Stuck in a rut and can't get out

[Irrelephant89]

Hi,

im new to this and not sure where to start..I completed my intern year in a job I loved just under a year ago and I have been struggling to find work. I guess it's just the way things are atm but I can't help but feel as if I have failed . I'm always tired and nothing seems to make me happy . My boyfriend tries so hard to help cheer me up but it doesn't work. My birthday is coming up and instead of spending it with my friends I just want to hide out in my room and be alone. I have a well balanced diet and I gym and take Pilates classes which keeps me active but the happiness doesn't last .Im constantly finding my self 'off with the fairies' or in a day dream. It gets worse at night and when I'm alone. The way I'm feeling and acting is affecting the people i love and I don't know how to pull my self out of this sadness.  

 Jess

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Jess,

Welcome to BeyondBlue and thanks for reaching out.

It sounds like you've been having a rough time lately and I'm sorry to hear that you haven't found work yet.  Have you been talking to anyone else about what's been going on for you?

I know that you mentioned you were 'off with the fairies' but try to remember this is not always a bad thing.  Not finding work can be super hard sometimes, but by daydreaming and thinking about where you want to go or what you want to do it can help create another plan.  If you're not working, what are you doing in the meantime?

Pulling yourself out of a sadness can take time, but you've done the right thing by reaching out.

Take care,

[Narniakid]

Hey Irrelephant89, welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out to us.

I totally hear where you're coming from in terms of being frustrated not getting a job in your preferred industry; I've finished an internship in radio and I've been waiting nearly a year now for something to pop up, and it's very hard, and I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

However, I can promise it's not you. Keep waiting and looking for jobs and showing interest, and soon a door will open. In the meantime, are you employed? Even a casual job twice a week means you're out of the house with a purpose, and you're getting some sort of income, which means you can try new things or save up to go on a holiday.

You've done a great job already by reaching out to us. Perhaps have a read of the resources avaliable to you here on the website, and if you really find yourself in a dark place, the hotline is always willing to listen. Keep positive, you're doing well already.

Crystal