just can't get the words out

[achlys]

hi,

i've tried therapy lots of times, and am still going, but after every session, i just feel worse. before i go i always repeat over and over in my mind what i want to say, but when i actually get there i completely choke and can't say what i want to. i want help but i feel like i'm just disappointing my therapist and wasting her time. my mind completely freezes and my mouth refuses to open and i really don't know why. how am i supposed to fix my problems when one of my problems is that i can't effectively communicate what my problems are? i losing hope.

thanks

lilly

[BballJ]

Hi achlys,

Many people get like this when they have to speak out loud and discuss their feelings. I guess it's a sort of self defence mode for your mind in a way. One thing I would suggest is when you are going over and over what you want to discuss is write them down and hand them to your counsellor when you see them, this can be effective because they will be able to grasp more of the picture and be able to help more.

My best for you,

Jay

[Sophie_M]

Hi achlys, we can see you've started a number of threads here in the past few weeks but haven't replied to any of our members. We're going to close down the duplicate threads and just keep one open for you (link below). 

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It would be great if you could keep to one thread for support, it helps members keep up with your story and saves you having to repeat yourself.  

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