I’m constantly depressed and feel helpless. I need help/advice

[David_N]

Lately, my life has been shaken upside-down and I feel like my world is falling apart. I know this happens to everyone, but my girlfriend of over two years recently dumped me and it’s led to a string of bad events. Out of nowhere, she broke up with me the night before one of my exams for the HSC, leaving me feeling unmotivated and severely depressed. I’ve been constantly procrastinating over almost everything, and I’m beginning to despise and feel reluctant to go to work every week. We had a lot of mutual friends, and after the break-up, it has made relationships between them feeling very awkward. I feel like an outcast constantly and can’t make close friends with anybody. I’m sure this kind of thing is familiar to some people, but never in my life have I gone from being so happy and fun to being such a miserable and unmotivated person. Small things have been making me feel worse, such as the possibility of my closest and longest-lasting friend leaving school and losing my wallet etc. I feel completely helpless and find it hard to enjoy anything anymore, and I am in desperate need of advice and ways to cope with such events. I am currently still doing exams for my HSC and I think I’ll do horribly, and I really wanted to go to University to study a certain course, but my results will probably prevent me from doing so. I know it’s a long read, but any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time.

[Doolhof]

Hi Axle C

I'm really sorry to read that you are experiencing these awful events, and like you mentioned, especially so when you are trying to do exams.

Is there someone at school you can talk to, like a counsellor or advisor, even a teacher?

I find the more I talk about my issues, the better I feel after. If you want to share more here, you are certainly welcome to do so.

It can be difficult to try to accept the negative feelings and thoughts you are experiencing, unfortunately, that is how we can help ourselves feel better, by trying to tell ourselves we can think and act differently.

Not an easy thing to do I know!

Can you tell yourself that you will concentrate on your exams and then see what you can do to change your social experiences.

Would you benefit from using one of the phone support lines like the one at Beyond BLue to talk with someone about how you are feeling? It helps me sometimes.

Hoping you can find a way to concentrate on your exams and turn off the negatives running around in your head or at least to accept them a little.

Cheers from Dools