Lonely, but I don't feel alone?

[Sherrie_Day]

Apologies if this thread has already occurred, I just wasn't able to find it...

Recently the people that mean the most in my life have been saying that I see to see more people and hang out with my friends. I have worked on keeping relationships strong for many years, and I feel like no one apprechaited it. When I try to hang out with my friends and I never think they enjoy my company and then I find out that they all see each other often, with out me. So I lost hope. I don't think anyone wants to see me apart from my boyfriend of 3 years or my parents. The thing that I have an issue with is that everyone tells me that my attitude is wrong but I am perfectly, couldn't be more happy or excited to just be by myself and never see friends again. I am happy to go to parties and social gatherings to see people temporarily and everyone at that time says how "we need to ctach up" but when I try to follow through I get no response. I have tried explaining this to my partner and parents - That I don't want to have friends anymore and I always want to just be by myself, partner or my horses. Is this totally wrong....? I woud like some help as to why is it good to have friends or why I need them. I have great confidence and self esteme so I can rule that out. Anyones opnions or thoughts would be graetly apprechaited.

Thank you.

[geoff]

hello Sherrie Day, sometimes just being by yourself is what you may want, friends aren't the 'be all' of everything in life, sure it's nice to be with them, but that only lasts for a few hours.
What it can also do is keep your confidence built up, but not everyone is the same, we all have our own ideas of what we want to do and who with, and each occasion it maybe with different people.
You're a confident person, and when this happens you are able to choose what you want to do and where to do, if you just want to be with your b/friend and ride your horses, there is nothing wrong with this.
You chose your own happiness when and whenever you want, if it's people you feel you can have fun with, then do it, if they aren't that friendly then there's no reason why you should join in. Geoff.

[demonblaster]

Hey Sherrie

Yeah I'm inclined to agree with Geoff, if you're happy in yourself, got confidence (is there a shop that sells it 🙂 good for you, and ok in your own company which also kudos, & people aren't particularly responding in a positive way towards you then are they the right ones to be around anyway.

I say if we're not hurting anyone do what makes us happy & sounds like you are.

Why are close to you saying you need to be around friends?

Ya know Sherrie confidence & good self esteem are essentials for us towards happiness in life & you've got em.
Take my hat off to ya

catch ya 🙂