Hi Savann, welcome
Good support from VoxAmino there, thankyou.
It is a very hard situation because although you have rights even as young as 18 to begin your journey of your own lifestyle of your choice, you have this emotional dependency from these great family members that frankly, don't have the empathy towards your needs and situation. That doesn't mean they lack love and care, just empathy. You are the "soft touch" and the easiest to draw assistance from.
We often over react in these situations. Get angry, have arguments etc. What you need to do if and when you are financially able, is to do the adult thing. Sit down and explain that your life is no longer going to include so much input into their well being, that you are not responsible for so much time spent on them and that you are sure that when they were young like you that they had a social life and met others your age.
You are not there carer. That is important. Some older citizens aren't capable of remaining in society health wise and that often means its time to enter an aged care facility. That sounds cruel but if they don't do that then it means someone, in this case yourself, has to care for them and that isn't fair. It is very different if a middle aged person volunteers to do this. Not a 21 yo unless its limited and you can balance a social life.
My suggestion extends to breaking the news that you have decided to move out. Reassure them that you will be dropping in regularly (but in fact it could be less regular than they expect) and when they cry foul that they wont have the help they need explain to them that other grandchildren can lift their game and drop in more often and stay a few hours.
This tack takes determination, calm, mature and relaxed approach. If you go through that process and they complain you can always say that you tried to do the right thing with the right approach.
I hope I've helped. This following thread explains it a bit.
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Topic: who cares for the carer- beyondblue
Tony WK
