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I feel so alone in life

jazmine1
Community Member
I feel extremely alone and sad constantly. Lately so many things have piled up that has made me so upset and not want to be here anymore. my boyfriend broke up with me and its been really tough to try and move on and i really dont know how. I really hate school and have no motivation to go and to put in any effort to do the work. I feel so alone and sad and i have no one to talk to about it. People claim to be there for me and the only thing they can say is "it will be better soon" but its not getting better. I wake every morning so sad and then having to go to school where i dont like anyone and cant stand to be there. I just dont know how to deal with the sadness and how to cope with feeling alone all the time.
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Jack184
Community Member

Hello, Jazmine

I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling. It can be hard to cope when your life seems to be falling to bits and you feel completely alone. I've been there when it comes to loneliness. And yes, it often does make school a struggle, with teachers expecting you to just get on with your work, while inside, you're drowning.

It sounds like you just really need someone to talk to. I'm here for you. You can write back as many times as you need to. I know how you feel. Also, it might be a good idea to look at getting some professional help. They won't be able to do too much about your boyfriend or people not being there for you, but maybe they could help you cope with it better.

Like I said, I'm here if you want to talk. Write back as many times as you need to, and I will try and be as caring and understanding as I can. Shouldn't be too hard, because like I said, I know how loneliness feels.

Best wishes,

Jack

pipsy
Community Member

Hi jasmine. It's so easy for others to stand on the sidelines and say, 'it's alright, everything will be alright, tomorrow'. Tomorrow never seems to come. The next day seems to be as hard as the previous one. As far as your bf goes, this won't be much comfort now, but you'll have many bf's before you meet 'the one'. Each time you fall in love, then break up it hurts all over again. But the pain gets to be different as you grow. How long is it since you broke up? Boys mature differently to girls, perhaps your bf decided he wanted to 'play the field' a bit. Perhaps he wanted to 'hang out' with his mates. If he attends the same school, that makes it harder. Can you talk to your mum about your loss? I think if you could perhaps see your way clear to enjoying your gf's, possibly participate in school projects with them, you may start to feel more positive. Give yourself some time to grieve, grieving helps the pain to ease. When you feel the memories come back, read a book, watch t.v, talk to gf's. After a while the memories won't hurt so much, you'll still remember, but the pain won't be as severe. Everyone goes through this at some stage. As Jack says, we're here when it gets too much.

Lynda.