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I just don't know

JaneyP
Community Member

Hello all.

I've been battling these feelings for a very, very long time. I don't like to show people emotions of any sort so it's been super hard for me to express myself to family or friends. I feel like I have no one to confide in around me and it makes things worse. On the exterior I'm this super happy, never sad chick. But I feel the complete opposite inside me and no one around me has a clue. I know that's my own fault for not telling anyone, but it's just too hard for me. I don't want anyone to know.

That's why I'm reaching out on here, I need help, I need advice, I just need people to talk to that aren't going to judge me, laugh at me or shut me down.

I'm always so tired and unenergised. I just want it all to change, I want to get better, I want to feel the way I used to, I want to be back to my old self, 3 years ago. I just want it all to stop, all the feelings of sadness, loneliness and depression.

Thank You for listening, I appreciate it.

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Hi Janey

You have a great job! Good on you. I have had depression for many years so I really can understand where you are coming from. I had the same 'wake ups' which are so draining. 3-6 times a night is the same as what I used to have too Janey.

I hope you can take the first step and see your doc. They are well trained on your problem and can help you find some peace and start to heal.

No one should have to continue feeling like this. You are a strong and intelligent person Janey. When you are comfortable doing so I hope that you can see your GP 🙂

You are not on your own Janey

Paulx

What a great job. And what a shame you have lost so much enjoyment. One thing I have found with children is that they don't keep asking if anything is wrong, they just accept you as you are. The downside is they are such energetic little beings that's it's hard to keep up with them at the best of times.

Sleep is a major part of being well. It's classic for those with depression and anxiety to wake several times during the night. I have found sleeping pills are not the answer. You get so tired during the day and so you fall asleep quickly. Then once your body has recuperated a little you wake again. And I bet you find it difficult to get back to sleep.

Sometime I get up and watch TV or read a book. I used to do research into my family history at 3:00 am because I could not sleep. My GP tells me all these things make you wake up more. Instead, she said stay in bed and try to read a book in your head. Tell yourself a story from a book, chapter by chapter. The idea is that you are concentrating so hard on remembering that you naturally fall asleep. If not a book, recall a film and recount the action.

I've tried it and I don't get far. I fall asleep.

Nothing stimulating before bed. No coffee or chocolate, no switching off the TV and going to bed, and especially no TV in the bedroom. Sometimes walk before bed is good, but only if your neighbourhood is safe. Good soak in the bath or long hot shower. Anything you find soothing and comfortable. Even taking teddy to bed.

I hope you have a good night's sleep.

Mary

I just want to say that I really appreciate you all for taking the time to read and reply to me.

Yes my sleeps are horrible, they always have been. I honestly can't remember the last time I slept a full night, or even just 4 consecutive hours. It's a struggle considering my job and I think that just gets my mood down more.

I do have my good days but even they aren't great, they are just better than every other day.

Thank you for the advice guys 🙂

Janey x

Morning Janey

No worries at all. I hope you have a good Tuesday

here for you

Paul 🙂