I need help!

[Maddie97]

I'm 33 weeks pregnant and 18 years old. My partner and I are constantly fighting and lately he has been talking to another girl, his become more and more disinterested in anything to do with me or the baby, he complains about our appointments, it even got to the point where I was in hospital all day, he got home from work and didn't even bother to ask what happened or if we were okay. I'm suffering from prenatal depression because I don't have any family and his my only support network, but he refuses to talk to me, I don't know what to do, I'm stressed out to the max, and everything just feels like it's falling down around me. I can't do this on my own, I don't want to be going through this anymore, I feel like I've made the biggest mistake of my life.. 

[Jedika411]

My heart goes out to you Maddie97.

Bringing someone into the world is hard enough without relationship problems. The most important part is support & it sounds like your partner does not wish to provide this. 

There is alot of support available out there, including this site! Talking to someone will give you some support, seing a psych or counsellor would also be a very good option!

As harsh as it may sound, you may need to start coming to terms with the fact that you may be bringing this child into the world on your own, & you can do it! You just need to believe in yourself & want to do it! Noone wants to be alone but sometimes its the best option.

I like to tell myself "Things always work out one way or another, stressing over them just causes more harm than good"! 

Be strong, continue to try talk with your partner & remember there is always someone to listen & help:)

[Zeal]

Hi Maddie,

Your partner unfortunately doesn't sound very supportive. Is he 18 too? He is probably overwhelmed by the impending responsibility of being a Dad. He is biologically connected to this soon-to-be baby, but it seems as though he is not emotionally ready for this stage of his life. Do you have close friends who can support you, or other adults who are, or have been, involved in your life?

Getting through this pregnancy at your age and with so little support is a tough feat. I am 22 and do want to have a child one day, but I don't think I'll be ready for motherhood until I'm in my late twenties. The positive is that you will be a young Mum, so you will likely have more energy and stamina than older Mothers when looking after your baby.

Is there a way to connect with other young Mums? Maybe you could ask your doctor about support groups? Is your prenatal depression being monitored by your GP or another professional?

I hope the last month of your pregnancy goes smoothly! Make sure you take time to relax.

Best wishes,

SM