Hello..

[chino4]

My brain is going at 100 miles an hour and I'm overthinking every little thing. I've liked this girl for a while and she doesn't like me back. As stupid as it sounds it's making me feel horrible, I can't sleep, I'm not eating properly, I'm feeling hopeless and feeling like I'll never get over this. It feels like I've hit rock bottom and that there is no way up from here unless this works out. I don't know what to do. I feel sick.

[Warhorse]

Hi Chino,

I've been there. It is awful. It does feel hopeless.

All I can say is that I began to feel better after a while.

Think about the things that make you feel good. There are other things apart from the girl which will make you feel good, even if it just a McDonalds chocolate sundae, a song, rain on your tongue or sunshine on your back...there will be something.

I was taught a trick to slow my mind down when I was at my most anxious. If your mind has to concentrate on one thing for a short time it forces it to slow down.

The Five Senses -

Concentrate on one sense at a time for around 20 seconds or so.

Something you can hear - could be the sound of your breathing

Something you can taste - could be that after taste from toothpaste

Something you can touch - Could be the feel of your jeans on your leg

Something you can smell - Could be your deodorant

Something you can see - Could be your fingernail

I hope this helps.

[Narniakid]

Hey chino4, welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out to us.

I am sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I have been where you are and it is so frustrating and physically draining feeling things for someone, whether or not they feel them back. Unfortunately, we cannot force someone to feel something that they don't, so the only way to get over someone is to let ourselves be upset for a while, then pick ourselves up and move on to better things.

I encourage you to practice mindfulness. Take deep breaths and focus on the moment. Be present, concentrate on the sunlight on your skin, the taste of the food you're eating, the texture of your clothes.

The other thing I suggest is keeping yourself busy. Have a few hobbies you can escape to, and make sure you look after yourself - eat well, get enough sleep etc. You'd be surprised what small differences like that can make to your mood.

Crystal

[DanThaman]

Hey Chino4,

I think i experienced a similar situation to you not long ago.

To put a long story short, i was super introverted and am only now, at 22, just beginning to open up a bit, become more comfortable with myself and being around other people in social situations.

I met a girl who made me realize that i didn't have to be the way i was and was kind of the 'stepping stone' or catalyst that began to make me a better person. Because i was so introverted, just being accepted felt really nice and so i wrote her a note explaining how she had helped me through a tough time and that i thanked her for helping me.

In the end she thanked me for opening up to her, but i think i came across as being weird or clingy, and so she fell out of my life. Im sure its more complex, but i could understand the whole situation, and i think thats key.

It had been a long time since anyone had made me feel comfortable and open up to me, so when she left, i felt heartbroken in a way without even being anything to this girl. Maybe thats a bit how you feel? I know its hard, but its reality and you just have to accept it. There are plenty more good people out there.

It sucks, but try and stay strong. You have to come to an agreement with yourself and just let it go.

Anyway, keep doing your thing and the pieces will fall into place.