Hi everyone,
So this question has been coming up A LOT and I totally totally get it and I thought it might be helpful to make a thread about it.
This is for people who
- are scared of opening up and not sure if they want to do it yet
- want to open up for the first time
- have opened up and want to share their story
For me, opening up was not easy. My parent's never really got it and sadly still kinda don't - I think they're one of those generations that's like 'you're coping fine' (when I wasn't), 'you don't need to see anyone', 'it's not that bad' or 'just smile and don't worry'.
I know that I'm not alone in this and if this is what's happening to you that's okay too. I like to think they mean well but they're old foggies and when you're struggling there's no shame in reaching out for help.
Anywho, here are some things that I can think of that might be helpful
- Find someone that you trust. This might be your parents, maybe a friend or a school counsellor. For me a teacher who I liked was a good step. It doesn't matter who it is - it's good to be able to let things out with someone who does care about you.
- If you're afraid of what they might say, that's okay. It's scary. But it's also worth it. You might want to practice it first, write a letter or have someone join you. You could even text or do a PM if that's easier. I also like to open up slowly and see how they react - that way I know whether or not I can trust them with the bigger stuff.
- Let them know what you need from them. Do you want them to understand, be patient, help you see a therapist? Give you a bit of slack when you don't feel like talking? People like to know how they can help.
- Give them time. If you look a-okay it can be a lot to process that you're not okay! It's normal for people to react in different ways and that's on them and not on you.
If someone doesn't respond how you'd like them too, then don't give up. People do care (especially us).
I hope this is helpful! Feel free to add to the convo if you'd like to.
