Anxiety

feeling stressed and frustrated due to built up emotion

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Hi everyone, it's been a while since I've posted on here but I'm unfortunately back. I've always had issues expressing my emotions to others to try and get support, I hate burdening family and friends, even those I'm incredibly close to, as they have... View more

Hi everyone, it's been a while since I've posted on here but I'm unfortunately back. I've always had issues expressing my emotions to others to try and get support, I hate burdening family and friends, even those I'm incredibly close to, as they have other stresses and worries in their lives, let alone taking in mine. Since the mutual decision to stop seeing my therapist, I've not expressed any of my stresses and anxiety with anyone, and am making sure I do not cry to show too many negative emotions both around people and even alone so to 'train' myself I suppose to not express these. But this is causing my temper to be incredibly shortened and the smallest things are becoming incredibly frustrating. I know bottling these emotions up is incredibly detrimental, and I'm also encouraging friends not to, but I just can't bare sadden my family and after a bad experience with my ex partner betraying my trust, I don't want to reveal these things to my friends.I don't want to burden them and I don't want to show weakness, but it's really hurting me.

Post relationship blues

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Hi. I’m 49 and I met a woman online who was the same age.She friended me on Facebook and we started talking every day. She lives a 2 hour drive from me. 5 weeks later, we met in person and we hit it off. We even slept together that weekend. We contin... View more

Hi. I’m 49 and I met a woman online who was the same age.She friended me on Facebook and we started talking every day. She lives a 2 hour drive from me. 5 weeks later, we met in person and we hit it off. We even slept together that weekend. We continued talking (mostly online) and we met every weekend for 4 weeks. I had a planned trip interstate, so went on that. Upon my return, she either pulled away or was referring to herself as her girlfriend. She kept referring to herself as my girlfriend. However when I asked her, she immediately says things are not working between us. I feel like I’ve been led on a bit. She ended the relationship and now I’m finding it difficult not talking to her. 4 weeks after we broke up, I’m starting to get angry as all I think about is being led on. I’m constantly thinking of her. I’m struggling to let her go. When I see a picture of her on various social media, my heart beats faster and I feel anxious and sad. I do have thoughts of ending myself, but I know this is counterproductive. As of yesterday, I have unfollowed her on all social media formats. So I won’t see any photos online. I’m getting sick and tired of her consuming my thoughts. This is driving me insane. Trouble is, I live in a rural town and I have no one to turn to for a chat or support. Why does she consume my every day thoughts?I’ve joined 3 different dating sites and have sent 30 different women a message. Only 1 has briefly chatted. The rest do not want to talk to me. Right now, I’m sad, lonely, rejected while missing a certain woman. Can anyone help me or give me some direction? thanks…

generalised anxiety disorder in 10 year old

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hi, I'm looking for any advice for GAD in children. My son was misdiagnosed with ADHD and given lots of different types over a 3 month period as nothing was improving his poor behaviour at school. the medication turbo charged his undiagnosed anxiety.... View more

hi, I'm looking for any advice for GAD in children. My son was misdiagnosed with ADHD and given lots of different types over a 3 month period as nothing was improving his poor behaviour at school. the medication turbo charged his undiagnosed anxiety. he had a semi psychosis at Christmas, tried to kill me and hit me multiple times, 2 x trips to Children's hospital but no help provided. 4 months later and he is seeing a psychiatrist and is off ADHD medication but he's aggressive, verbally abusive and fearful, and can't go to school as his anxiety is so bad. He's on computer games all day long as we have to work, hard to insist on working from home full time, but one of us can be here, however he is really hard work and its slowly killing our family life. I feel so trapped and helpless. all his friends are very distant now too which is disappointing. Does it get better? what can help? thanks for reading.

Anxious about teaching jobs and sleep problem

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I’ve been a primary teacher for about 10 years (in different locations) and I’ve got to the point now where I feel too anxious to take another teaching job. I was always anxious about teaching and all the observations and judgement from everyone- par... View more

I’ve been a primary teacher for about 10 years (in different locations) and I’ve got to the point now where I feel too anxious to take another teaching job. I was always anxious about teaching and all the observations and judgement from everyone- parents, other teachers, principals etc. I used to work long hours and tried my best to prepare good activities etc and then over time I started to get anxiety and sleep problems. Then I keep going to work without sleeping Which eventually makes you ill and then you need time off quite regularly. In the end I would resign for the end of the school year and sometimes I’d only last a term in some schools. Now I’m at the stage where I know my anxiety and sleep problem is so bad that I can’t take another teaching job. I know it’s a big responsibility looking after kids and I don’t want to let them down in their education. Now I’ve been without work for almost a year. I feel guilty, anxious and stressed about not working. I’ve even applied for teaching jobs and been offered them but then I’ve turned them down because of anxiety. I feel such a failure and I beat myself up because I can’t get up in the morning - because I can’t sleep often till about 4am. My family discuss with each other how unsuccessful I am. My husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer last year (he’s not been working since the start of the VIC lockdown) and that’s only added to the anxiety. I must work and I can’t afford counselling. I really don’t know what to do.

Feeling scared all the time/impending sense of doom

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I've been feeling absolutely terrified and an ongoing sense of impending doom for the past month and a half and I don't know how to stop it. Every time I see any slightly negative news story or anything on social media or anything about space, it jus... View more

I've been feeling absolutely terrified and an ongoing sense of impending doom for the past month and a half and I don't know how to stop it. Every time I see any slightly negative news story or anything on social media or anything about space, it just triggers me again and I end up so scared again. Even though I know its not, I'm constantly convinced that something terrible is going to happen and the world will end. I'm so tired of it and I constantly feel so sick from fear. I can't focus on any uni work or classes and my favourite band is touring later in the year and I'm excited but also convinced that the world will end before I can go. I'm terrified of going on my phone or listening/watching the news because everything terrifies me now and gives like a cold fear. I've tried all the different ways to stop it like slow breathing but nothing helps and I just keep getting triggered. Is there anyway to stop this?

Is it bad to be conflicted about wanting kids because of my toxic parents?

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Heads up, I'm not expecting a baby nor in a relationship. I'm at a stage where my friends/peers are having kids, and I've spent time babysitting them. Many of my friends enjoy parenthood and seem to treat their kids well. It gives me resentment becau... View more

Heads up, I'm not expecting a baby nor in a relationship. I'm at a stage where my friends/peers are having kids, and I've spent time babysitting them. Many of my friends enjoy parenthood and seem to treat their kids well. It gives me resentment because of my own relationship with my parents.On surface level, my parents were abusive and uncaring. As a child, I was beaten and chastised, from being 'naughty' to failing a subject (particularly Maths). I was banned from attending any friends' parties and was enrolled into tutoring schools for extra homework. Even when I got A's for something, they would not care. But when I got B's or even C's, I would be screamed at and told 'what's wrong with you? You're so stupid!'. As I grew older, I was chastised for 'talking to boys', to the point where they locked my social media accounts and I was sent to an all-girl's school. On top of school work, my weight and appearance became the butt of jokes/comments, being told I was 'too fat, too ugly.' My mother went into my room several times and confiscated things, confronting and accusing me of 'doing bad things about the family to gain popularity'. My father was very withdrawn and did not attend any school awards, my musical/drama performances. In fact I was also criticised for doing performing arts and they went to the Subject Heads, to force me to change subjects .Even as an adult, I am still dealing with the mental fallout of my parents and they still refuse to accept any wrongdoing. They say that I'm 'a snowflake', and that 'this is the Asian way, get used to it'. But who tells their kids they are worthless? Who refuses to attend any single showcase and not acknowledge any success, hard work or struggle? Who dismisses and jokes about their issues? Who walks into their room, takes things and confronts them with it? Now at 25, they are nagging about 'having grandchildren' and 'marrying'. I feel so conflicted about marrying and having kids right now, because I fear I will be a bad mother. I do not want them to go through the same thing as I did. I also have mental health issues and would fear they would be affected. Is this wrong?

My dog has cancer

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I found out last week that my 13 year old Schnoodle dog has a cancerous tumour on his leg. I don’t have friends or family and live alone. My dog is my companion and I could not love him more. I have GAD and major depression and Bipolar type 2. I am f... View more

I found out last week that my 13 year old Schnoodle dog has a cancerous tumour on his leg. I don’t have friends or family and live alone. My dog is my companion and I could not love him more. I have GAD and major depression and Bipolar type 2. I am finding it very hard to cope with this news. The vet had tears in her eyes when she told me. She said she was not expecting this. S is a very active and puppy like dog. We go back to the vet in 4 weeks time to see if the cancer has progressed. He doesn’t know he’s sick. I cooked chicken, rice and carrots for his dinner last night which I only do if he’s been unwell. S looked at me and wagged his tale so big, he wanted more! I don't cook it all the time because I want him to have a fully balanced diet. I worried this year when he turned 13 but I was planning on having another 4 years with him. He looks like he is in such good health. He developed a cough at the same time and the vet said he has a collapsing trachea. If it gets worse it can be treated with medication. I had no idea this was coming. Nobody does. He will have the best life I can give him. He may need lump removed but I worry that more will develop . I feel calmer for having reached out to BB. Thank you.

Feeling broken at the moment

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Hi everyone, I am not sure where to start but I feel like reaching out may be a start. I feel so much at the moment, lost broken, sad. I feel like I take on everyone else's worries. My husband has not been himself, worrying about money matters and th... View more

Hi everyone, I am not sure where to start but I feel like reaching out may be a start. I feel so much at the moment, lost broken, sad. I feel like I take on everyone else's worries. My husband has not been himself, worrying about money matters and that makes me worry. I hate it. I feel sick in the stomach, hot skin, want to just curl up in a ball and cry. I am also finding it hard to sleep so I am just tired. I often say to myself the storm will pass but I am hating being in the storm at the moment. My sister always tells me when I feel like this I need a plan to find my way out, I just feel so foggy at the moment I am not sure where to start. I am going to make an appointment with my GP to talk about stuff. I just hate this feeling.

I can't stop thinking about my last trigger and anxiety attack- how do I stop

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I recently had a phone call with a family member (cousin), I had to tell her that due to an unavoidable university assessment that required me to travel, I couldn't come to her wedding. The conversation was horrible, I tried to apologise and tell her... View more

I recently had a phone call with a family member (cousin), I had to tell her that due to an unavoidable university assessment that required me to travel, I couldn't come to her wedding. The conversation was horrible, I tried to apologise and tell her why I couldn't come and she kept cutting me off, telling me my excuse was invalid, that I should just fly in and fly out (I had to travel via plane to get to her wedding) on the day. I tried to explain that emotionally and financially, I couldn't afford it. I think the trigger happened when she started to blame me for her stress, she said that I was ruining the wedding, that she had to rearrange the seating plans and that there would be consequences for my actions. An onslaught of verbal abuse occurred there after and I kept telling her she was hurting me emotionally, and that this argument wasn't worth our relationship as family members. I told her I was on the verge of an anxiety attack and she didn't stop. I had to hang up and I broke down. I don't actually remember half of the conversation, my boyfriend filled me in, I think I blacked out to some extent, I don't know. I cried for two hours, I couldn't stop shaking, I felt like I just couldn't think or breathe and I have never felt so out of control. My aunt rang me afterwards and yelled at me, asking me what I said, I told her and she accused me of lying saying I was causing my cousin all this stress. I think this opened the flood gates again for me. I actually felt fairly broken for a bit afterwards, I felt like the bad guy, the cause of all this pain and I can't stop thinking about it. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't regulate my body temperature (I was hot and sweaty despite it being a very cold night). It's now been four days since, and I'm still having nightmares, I don't know how to stop thinking about it. I feel like I'm overreacting, but I can't shake it, I keep trying to think about what I could have said or done to make it better. I don't know what to do-is this normal?

Anxiety

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Hey I’ve been dealing with anxiety and stress (more specifically social anxiety), how can I deal with it?

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