Out of my comfort zone.

[TWLOHA_4_LIFE]

Hi

This may sound trivial compared to what a lot of other people go through but because of my past I have struggled to do things outside of my comfort zone, I once tried joining women's football (soccer) but once I got to the fields I felt sick and just wanted to cry and walk away and I don't understand why I feel this way.. The weekend just passed I went to a show with my partner and his sister and his sister and I went on a ride that's kind of like a whizzer that spins around really fast except that this one tilted you on nearly a 45 degree angle, I was fine until it increased speed and began to tilt.. Thus ending in a major panic attack mid ride.

I don't understand why doing things out of my comfort zone end in me either feeling nauseas and on the verge of tears or ending in a panic attack.. To be honest it kinda limits me to doing things in life because doing new things absolutely petrifies me 😕

[Zeal]

Hi, and welcome to the forum!

Your problem is not trivial 🙂 There will always be people in worse situations, but that doesn't lessen the significance of what you're going through. If you haven’t already, I’d recommend telling your GP about this anxiety and fear. I can relate to what you’re going through. I always found change, and new situations, really difficult. I would get anxious in social situations, and when I had to do something different or new. It’s much better now because I’ve had treatment.

It’s great that you have put yourself out there and tried new things despite the difficulty you face – that’s really strong of you. When you’re trying new things, make sure it’s not so far out of your comfort zone that it will cause excessive fear and anxiety- this could discourage you from trying new things again. Once you’ve explained your situation to your doctor, he/she may refer you to a counsellor or psychologist.

You have a great chance of overcoming this fear and anxiety – you’re aware of the situation, you’ve tried new things despite the difficulty, and you’ve come to this site for help 🙂

If you haven’t already, talk to your partner about what you’re experiencing. It will help both of you if he understands what’s going on.

Good luck with overcoming this!

Take care,

SM

[TWLOHA_4_LIFE]

Thank you for replying so quickly.

Funny you mention psychiatrists as I've seen one before. I was for three years seeing one to deal with other issues, self harming, family problems, being bullied etc.. But it never really did much to help me.. I was told I'd probably need something to calm my anxiety and panic attacks but I refused medication as pastors I had talked to kept telling me I could do it all by myself without drugs and I guess I believed them.

My partner knows about my anxiety and my panic attacks and he knows not to make myself push my boundaries and he tries to persuade me not to do things if I try to do more than he knows I can do and its great to have his support but sometimes I wish I had my families support too. I only seen them once or twice a year and they only live 2 hours away from me so its a struggle seeing happy families and wishing that was mine...