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Chris_B Forums etiquette: give support to receive support
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Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newb... View more

Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newbies are welcomed when they first post, and we understand that it’s a big step to post for the first time on a forum like this, especially if you aren’t feeling great. It’s important to remember, though, that these forums are a community of real people, just like you, not a one-on-one support environment like going to see your psychologist. To get the best out of being here, one of the best tips we can offer is give support to receive support. Being a good community member means: participating in different threads (not just your own), replying to people who have taken the time to reply to you (even if it’s just to say thank you), and... posting words of emotional support and encouragement when you see others who are hurting and reaching out. You don’t have to feel obliged to solve the problems of others: that’s not what we’re here for. But you can offer empathy and what you’ve learned from your own life experiences, even if it’s just a line or two, eg. “I don't know what to say, but I want to give you my support and tell you I care about what is happening to you and hope life will get better soon.” Try to develop an interest in the journeys of others here on the forums. You may be surprised at how good being an active, caring member here can make you feel. For those of you who have had good experiences giving support here on the forums, please post in this thread here and let us know how it has helped you on your journey.

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Code05 Obsessive Cleaning - Please help!
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Hi everyone! This morning I had a breakdown, the feeling of a ‘dirty’ house got the best of me. If I see a small piece of dust, toothpaste on the sink, footprint on the floor or even a smear on the kitchen sink I get an urge to fully clean by entire ... View more

Hi everyone! This morning I had a breakdown, the feeling of a ‘dirty’ house got the best of me. If I see a small piece of dust, toothpaste on the sink, footprint on the floor or even a smear on the kitchen sink I get an urge to fully clean by entire house. This morning, I tried to let it go. My husband was wanting to go out and as I was doing my hair I noticed how desperately the basin in the ensuite needed a wipe. Then I noticed the dust on the window sill, the basket of dirty washing. As I walked to the kitchen I noticed the coffee cup on the sink I’d just cleaned, then the floor the needed a vacuum. I tried to let it go, but I had a hot flush, my hands started shaking, legs feeling weak and my mind racing. I said to my husband that I couldn’t go, I needed to clean the house. Not just wanted to.. needed to. I can’t relax or enjoy life until I know my house is clean. I could tell he was annoyed, he can’t see what I see. He tells me the house is spotless and continues to leave. But I can’t, I can’t be calm and happy until the house is clean. And not just tidy, clean, not one bit of dust. Everyone comments on how clean our home is. I think this contributes to my need to uphold this reputation. please, any advice or help on this would be greatly appreciated. I haven’t seen a professional about this or received any kind of diagnosis.

Jbitossi Income insurance
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Has any access income insurance for anxiety and panic disorder and have any information. Was your claim successful, if not do you know why.

Has any access income insurance for anxiety and panic disorder and have any information. Was your claim successful, if not do you know why.

Jodielianne Has anyone had a bad experience with a psychiatrist?
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He refused me as a patient after our second session. Definitely not like in the movies. He told me I couldn’t speak I had to listen to him. Corrected my pronunciation of words. Prescribed me medication for blood pressure to maybe help with anxiety. I... View more

He refused me as a patient after our second session. Definitely not like in the movies. He told me I couldn’t speak I had to listen to him. Corrected my pronunciation of words. Prescribed me medication for blood pressure to maybe help with anxiety. I followed the directions as per the chemist. He claimed he told me to increase the dose after so many days. Shouldn’t a doctor write that down? Really want help with correct antidepressants to combat anxiety. Also sick with an autoimmune disease. Have a lot to deal with. This is going to sound really bad but why is it only male Indian doctors that treat me bad?

Sunnyy Anxiety and panic attacks
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Hi, I am new to this forum I’m 37 yo female. I’ve recently been diagnosed with GAD and have started medication, however I feel like it’s not managing my symptoms well. I am still finding it very difficult to manage day to day life. I work from home, ... View more

Hi, I am new to this forum I’m 37 yo female. I’ve recently been diagnosed with GAD and have started medication, however I feel like it’s not managing my symptoms well. I am still finding it very difficult to manage day to day life. I work from home, have two kids and even the littlest of tasks seem too difficult to manage. I practice meditation everyday, I’m using headspace and Nerva for meditation. I try to do yoga every few days, try to walk but nothing seems to be setting in a routine. I feel like I’m not able to stick to any routine and all I do everyday is try to regulate my breathing and not go into a panic mode. I really need help and some encouragement, I want to know that I can get out of this and can hopefully one day get back to the life I lived pre covid.

Hannahmk Driving anxiety
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OK so there's something that is genuinely bothering me and not too sure where else to post it . I really don't know if again it's girls who just feel threatened/intimidated by me I went in the other day and had a really open conversation with these p... View more

OK so there's something that is genuinely bothering me and not too sure where else to post it . I really don't know if again it's girls who just feel threatened/intimidated by me I went in the other day and had a really open conversation with these people anyway it my job agency I was getting assigned a new job agent with the boss and we had am appointment the 3 of us. I swear this always happens to me too especially when like I'm happy and in a good mood. But anyway fast forward I was talking about how I have driving anxiety and couldn't do specific drives and I'd also wanted to move into state . Girl was so rude she was like ' I did it it was easy ' but it was like she just kept repeating it bit like she was just trying to rub it in my face.. just the fact it's a disability job agency (des) let along organisation just annoys me that's job role is supposed to be supporting people ... really pissed me off. Like another incident few weeks ago went into the gtm too I'm just nice and friendly and honestly just try to get along with everyone yeah . But there's always that one person that has to act up on me and causing fkn drama seriously I've just about hit my threshold and I just feel like next time I'm going to lose it and go absolutely off I'm at my absolute bl**dy wits end . But went into three gym and these workers just were laughing at me and giving me a really smug /rude look... just annoys me

Reinaa Anxiety
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Hi everyone, I've migrated to Sydney for about three years. It's hard for me to make friends at my school. I was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, OCD and other things that I don't remember. And sorry for my horrible grammar and tenses, I just want... View more

Hi everyone, I've migrated to Sydney for about three years. It's hard for me to make friends at my school. I was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, OCD and other things that I don't remember. And sorry for my horrible grammar and tenses, I just want to share my experiences. I was really shy at school and I hardly make any friends. I feel scared talking to people, even at rolecall when the teacher say my name. I'm having issues at home. My parents are arguing because of me all the time. They fight infront of me and my sister and it feels very bad. My father was a very traditional men who was sometimes selfish. I feel that my father don't like me since I was young, I don't know what should I do.

Aeneides Need advice dealing with anxiet/severe trust issue
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With getting lied to by consecutive previous relationships, I now find it incredibly difficult to trust people to the point where I didn't want romantic relationships anymore. Recently though, I started liking someone again and we talk everyday, but ... View more

With getting lied to by consecutive previous relationships, I now find it incredibly difficult to trust people to the point where I didn't want romantic relationships anymore. Recently though, I started liking someone again and we talk everyday, but since he's not ready for a relationship yet, I decided to sort of wait for him and just be a good friend right now. However, when someone starts acting sweet and flirty around him, I just start sort of breaking down internally because it feels like I'm going to get replaced again, for lack of a better word for it. I don't bother him about it because I know it's a pain to deal with this and since we're not a thing, having him also deal with this feels unfair to him..? Would anyone happen to have any advice how to deal with this trust issue/anxiety? I want to stop being this obsessive distrustful person who constantly checks if there are any signs I'm about to get replaced, ready to run away.

bpdcarer BPD wife, moving forward and being happy
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Hi, I am a mid 40s male, married for 16 years with 3 kids (11-15 years). My wife has undiagnosed BPD and refuses to get help. She doesn't know she has BPD but she checks all the boxes and 3 separate psychs (that I have seen alone) have told me that i... View more

Hi, I am a mid 40s male, married for 16 years with 3 kids (11-15 years). My wife has undiagnosed BPD and refuses to get help. She doesn't know she has BPD but she checks all the boxes and 3 separate psychs (that I have seen alone) have told me that is what I'm dealing with. I'm at the stage where I need to make some serious decisions. She is pretty much out of control now and the abuse toward me and the kids is becoming too much. And it’s having long term effects on them, I’ve begged her to see someone for help but she refuses and doesn’t think psychologists help anyone. So I have gone by myself to get some answers. Her outlet is drinking which she does daily, she drinks excessively and is extremely aggressive, abusive and volatile. She cycles very rapidly and at times will often (3-4 times a year) just up and leave the home, threatening to harm herself for a night or two. While myself and the kids are left at home not knowing if she is actually going to go ahead with what she told us. She has no friends (because no friend can live up to her expectations, the moment they change a plan or do something she isn’t prepared for, she will cull them), she has started now to remove her family (siblings) from her life because she believes they are toxic and they can be (they likely have BPD too, from what I’ve seen). We (the kids and I) walk on eggshells daily, doing our best to not say, do something to upset her. The smallest thing (spilling some milk on the kitchen bench) will set her off. Not a day goes by without yelling and abusive behavior. She is rude to pretty much everyone, no respect for anyone (even the elderly) and goes around like she is entitled and above everyone else. I’m lost and I have no idea what to do next. I want to leave and find happiness but I cannot leave the kids with her as she is not stable enough.I truly don’t trust her with them and the kids have mentioned to me they don’t want to be alone with her. I have a diary from the past 3-4 years of all the episodes we have experienced and it’s not pretty. I’m so sad that the woman I loved and married can be so horrible to us. What do I do? I have done so much research on this disorder, I understand that she is not in control and doesn’t mean the horrible things she says, but how can the kids understand that? I do still love her and I wish her to get better but I cannot live like this anymore. Is leaving the only option? I know this will trigger her really bad and I don’t even know how to bring it up.

lila222222 How I’m feeling
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Hello, i feel as though no one cares and I don’t know where it’s coming from. I’m not normally like this but recently I’ve been picking up on times where people don’t care about my feelings and I just loose it and tell them to f--- off. At first it w... View more

Hello, i feel as though no one cares and I don’t know where it’s coming from. I’m not normally like this but recently I’ve been picking up on times where people don’t care about my feelings and I just loose it and tell them to f--- off. At first it was with my friends but now I see it with my family. I keep pushing people away but the one thing I want is someone to genuinely care and be there for me. Does anyone have any advice?

Pinkthomo Keeps it together
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I've been dealing with this anxiety for the first time in my life and really struggling to keep it to a minimum or get rid of it. The core of the problem is a neighbour who occasionally has music on aggressively loud. I don't know why this effects me... View more

I've been dealing with this anxiety for the first time in my life and really struggling to keep it to a minimum or get rid of it. The core of the problem is a neighbour who occasionally has music on aggressively loud. I don't know why this effects me so much. The rest of my family don't care too much, but for some reason, I feel it's the end of the world.I've seen my gp and she's given me a script if it gets all too much. How does everyone deal with their anxiety. I can only talk myself out of it so much.