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I live alone and I suffer from long term depression (almost 20 years). I take medication regularly and have counselling twice a month.
I have always had problems with the neighbours where I live. Some of them would park in my driveway, be noisy at night when I was trying to sleep and put their rubbish in my rubbish bins. I have very few visitors to my house, no current male partner, no family and I am small in size with a young and vulnerable appearance, which may make me appear an easy target. I moved from my last home approximately 10 years ago due to repeated burglaries and stalking and my neighbours had not been supportive,
Recently there has been an increase again in my neighbours (I don;t know who t is) putting their hard rubbish and chemical waste into my bins. I became extremely angry and went out and shouted in the street that they need to stop putting their rubbish in my bins, use their own bins, etc).
Yesterday there was an unsigned letter in my bin, calling me a "disgrace" and a "psycho". It stated that I needed to go to my "shrink" as my meds were not working, etc. I have not reacted to the letter but it has caused me distress and I have noticed an increase in my anxiety and a reduction in my ability to do regular activities, including working. I spoke to a friend who suggested ignoring the letter completely, as she thinks that the writer is looking for a reaction from me for further ammunition. So far, I have taken her advice. However, I am concerned that further bullying tactics will be tried and I am also concerned about my levels of anxiety. Does anyone have any suggestions to help?
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Hi Jelly, welcome here to beyond Blue Forums.
Oh, boy. that quote "go to your shink and get more meds". I've had that twice at my mid 50's with two seperate auto clubs through private (cowardly) messages. It hurts alright. And in the case of clubs that have some sort of hierarchy/authority you'd think there would be some action taken??? Not on your life, in fact knowing you have mental struggles only points their judgemental finger towards you and you are forever doomed to blame, ridicule and ostracising.
Living next door to similar people would drive me nuts. In fact my wife and I are lucky, we live in a very small regional town, the ideal really, a nice distance from neighbours who all want a quiet lifestyle.
I suggest you move again to a small area of low population. It shouldnt be that way but just like me withdrawing from both auto clubs....being right doesnt mean you'll survive. Life isnt like that.
It isnt your fault but you wont get understanding from 70% of the population including friends and family so what's the chance of getting anything reasonable from ferals? Ferals- not a nice word but if they do things out of the ordinary like using your bin without permission and your drive, then they are.
By the way I'm 122kgms and ex weightlifting ex prison officer etc. So your size and gender is not the reason.
Sorry I have no other recommendation.
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Hello Jayjay, I notice this is your first post so not sure what your own experience with depression or anxiety is. Jelly12 has described a history of bullying that has left them feeling quite vulnerable. Perhaps the new neighbours had not intended to be invasive when putting rubbish in the bins, but when you're depressed or anxious sometimes you can feel triggered and lash out. I don't feel your response was very helpful or understanding, saying "don't scream about it" and the reaction is "OTT".
At any rate, the reaction from the neighbours after the altercation, with the nasty notes is completely unacceptable. There's nothing worse than feeling unsafe and vulnerable in your own home.
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This is a bit like my problem except that people keep taking my food. I live in a house with roommates, and I don't really know any of them that well. Someone in the house has been stealing my food, (as well as others). One day I wrote a note asking them to not take my food and then, I woke up 4.00 in the morning with my sweet potatoes burnt charcoal black. It was so annoying but I started to get worried because they obviously did it out of spite to me, it's not like they were going to eat it or anything. My anxiety has started to get a little bit worst and I feel anxious that people are spitting in my food, or that there going to come in my room and do something out of spite because they don't like me. At first it was hard to sleep as I was listening for footsteps.
But at the end of the day I reassure myself, whilst the petty little things they do to me make there days, it hardly and will never make a dent in mine. And I'll try my best to not let it. People are pathetic don't let it get to you..
Maybe you should try putting your bins in your back yard? That's what my family did to reduce that sort of behaviour. And I think your friend is right in ignoring the letter, it would provide fruitless to respond. If you do write a response, you should try openly communicating them, or even sending a non-accusative type letter. Please don't place your trash in my bin etc. so forth. I don't know just some ideas.
I hope you solve your problem
Stay safe & loved
Plumjuice
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