Need some advice ASAP

Loula_bell32 · ‎25-03-2020

Hey everyone my name is Aimee I’m 16 I’m not happy at all I’m sad all the time and isolate myself a lot activity’s i used to find interesting or that used to make me happy don’t anymore I feel like there is something wrong with me due to the fact that I have self harmed on different occasions and I often of thoughts about how better life would be if I wasn’t here anymore I have really bad anxiety attacks to he point of were I work myself up to the point of we’re I want to end my life, throw up ect I have tried talking to my mum and to drop hints that’s somethings wrong she also knows about me self harming she is on meds for depression ect and I feel like she is just brushing all this stuff off bc she is scared to admit the fact that I’m like her I don’t know what to do and I want to talk to a professional but I’m only 16 and I don’t know if they will help me without an adult

Aaronsis · ‎25-03-2020

Hi Aimee

Welcome to the forums, congratulations for writing your first post and also for reaching out when you are feeling so sad, I am so proud of you. There are so many other young adults like yourself feeling very much the same so here not only will you realize you are not alone but you can share and draw strength from others.

I can hear that you are struggling with feeling purpose and feeling as if things are just too much and you don't want to stay, firstly I need you to know that there is hope Aimee and this is a time in your life, a time when you are not feeling well and you need some support, this does not mean the rest of your life and it certainly should not cost you your life.

There are some amazing support lines for young people out there, I cannot say loud enough how wonderful the people are at Kids Helpline, they are on 1800 55 1800, please consider a call to them as they will be able to give you some great advice.

I also want to share something from a parent point of view, see we do sometimes get it wrong and we do make mistakes, we are human too. I think if your mum does have some mental health challenges of her own it would be upsetting for her to realize that her daughter is struggling too, however, please do not stop talking to her, if it is easier perhaps write her a note, let her know exactly how you feel, be honest. It is not easy being a parent and you do feel guilt and shame when you get it wrong, she might be feeling some of these things too knowing you are hurting yourself.

Distraction will be your friend at times when you are feeling so very bad and like you do want to harm yourself. Please try to put even a list together that you can refer to when you are feeling like everything is too much.

I hear you when you say you are finding it hard to find things that make you happy, what were the things you did used to enjoy? Do you have any special interests or hobbies?

I hope to chat to you some more Aimee and I hope that you keep reaching out and sharing. We care so much and are here for you.

Huge hugs

Sarah

Loula_bell32 · ‎26-03-2020

Omg thank you for replying i really thought no one would but some of the stuff I used to enjoy that made me really was playing netball and football I was very passionate about both them sports currently I would rather stay in bed then even think about participating I also used to like going to my friends house for sleepovers as any teenage girls would but I feel like I don’t have the energy even if I sleep for 8+ hours I really don’t know what to do and I don’t enjoy feeling like this at all and I want to be happy and normal and and not the girl who sometimes eats less then what I need to or the girl who stays in her room and doesn’t really socialise ect

Aaronsis · ‎26-03-2020

Good Morning Aimee

How are you feeling today? That is really great that you do have, well did have netball and football in your life and were very passionate about those, I understand that as my 13 yo daughter is obsessed and this time of isolation is really bothering her in not being able to do these things. Just an idea, do you think if you just grabbed a footy and kicked it around the back yard or did a few handballs that might be something you could do? I say that as it will get you outside which might be nice as well as just try and engage those feelings of old of something you once were passionate about.

Sometimes this thing needs a kick in the bum and forcing yourself out of your room, even when it feels terrifying, or getting outside to walk around the block can really just show those thoughts who is boss, and that is you Aimee, not those thoughts and not those feelings. Sure they are happening to you and it is very real, but it is not who you are.

It is a tricky time too with isolation to be able to be a "normal" teenager and have those sleep overs or trips to the shopping centre. However if you can try to stay connected with your friends and do some face time and say hi and have a laugh. Join Tik Tok, even if you dont do the dances some of them might make you feel good or even have a chuckle.

Here for you Aimee and I am sending you my strength and huge hugs.

Sarah xxx

Guest_4643 · ‎29-03-2020

Hello Loula_bell32, welcome to the forums.

I'm sorry you feel that way and that you've harmed yourself, please don't do that, I know how hard it is though. I'm worried about you, please stay safe.

There's nothing wrong with you although you may think that. Life wouldn't be better if you weren't here so that's not true.

Professionals can help you without an adult I believe, I'm sure if you asked a professional such as a GP to have some privacy with them then you should be able to, and get a Mental Health Care Plan for a Psychologist and/or Psychiatrist.

Please take care of yourself.

- Tayla.