Hi Jay, welcome to the forum.
First off I'm so sorry you're feeling so lonely and isolated. I can relate to wondering what the point is, and why I'm here, as a common theme of what I used to consider.
To note some positive things you've said though: it's fantastic you've found a connection with someone you like. (just some curiosity questions, answer only if you like): What's she like? Have you known her long? Do you see her often?
Moving on: I can also understand that being extroverted, and so used to and accustomed to the comforts and preference for your own habits, makes it difficult to bring yourself to changing your lifestyle, or introduce new habits.
For taking steps forward to meet new people, I recommend noting down what the things are that you enjoy (maybe gaming, a sport, cooking, reading, or anything else). From there, I'm sure there will be an abundance of groups out there who share in that same thing. It would be difficult introducing yourself to a group / club, but I'd reassure that they would love to have you.
I'll just use myself as an example: I too spend a lot of time behind the screen as an introvert. I love gaming, and that has been an avenue into me meeting some awesome friends (not just online ones, but ones I see in person). Through local clubs / gatherings, I've met heaps of people. Being in an environment with others that share the same enjoyment as me gives me confidence, and relaxes me in front of them, even though I don't know them very well.
If you're comfortable sharing more, I'd love to hear it.
Other than that, I hope I was able to help.
Best,
- FC
