Lonely lonely lonesome

[Scaredandalone]

I'm recently new to this, I don't know where to Turn. I lost my entire group of friends 2 years ago but still haven't been told why which sent me spiralling down year 12/ first year of uni. I took comfort in finding friends at uni but never really had anyone close enough to me to care really. Found someone who I thought was the love of my life throughout all this hardship probably attracting me more to have someone to depend upon, however we have just recently broken up due to numerous fights about not trusting one another.

no one in my family knows what I am experiencing and no one would care nor understand which makes it even harder. I literally feel like it's me against the world and honestly I don't know how much longer I can put on this brace face, seeing friends through other friends instagram and seeing my now ex posing with extremely attractive women on Facebook posts. i literally am so lost within this world because of everything. Before this I felt like I was good and happy and slowly it's been deteriorating to the point I'm not needed anymore on this earth .

[blondguy]

Hi Scared

Welcome to the forums and good on you for posting too!

If we didnt have people that are new to the forums I would be out of a job as a volunteer....thankyou for being here

Im sorry that you lost your whole group of friends 2 years ago and the resulting spiral......if you can guess a reason we are here to listen to you no worries...

Putting on a brave face is hard work when we are feeling like crap. I understand you there for sure.

I did read about you seeing your ex posing with other attractive women on FB. That would hurt....big time.

I just read this..."Found someone who I thought was the love of my life throughout all this
hardship probably attracting me more to have someone to depend upon"

You are a very intelligent & well articulated person. I understand that doesnt help you right now but you are!

Do you have even 1 or 2 friends that can be there for you now with your breakup? Having people to vent to is a huge step towards feeling better and recovering from this relationship

FB can be great with friends as well as an excellent social media tool but it can be a real pain if we see our ex posing with other people or any negatives that you dont need right now.

I know you posted in the 'young peoples' section. There are a lot of young people on the forums that can be here for you Scared.

Even though I am not a 'young person' anymore, I hope that some of this has been of help until our young posters get back to you 🙂

I think you are amazing for having the guts and posting here.

You are more than welcome to post on this thread even if you just want to have a good vent

my kind thoughts for you in this bad time

Paul

[geoff]

hello Scared, your friends from school won't tell you why they don't see you anymore, but if you are suffering from any type of depression, that's why you keep them as 'friends', well they're only acquaintances, because they don't want to know about your depression, and they don't know anything about your depression, they have more exciting things to do rather than help a friend, don't worry about losing them.
Trust can always a big doubt within a r/ship, but if there is love between the two of you then there should never be any worry about the two of you breaking up, however there has been some doubt created by seeing him with other women, however have you thought this could have been done to try to get him back with you, remember people do peculiar acts just to get their love one back with them.
The question is whether you want this to happen and if so then the two of you should sit down and settle your differences and reunite, but if not then we have to answer your post in another way. Geoff.

[gld]

Hi Scaredandalone,

Glad you have found somewhere to offload some of your heavy feelings as this is a place that it can be done without judgement and people who are supportive.

I feel transition from high school to uni and moving into this stage of life also comes with personal growth so it is important you are not too hard on yourself. Others are also going through the similar challenges and will move in and out of your life quicker than they did when you were going through high school.

You have probably heard the term, "live in the now". This is something i feel that is more gentle on us going through our day to day. It eases the thoughts of what if's and pressure of how comes. By this i did not mean you do not set goals for yourself as this gives a sense of achievement when we complete a goals that are realistic.

Engaging with others is a great way to find others who share the same passions and this could lead to creating strong friendships.

I feel blondguy has put forward some great points of view about social media being positive and negative. It is difficult to use this tool correctly when we are feeling overwhelmed and it could help you to give it a break for a while until you improve your well being or just avoid things that give you grief.

Keep posting and continue looking after yourself improving your well being.

Gen [Hugs]