Need Help

[Ajxc03]

Hi, I'm new here.

I'm only 13 years old and I've been feeling so down for the last few months/this year... I have no motivation for anything, I get annoyed and irritated so easily. Every night I'm basically crying myself to sleep every night and it's just getting too much. Nowadays, I just feel so distant from all my relationships, even my best friend and my family.

I always feel like people don't like me, even though I don't really even know them. This leads to me questioning about my looks. I hate my looks and my body, there's just so much I would like to change. I got family problems, and it's been so hard for me. My parents expect so much from my grades, and it's a massive weight on m shoulders to have to make my parents proud and overcome these depressed times.

I've searched online a lot lately, and it always says things about depression, SAD, etc. I definitely don't want to tell my parents, let alone a doctor (or school counselor). I just feel so worthless, hopeless, and I always question my existence. What should I do?

[Zeal]

Hey, and welcome to the forum 🙂

I'm very glad you came to this forum for support. Sorry to hear you've been feeling so unhappy this year. You would definitely benefit from talking to someone like your family doctor or a counsellor, though it sounds as though the thought of doing this is intimidating. Talking to your parents is a good idea, if you are able to. You don't need to tell them everything, just start small. If you would like to talk to someone confidential right now, you can call beyondblue's 24/7 helpline on 1300 22 4636. It doesn't have to be an emergency. The person answering the call will be kind and non-judgemental.

It would be great to hear back from you 🙂

Best wishes,

SM

[Paul]

Hi Ajxc,

Please allow me to add my welcome as well. SM's suggestion of chatting with someone is pretty important. Your best friend might even be someone to talk to. You'll find, as I have that when you talk to people, you get some trust in yourself back. You'd mentioned not feeling good about how you look, feeling like people don't like you, not wanting to do much stuff anymore, crying yourself to sleep that all really sucks 😞

I remember when I first has the same feelings, I was scared and felt alone. I was embarrassed and afraid people would reject me because of what was going on so it was much better to try and deal with it by myself. then something changed.

I'll save that part for next time.

As SM mentioned, call the help line at any time.

Paul

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Ajxc03,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for reaching out to us! I'm so glad you reached out as it sounds like it's been pretty hard. I know the feeling of thinking that nobody likes you and crying yourself to sleep - it's not a good one to have. Paul and SM's suggestions of ringing the help-line is great, but my guess is that if you're not ready to talk to your parents or a school counsellor ringing the help-line might be a bit daunting!

What would make things easier to talk to someone? I know that it can be incredibly scary to tell people how you are feeling, but it's so hard keeping it to yourself - and you may be surprised at how many people really do care about you and want to help. We often have a little voice in our heads that spits out negative thoughts - I had a therapist once that called them ANTS (automatic negative thoughts). We can learn to challenge it by asking ourselves - hey, is this true? Do we really know that people don't like us? Why do I feel like I'm not worth it?

Because you are worth it Ajxc13 - and you do deserve to be happy. Keep reaching out to us.