Unlucky in love

[Freakyfrootloop]

Hi people any help or just some advice would be so helpful.

I've just split up with my partner who I was with for 10 months before that I was with the father of my daughter for 3 years and the same thing has happened twice now I've fallen out of love and I'm not to sure why. I have a big problem with face to face interaction I'm no good at it it scares the shit out of me I'd like some help with that but I am not sure what to do I've seen my doctor but what he gave me was just a government page that brought me here.

I am depressed that this falling out of love thing happens to me and it hurts the other person so much my ex is really hurting right now.

a lot of it for me is intimacy there was none at all and everything just eventually felt like routine but he just cant let me go he wants to keep trying and I don't I've told him this but he cant seem to understand why I don't want to try I don't know how much more I can say to him other than I don't want to

[Peppermintbach]

Hi Freakyfrootloop,

I’m really sorry things haven’t quite worked out in your last 2 relationships. Your latest break-up sounds like it has really shaken you...it seems to be making you doubt and question a lot of things about love and whether it can last...

Sorry, I don’t have any answers when it comes to love or relationships but I can offer my thoughts. I think sometimes it just happens...we don’t always stay in love with people. Feelings changes as do circumstances...

Yes, I hear what you’re saying about falling into ruts in relationships. It happens. I suppose people can sometimes get too comfortable in a relationship...

I feel it’s always painful when one person wants to let go but the other person wants to hold on a relationship. At the end of the day, I feel you have to do what is right for you personally...if you’re sure that you don’t want to keep trying with this relationship then I feel you should stick to what you feel is right for you...

Keep writing here if you feel sharing your thoughts, venting, etc helps. You’re most welcome to do that. We are listening...

Warm and kind thoughts,

Pepper

[SteveBigest]

In all senses, you are a brave man that decided to write your feelings here. Feeling on the part of one partner is horror. You will manage to meet the person to whom you want to completely trust and it will be mutual! Now just listen to your heart and focus really on those things that bring you pleasure. Look around. You definitely have a couple of people who need you and who appreciate you!

Previously, my self-esteem was too low that I could not even approach the person I really liked. Now remember even a little funny. As it turned out, He needed in me either!