leading up to it, with my mind trying to convince me that all of these negative events will occur. I move between avoidance and occasional deliberate exposure, during which I'll practice driving down the coast where there are cyclists. Of course I never bump into any(!), although I sometimes feel a horrible tingling, a hot flush, and knotted stomach as I pass by them. I'm sure others have had similar unpleasant thought processes, with various coping techniques? Thanks for having a read, and I look forward to any responses

loz8927 ADHD - every day is either a high or a low - trying meds doesn’t seem to be working?
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I’m 25 yo, knew I had ADHD my whole life just didn’t know what ADHD was if that makes sense. I have tics which will come as an urge and I’ll have to do the movement to get rid of the urge. In December I had a really bad flare up with tics and anxiety... View more

I’m 25 yo, knew I had ADHD my whole life just didn’t know what ADHD was if that makes sense. I have tics which will come as an urge and I’ll have to do the movement to get rid of the urge. In December I had a really bad flare up with tics and anxiety so I went to the doctor and he diagnosed me. I thought everything would get better and I’d feel normal but some days I feel like they make no difference some days i feel great & some days I feel so low and can go into such a dark place which is just terrifying. I just don’t know what to do anymore - I would never harm myself but I can see how in these awful moments where you don’t even recognise yourself why people do it please any guidance on adhd medication? I am on daily ADHD medication. My tics haven’t gone they have reduced slightly. I just want them to stop. I could have identical days with sleep, food, activity, amount of excerise etc and it’s just luck of the draw if I feel happy or extremely worried or depressed? Not wanting to live a life where I can wake up and have the most awful day for no reason

Humpty Anxiety
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Well after having 5 weeks off im attempting to go back to my job tommorow im telling myself you can do this . I feel sick in the stomach that my anxiety is going to get the better of me and i feel the embarrassment of it all is just going to get to m... View more

Well after having 5 weeks off im attempting to go back to my job tommorow im telling myself you can do this . I feel sick in the stomach that my anxiety is going to get the better of me and i feel the embarrassment of it all is just going to get to me . Wish me luck

Sweesoft What essential oils are good for anxiety?
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I've been reading a lot about how essential oils help with anxiety, stress, and better sleep. Are there specific oils for this?

I've been reading a lot about how essential oils help with anxiety, stress, and better sleep. Are there specific oils for this?

jelly12 Alone and being bullied by neighbours
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I live alone and I suffer from long term depression (almost 20 years). I take medication regularly and have counselling twice a month. I have always had problems with the neighbours where I live. Some of them would park in my driveway, be noisy at ni... View more

I live alone and I suffer from long term depression (almost 20 years). I take medication regularly and have counselling twice a month. I have always had problems with the neighbours where I live. Some of them would park in my driveway, be noisy at night when I was trying to sleep and put their rubbish in my rubbish bins. I have very few visitors to my house, no current male partner, no family and I am small in size with a young and vulnerable appearance, which may make me appear an easy target. I moved from my last home approximately 10 years ago due to repeated burglaries and stalking and my neighbours had not been supportive, Recently there has been an increase again in my neighbours (I don;t know who t is) putting their hard rubbish and chemical waste into my bins. I became extremely angry and went out and shouted in the street that they need to stop putting their rubbish in my bins, use their own bins, etc). Yesterday there was an unsigned letter in my bin, calling me a "disgrace" and a "psycho". It stated that I needed to go to my "shrink" as my meds were not working, etc. I have not reacted to the letter but it has caused me distress and I have noticed an increase in my anxiety and a reduction in my ability to do regular activities, including working. I spoke to a friend who suggested ignoring the letter completely, as she thinks that the writer is looking for a reaction from me for further ammunition. So far, I have taken her advice. However, I am concerned that further bullying tactics will be tried and I am also concerned about my levels of anxiety. Does anyone have any suggestions to help?