Hearing impaired

[Melina]

Hey my name is Melina I get bullied alot in high school I can't get a boyfriend cause the moment I tell them I've got a disability they just laugh at me can some people help me on what I should do?

[white knight]

Hi Melina, welcome to Beyond Blue forums.

Firstly, bullying. I'm 58yo and I was bullied in two motoring clubs and responded differently both times. The first time the person sent a private message through a forum telling me to "go back tot he doctor and seek more medication you loony".  What I did was inform the committee and expected some action. No action came. Their response was - "it's a storm in a tea cup"

The second occasion was similar. Through Facebook the message was "go to your doctor and get more meds". This time I waited a couple of weeks then drove 3 hours to a car club meeting and fronted the coward face to face. The result? I was frowned upon by many friends because I disrupted a car show,.

So with those two examples what is my advice now?  Ignore them. If you have them on social media - delete them. Then the most important thing - forget about them. Because this wont be the last time this behaviour confronts you and you have the choice whether to respond or not. Get used to it and accept that there are low life people out there that want to hurt you.

I would be reserved about telling boys you have a disability. Until you know them well there is no purpose. 80% of adults are naive towards mental illness. Worse still they are judgemental about it. Once you know them really well you can then ask them if there are any illnesses he has had in his life or if he carries an illness now. If he says yes and tells you then you can tell him, if he is mature enough to care for you. And that is the trick here.....choose mature boys even much older than you because guys your own age are a problem with this issue.

Use search above to seek the following threads that can help you-

Bullying

What is your defence?

Wit - the only answer for torment

Depression and toxic people

Depression and sensitivity - a connection?

So what are their mental illnesses

The "gang" mentality

Ostracised - who's fault is it?

Words are stick and stones

The definition of abuse - what is it?

lots of reading but most will answer your questions.  Feel free to repost.  Regards

Tony WK

[truebloodlover]

Hi Melina, Im Alana 🙂

And it sounds to me that you literally go through the same thing as me, (hearing impairment). And I think that its safe to say that people in school are incredibly scary and rude. Due to my hearing impairment, I have a lisp (I cant pronounce everything correctly if you didn't know what that meant) and people have been always mean towards me because of it and it has made me feel really insecure around boys. And to answer your question on what you an do, well im trying to figure it out myself but I do know that your can forget about the mean boys and wait for one who is mature and deserving of your attention to come around. (I know, sounds corny, but its true! Don't ever feel as if you aren't good enough for you other people because of your disability, it just makes you unique (yes again, corny :p). And trust me, one day, you'll leave high school and enter reality. Where you will hopefully get the respect you deserve. If the bullying continues, tell a teacher or talk to somebody(a family member, close friend or maybe a school counsellor) and you always have beyond blue to message or call, and me! 🙂  I hope this did help a little.

Sincerely, Alana.