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Social Anxiety HELP!!!!!ADVICE!!!!!

swan_90
Community Member

Hi,

Im 16 years old and I think I suffer from social anxiety... whenever I have to go out I always feel nervous and never comfortable anywhere. I always feel like people are watching my every move and judging me. I hate living like this! I wish I could be confident and headstrong like other people and I do try really hard to "pretend" that Im a happy person but Im not. I hate going places by myself and don't really feel comfortable with anyone... I always am stressing when I have conversations with others and nervous about what people are thinking of me. I don't really fit in anywhere! Though I try really hard to be a good friend and am always ready to help someone out. I need help ASAP! I talk to my parents about it, I know they have good intentions but they don't really understand at all! They think hanging out with people regularly will fix the problem.Just like that. I go out for a night. Anxiety issue fixed. But that's not the case. These people are not my type or that friendly towards me but I still try with them and usually Im just worrying the whole night and scared! If I had real friends or people I was comfortable with I would be hanging out every day and I think they would also give me some confidence, but that's not the case! Don't they know that??? They think anyone is better than no one!!! Sometimes when someone is having a party and they know about they will force me to go even though Im in soooooo much inner turmoil about it! They think it will fix me!!!! I wish I could run away at times like that and hop on a train but I cant because Im nervous about going outside or on the train etc. Please note that a train station is 10 mins in walking distance from me. I want to put myself in a mental home because I think I'm going crazy and I really want help!!! But, how do I do that??? Will I be kept there against my will??? Do I have rights there??? Is It nice???? Will they dose me up on meds that make me fat???( I have a phobia of being fat ) I know this all sounds so stupid and silly!!! But please give me some advice!!!! I would really appreciate it!!!!! Thankyou 🙂

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Sophie_M
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Moderator
Hi swan_90,
Sorry to hear your parents are not very understanding of your concerns and their support so far hasn't been very helpful to you. This must be really hard for you, and being forced to do something you are not prepared to do mustn't be a nice feeling at all!
Parents often have the best intentions even if they don't have all the answers or the type of support that you would like. Have you spoken to your GP about how you are feeling? They may be able to get you a referral to further help so you can get more of the support that you would like.