I feel like I don't have any real friends

[flow_boy]

Hi, this is my first time posting. I am 17 and currently in year 12. I would say I'm an introverted person who gets anxious when meeting new people but I have been able to develop a group of friends over my time at high school.

However, for the past couple of years I feel like my group of friends have started to shift away from me. They still act like they include me but they tend not care how I feel even though in my opinion I have been a good friend.

Not that I am constantly checking social media to see what people are doing but often I see my 'friends' out together doing something and they do not even consider to invite me. I know this because they will tell me about their outing while I'm on the train with them the next day going to school and they seem not to care.

I feel like I am losing my friends and I don't know if it's me or I should try to find new friends but I find it difficult to make lasting friendships. I am in multiple sports teams and get on well with those people but besides training and games I do hang out with them.

I feel lonely a lot of the time and don't know if it is my fault or not. I often question what I am doing and if I need to change. I feel invisible.

[Chloe_M]

Hello Flow Boy, and welcome to BB! First time posting can be scary, am glad you have the confidence to post, many would not.

High school is a scary place... You need friends to get through it. I am glad that you have a group you can hang with comfortably.

There Is nothing wrong with being an introvert, this is coming from one herself.

How many years ago do you think they started to drift away from you? If you think you have been a good friend, I'd say you have been.

Its good that you are not constantly on social, checking up on them. I don't have social media, I dont post on blogs or other forums, I am only here because I need help and I like to help others. I think that if you were to be always following what they do on social would be unhealthy and make it even worse for you.

Maybe (if you are brave enough and if you feel comfortable- don't feel pressured by me to do anothing I suggest okay?) you could suggest doing something with the. Like maybe you plan it and invite who you want. I don't know is just a thought.

maybe also next sports training session you could talk to some of the guys on the team and try get to know them better. And I don't think it's your fault. It doesn't seem like you have done anything to bring this upon you.

There is another girl on here having similar problems to you, her name is mg24 and her thread is "I feel alone and I don't like the life I have". You might want to pop in there, you guys might get along, after all me you and her are similar ages.

stay strong and be kind to yourself,

chloe x

[Chloe_M]

Oh would also like to add that you are not invisible. If you were invisible I would not have come to help you in your thread tonight.

Don't change Cor those 'friends'. Change for yourself, but don't change to suit someone else's needs or expectations.

Take care x