is there still hope for my atar

[yes]

Hi

back in yr 11 i was doing pretty well like my grades were good and i played sports but i dont know why everything went wrong in year 12 and it's not even because of some external reason. I just know it all started with one subject that i used to be doing really good at which, on my first yr 12 exam, i basically failed and then it just spread to my other subjects one by one. If I do good at one, I do bad in another. I even quit sports to focus solely on studying but it was no use. This term it was especially bad because i was under average in all my subjects and by a lot as well. I don't know i feel like all the goals i had from before have just evaporated because theyre unreachable now. I dont get why i suddenly did bad in the only year when my marks are meant to count and now im just depressed and unmotivated to continue studying because this is the result every time.

[TrueSeeker]

Hello

I can see that your confidence dropped quite a bit when you failed your exam. It's not easy to pick ourselves up and trust our skills again. Sometimes when things keep going well, we can get overconfident and loose our cautious approach. I usually try to watch out for it as it can easily happen and spoil our good efforts.

What I usually do is to review how I used to do it before and what has changed. Sometimes our emotionality can take the focus away and our mind doesn't work as well as we used. Relaxation techniques like walking etc can help a lot to clear our head and remind ourselves that we used to be able to do it so we can do it again. I also take more cautious approach. Every time I learn something new, I review myself and test myself to make sure that I understood it well and remember it.

I understand how sometimes our confidence can drop to a very low level. It can build up again especially when we used to be able to do it before, it comes back and sometimes it even becomes easier as we learn what to watch out for.

Please be nice to yourself, things can still get better

[yes]

Hi TrueSeeker

Thanks for your reply, that makes me feel better. Now I think about it, I don't think it's only the bad results that have affected me. It's also that I feel like I'm disappointing my parents because basically all the money they've spent on me to send me to tutorings have gone down the drain. 

[TrueSeeker]

Hello yes,

you're welcome. It's good to see that you're feeling better.

I can understand how pressure can make things much harder. All we can do is our best, we can't do any more than that. It could help to find some relaxation techniques to calm down the emotions as they can interfere with our focus. I find walking or any gentle physical activity helpful as while I'm doing it, I can still think and focus on the most important thing and not get distracted by worrying. As much as it's easy to worry, it doesn't help us to do our best.

I hope that this helps little bit, I can see that you're trying very hard and that's all you can do. I hope that everything will work out for you

[yes]

Thank you 🙂