I have nobody

[goalstosmile]

Hi Forum,

I'm a 20 year old individual who has been suffering anxiety for about a year now & have resulted in becoming lonely and turned into me also becoming depressed.

I used to be an extremely social person, someone who would love to always be out, be at work and socialise and then at some point things turned.. I quit my job and things seem to have gone down hill and now I feel as if I have no body.

I don't really have any interests, so I do not really know what to do with myself, I work part time now. Trying to figure out my future career which is giving me anxiety every day.

I have a partner who is a workaholic so I rarely see or speak to him, so I basically feel really lonely. I don't really know what to do anymore. I find it really scary, because I'm concerned I won't be able to get out of this stage, or find my career or anything like that..

I hope I have given enough information!! Any support would be great, thanks everyone.

[Peace_Seeker]

Hi goalstosmile

it sounds like you've got it rough at the moment buddy.

the pressure to find/choice a career can be overwhelming. But know that a lot of these choices make themselves over time. God knows I had my goals but ended up in COMPLETELY different field and I'm happy about it.

id suggest just getting your head and heart feeling better first. Have you seen your GP to be assessed? It's a good first step, talking things over with your GP.

Youll make it out the other side of this for sure Hun x

[BballJ]

Hi goalstosmile,

Sorry to read what you are going through - 20 years old is a tough age because people assume you should have stuff figured out by now but it can also be one of the more confusing ages too because so many people don't know the career they want to do, heck many people at 30 still are unsure, so please don't feel alone in that instance. When you say you have no interests, have you just lost them since the anxiety came along? What stuff were in you into before the anxiety?

As Peace Seeker said above, I would recommend getting to see a GP and possibly a psychologist if you haven't already, perhaps speaking to a professional to sort through your feelings may be needed. I highly recommend them as they have helped with my anxiety big time and many other on here have had the same great results.

You can get through this, feel free to post as much as you like.

My best for you,

Jay

[geoff]

hello goalstosmile, it's always sad when someone has this feeling because it just stops you in your tracks where you start to dig a hole to crawl into.
Anxiety and depression happen at the same time and would be happy to discuss this with anybody who disagrees, so if you have one then the other is there.
There is a reason why you have become anxious, which you may know or perhaps you don't, but to get yourself back on your feet once again, you need to see your GP, who may prescribe medication to try and halt this process, because if you don't then unfortunately it will become worse.
You need to have the opportunity to be able to discuss these problems with a psychologist, and as you are working part-time ask your doctor about the mental health plan, which entitles you to 10 free visits to see a psych.
I'm not sure your partner will be interested in discussing this with you, as you say he's a workaholic and will be too busy, but please book an appointment to see your doctor, and hope to hear back from you. Geoff.

[Stillnotsure]

Its so hard when you feel like there is nobody you could talk to. I agree with others that counselling would be a good first step to just be able to put all your thoughts out there and the counsellor can try to help you through your feelings.

A thing that helps me when I'm in a bit of a slump is to watch some motivational talks on youtube, or go out and see a movie. They are small things, but they help me to sometimes re-shift my focus which helps.I used to feel the same way about my career and put SO much pressure on myself about knowing what to do or what job would be best. Its definitely hard on young people these days with jobs. Hang in there the career and job will sort itself out in time. xx