dear Hila T, welcome to the site, and I understand your circumstances because my wife of 25 years divorced me because I self medicated with alcohol as well, plus she couldn't help me any more with my depression, so now you're in the same predicament, now I only drink socially, but it was a long hard road, just as it is for your boyfriend.
You can try and offer support to someone who has let's say a drinking problem and/or depression but if they are in denial and won't accept any help then you are just hitting your head against a brick wall.
Personally AA did nothing to impress me, but at least I tried it whereas he won't have a bar of it.
There are lots of sites on the net on how to get help for drinking, but I don't think that he will want to see them, because he just wants to drink.
He is now facing court, loss of licence, have to get his car out from impounded, but he has no money (except for grog) and if he has lost his licence why should he care, the only part to this is that everyday it's costing him money being locked up, and if he happened to get it out could mean that he maybe tempted to drive it with no licence.
There is medication which will stop him from drinking, but at the moment that's not what he wants, because he's in depression and wants to keep drinking, and this goes with getting him to see his doctor.
If he has left the door open for you to keep in contact, then it's a decision you have to make, do you still keep in contact with him when he's not ready to seek help, or can you convince him to go and see his doctor, but can I give you warning, please don't give him any money, as he might say that he wants to get his car out, because at the moment he will use that money for alcohol, and please trust me on this. Geoff. x
